Kinja reply list

Read More
Jane-Luc PicardJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/08/18 8:27pm
Gurl. I’ve been seriously thinking about this issue - not this episode - as I sift through some poor choices a la Carrie moving to a city she didn’t love for a man she didn’t really... Ugh.
And also aspire to be age inappropriate. I think I need to rewatch the Alex story ark and really think about choices. Like... I should choose me, single, in my city, even if it means leaving the love of my life. Because living my fucking truth is more important? I need HELP ladies.
Watch this space, I suspect a plea for advice in a future Saturday Night Social. I’m seriously stuck.
Reply
- Read More
  ladallianceJane-Luc Picard
  6/08/18 9:34pm
  If it’s really maybe the love of your life, probably just go for it, if you won’t be crushing yourself financially. Moving isn’t actually a huge deal?
  People TREAT it like a huge deal so I guess this is a niche perspective. (My family moved a lot growing up and I still go wherever my best opportunities are and it’s whatever). I understand it must feel really different if you’ve lived the same place your whole life— but all the more reason to shake it off, IMO. If you truly have deep roots somewhere you can always move back.
  Reply
- Read More
  sauvageJane-Luc Picard
  6/09/18 2:14am
  I’m pretty damn radical about this: One of the hallmarks of the love of one’s life is them supporting one’s fucking truth. Anything less won’t do.
  Reply
Read More
rat in a cageJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/09/18 2:31am
I’m closer to 50 than 40 and while I yearn to find a partner, I’m pretty ‘settled’ in my single ways - and I relish it. And while I am definitely feeling my age (I don’t have as much energy, I need more downtime and need to practice more conscious self-care) I still manage to make it out; I am just much more selective.
I am lucky enough to be able to afford those choices, modestly. I traveled this weekend, alone, to another iconic West Coast City primarily to see a favorite DJ who is only touring 7 cities in the US and will be a part of a larger Art.Music.Tech. event. I’ve also been playing tourist too in a way I would have disdained in my youth as being too middle brow.

I guess I am that aging rager but in a mature middle-aged bougie way :)
Reply
- Read More
  rat in a cagerat in a cage
  6/09/18 1:04pm
  Also, I realized in my 20's that I really like to do things when I want to do them and do them in my way, and that I like a lot of alone time so having a person full time in my life is sometimes not easy for me.
  Reply
- Read More
  Slay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)rat in a cage
  6/09/18 4:07pm
  what DJ? :)
  Reply
Read More
lauraJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/08/18 9:08pm
40 is middle aged? Excuse me while I spiral into a crisis upon hearing this.
Reply
- Read More
  helgaperezlaura
  6/09/18 12:09am
  Middle aged is always 10 years older than you are right now. No matter what age you are right now.
  Reply
- Read More
  GoldenGirlsGirlhelgaperez
  6/09/18 8:40am
  I just expressed this sentiment to my 40-something colleagues when they responded to my comment about middle age with, “but we’re middle aged now.” I said, “now that we’re in our 40s, middle age is 50s.”
  Reply
Read More
intothesunsetJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/09/18 11:05am
I think there is a bigger conversation here worthy of being had on why fun is singularly equated with drinking and partying. I’m just starting to question all the things we label as “cool” considering so many of them are masculine. Binge drinking was once the domain of men, now women have “caught up.” Woo hoo? I think it’s more just a question of why is that considered a cool form of having “fun” versus drinking tea with your girlfriends, going for a hike, playing dress up with your kid, racing shopping carts through a grocery store. I remember before my sister had kids, she and her husband who used to be cultured, well-to-do foodies in Chicago, said: “There are only so many chic new restaurants you can go to before the food all tastes the same.” Doing the same thing repeatedly all the time - especially those culturally earmarked as hip and “fun” - it’s kind of the same after awhile. Maybe the idea is there is a bigger world of “fun” out there, and as you get older you aren’t as beholden to these cultural norms.
Reply
- Read More
  IllHaveWhatShesHavingintothesunset
  6/09/18 6:10pm
  Yes! Also, I always thought that the Lexi Featherstone storyline (short as it was) was more about having something in your life other than the party scene. In that episode, she is not surrounded by a group of supportive friends, she is alone. Not “without a man” alone, but all alone, having failed to form ANY type of meaningful relationship, and with the party scene now passing her by.
  I have a friend who is now in her early 60s. I suspect she was part of that high brow party scene when she was younger. Now, she still has an active social life, but her parties are galas, fundraisers and garden parties in the Hamptons. She has embraced every stage of her life and has formed close friendships that have taken her through those stages. At 62, she is one of the happiest and “youngest” people I know. I have never seen her intoxicated.
  Reply
- Read More
  intothesunsetIllHaveWhatShesHaving
  6/09/18 8:15pm
  Yes yes yes! That is such a brilliant assessment! It’s so true. She’s actively off-putting to people to push them away because they aren’t into her narrowly define definition of cool and fun. I’m sure I enjoyed her character the first time I watched the series, and now I’m amused with her, but she isn’t an emblem of anything I wish to be - and not because she “parties.” I love the idea of your fun and social life being about fulfilling relationships - whether that is over swank champagne in a club, fancy wine in a chic restaurant, or tea with your ladies in the garden.
  Reply
Read More
accesskathrynJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/09/18 2:17am
“Splat” was part of SATC’s final season, and its mythical status is well-tread.
Well-TRODDEN. Tread, trod, trodden. Aarrgghh!!!!
Reply
Read More
Rania Youssef’s Risque DressJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/08/18 7:30pm
Of all the characters on this show that I used to hate watch with my mum when I was teenager and quite a way off from having sex myself, Lexi was pretty much the only one I didn’t hate/who didn’t make me want to throw the tv into the pool. Now, as a 30 year old party girl, I think I understand why; “dying of boredom” is one of my biggest fears. I’m single, I work my ass off, I have a career that I love working with people I love, I live alone in a nice house and I can basically do what I want, when I want, and how I want. I refuse to be age shamed for leaving the club when the sun is up and partying on at the house of someone I made friends with in line for the bathroom a few hours earlier. You can prise the Club Mate from my cold, dead hands.
Reply
Read More
actuallythisisjustmeJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/09/18 6:01am
SATC makes me uncomfortable, especially as a parent, and it is not because it upsets clichés, it is because it reinforces them (do not even get me started about the movies).
It is not just that these women keep making the worst decisions possible, it is that to me they are adults trapped in the minds of high schoolers.
Reply
Read More
JustamamaJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/09/18 10:02am
41 year old professional married mother of two who still wants to have fun. Most of my friends think they have to be either serious or June Cleaver and worry all the time about what people think. That’s a problem of aging in our society. People worry more about what their lives should look like than about actually living them.
Reply
Read More
outerspaceexplorerJulianne Escobedo Shepherd
6/08/18 10:35pm
“Lexi, who seems like an extremely fun person to hang out with...”
Umm, we have very different ideas of what “extremely fun person” looks like. I thought she was AWFUL.
Reply