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    hocuspocusoctopusMonique Judge
    1/29/18 10:24pm

    the key is the clitoris.

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    Also, lubrication. People downplay this and omg get some lube. Flavored, if you want. Shout out to the ladies at that woman owned boutique that strongly recommended the green apple Sliquid and y’all are welcome.

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      "Hachi"hocuspocusoctopus
      1/30/18 8:15am

      I just came to see another woman in this thread cuz there are a lot of men up in this bitch. Not that i dont love yall but what the fuck lol

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      acorn"Hachi"
      1/30/18 9:18am

      It’s like some sort of bat signal. Never, ever fails.

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    StartingOverEasyMonique Judge
    1/29/18 10:52pm

    Eh, I don’t orgasm, as in never. Not ever. I love sex & have a fairly high drive, but no big “O” for me. Doesn’t bother me anymore. Of course I tried to find my orgasm when I was younger, but the search actually reduced my enjoyment. I called off the search! They certainly can be elusive for some of us.

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      Not Enough Day DrinkingStartingOverEasy
      1/29/18 11:22pm

      Have you ever spoken to a doctor about it? That’s a recognized medical condition called orgasmic dysfunction. It’s broken down into several categories, and if you’ve never had an orgasm ever it’s called primary orgasmic dysfunction.

      https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3411116/

      I don’t know if there are any treatments that might help you, but knowing what to call the problem might you help you look for solutions if you’re interested.

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      StartingOverEasyNot Enough Day Drinking
      1/29/18 11:28pm

      I could see the point if I didn’t enjoy sex, but I do. There is nothing to be gained from looking at my body as broken & in need of fixing.

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    Not Enough Day DrinkingMonique Judge
    1/29/18 10:29pm
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    This whole article is #fakenews.

    But seriously...I never understood the squirting thing. What’s supposed to be sexy about someone who pees on your bed? That’s generally frowned upon behavior.

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      Political Science isn't Rocket Science - Except when it isNot Enough Day Drinking
      1/29/18 10:51pm

      I think for guys its the illusion they can make this “uncontrollable” event happen. For women I dunno.

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      Mercenary ChefNot Enough Day Drinking
      1/29/18 11:36pm

      Probably the, “I made her feel so good she lost control of all her faculties.” Sense of pride. I don’t quite understand the real draw of it, but Lady Merc and I discussed it for a while the last time it happened. She used the words ‘strangely, and confusingly intense’ I believe.

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    Dinosaurs and Nachos, Very Legal and Very Cool!Monique Judge
    1/30/18 7:56am

    So the G spot doesn’t exist.....but there’s a trigger zone in the vagina?

    THAT’S WHAT A G SPOT IS.

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      YeahMaybe, it could be detritusDinosaurs and Nachos, Very Legal and Very Cool!
      1/30/18 1:15pm

      Yeah... this expert seems to be saying a lot of things as fact that tmk aren’t definitely decided.

      Female ejaculate is not urine, for example. And then the gspot stuff. And ‘technically’ both orgasms are the same, they may feel different, but the activation of the nervous system is identical.

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      HeathMaidenYeahMaybe, it could be detritus
      1/30/18 10:50pm

      They may technically be the same, but I do find the vaginally stimulated orgasms are usually MUCH more satisfying than the externally stimulated ones, from both masturbation and intercourse.

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    EvenBaggierTrousers7Monique Judge
    1/29/18 10:56pm

    Yup, discovering the abilities of the clitoris was a revelation. It didn’t turn me into Rudy Valentino but it did help bring us both closer to mutual enjoyment.

    And also important was finding out that women respond differently to that kind of stimulation (yeah, that was a thing I had to learn.) Some responded faster, some much slower, some more intense, some subtly. But it’s important to know. It makes everything much better when both enjoy it.

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      Dosadi's failed experimentEvenBaggierTrousers7
      1/30/18 9:55pm

      You get a star for understanding that all women are different in how they are stimulated and achieve orgasm.

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    "Hachi"Monique Judge
    1/30/18 8:16am

    Im here to advocate for pussy exploration. Women, get to know your pussy in and out! The more you know!

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    smoke&waterMonique Judge
    1/30/18 2:44am

    I’m literally the luckiest man on planet earth. My wife is super easy to bring to orgasm. Missionary, doggy-style, oral or by hand. She takes about 10 minutes to get there and then another 5 to 10 for a second one. If we use a vibrator then 5 minutes tops for each one. Strangely she can’t get there if she’s on top at all. Not that we haven’t tried, it just doesn’t work for her. I’m expecting that things will get less easy as we get older, but we’re in our forties and still she’s like clockwork. It’s like being married to a unicorn.

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      Neo Haibane Renmeismoke&water
      1/30/18 3:09am

      Great share!

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    Cali4lifeMonique Judge
    1/30/18 1:17am

    I listened to a great podcast that covered female orgasms and spoke to the assistant researcher who actually found the so-called ‘Grafenberg spot”.

    She discovered but because Dr. Grafenburg was in charge, as things were in those days, when they tried to think up a name, they just settled on his name, as per protocol in those days.

    She’s still alive and her further research showed that the word “spot” was incorrect in that, in her words, the entire inside could rightly be considered the “spot”, though certainly some women are more sensitive in one area vs. another. She was a fascinating person. I loved the story - sorry I’m too lazy and into this netflix Finnish series to look it up.

    *also, clearly I’m paraphrasing above so..

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    skefflesMonique Judge
    1/30/18 8:44am

    I find orgasms easy to achieve with a battery powered toy, but unfortunately they are elusive when a man gets involved. That is probably a metaphor for life.

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      ZemarSea-Urchinskeffles
      1/30/18 9:46am

      Use the toy and the man. There are toys for couple use (like a penis ring with a vibrator for your clitoris - YAY).

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    Neo Haibane RenmeiMonique Judge
    1/29/18 10:46pm

    My girl and I talk...extensively and study and try tings to figure out how best to satisfy her first and then work it into a couples things.

    Despite her annoyance at my admittedly long ass never ending lecture and analytical approach to stuff she felt was impossible, she is now experiencing “mythological” orgasms she didmt believe were possible and that women were jist faking for men.

    The point is, communicate and explore, dont get or be discouraged, dont be ashamed.

    Orgasms are just waiting to be had. Good luck people!

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      Lady MercNeo Haibane Renmei
      1/30/18 12:33am

      Agreed. Nothing happens without communication. Guys aren’t mind readers, ladies, we gotta tell them what feels good and whay does nothing for us! Also, not being afraid to try new things helps.

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