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    ReyWilMonique Judge
    8/07/17 6:41pm

    Damn, as someone who has been all 3 characters of this show. This article has hit a little too close to home for my comfort but I thank you regardless. But you didn’t address the people who know they are getting with a dog and the dog tells them they’re a dog and they think that they can change the dog and then when the dog bites them they act like a victim because that that damn dog bit them just as he said he would.

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      Monique JudgeReyWil
      8/07/17 9:29pm

      I have been Tasha, too. I have been the girl who knows the man isn’t shit, but lets him in anyway. I have been the woman who knows he doesn’t want a real relationship with me, but I give him all the benefits of a relationship anyway in hopes that he will recognize the good woman in front of him and pick me.

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    Christian FappenbergMonique Judge
    8/08/17 12:46pm

    I’ve been Lawrence (except worse because our relationship ended thanks to my misdeeds) in a situaitonship with a rebound and I really regret wasting all that time. The worst part is that it was a series of girls I acted like that to.

    I could have sorted through my feelings while not wasted anyone else’s time and without being such a tremendous jerk (I was my worst self without even trying).

    It’s weird to see it being played out on television knowing what a terrible person I was.

    I’ve managed to shake all those bad vibes off and get in a happy relationship and I’m going to get married soon (you learn a lot about being a good spouse by being in relationships that you made awful apparently) and thinking about how happy I am makes me feel even worse.

    • I don’t deserve this.
    • I was a terrible person to every girl I came across before I met my fiance.
    • it could have always been like this if I decided to commit like I did this last time.

    Idk why I posted this, I guess Insecure is just super relatable.

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      Monique JudgeChristian Fappenberg
      8/08/17 2:18pm

      This was so honest, and it’s the discussion I’ve been looking to have on Twitter, but the dudes over there just want to accuse me of being an angry, hurt man hater. So thank you.

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    Dead_Elvis, Inc.Monique Judge
    8/07/17 6:52pm

    Mr. Right Here and Now was filling up a space

    ISWYDT

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      Monique JudgeDead_Elvis, Inc.
      8/07/17 9:24pm

      You know, I thought about this as I was typing it, but then I said “Fuck it.”

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      Dead_Elvis, Inc.Monique Judge
      8/07/17 10:33pm

      see my previous comment ;-)

      (ETA: I’m glad I saw the original post, since I had no idea Insecure was back! Loved Season 1.)

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    Not Enough Day DrinkingMonique Judge
    8/07/17 5:50pm

    Mr. Right Here and Now found my journal and read it.

    I mean it’s obviously not cool that he read it without permission, but there’s some shit that don’t need to be written down. It’s like video taping your own crime spree...nothing good is coming from that.

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      Monique JudgeNot Enough Day Drinking
      8/07/17 5:54pm

      STOP JUDGING ME GOT DAMMIT.

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      Not Enough Day DrinkingMonique Judge
      8/07/17 5:57pm

      We’ve all done things we aren’t proud of. All I’m saying is when you doing things on downlow, you don’t need to be keeping your own receipts.

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    Flamingo83Monique Judge
    8/07/17 6:50pm

    I love how they’re tackling a woman cheating and not getting into scarlet letter territory or making her boyfriend awful to justify the cheating. It’s sad that 90% of the time it’s boredom driving the cheating.

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      Rooo sez BISH PLZFlamingo83
      8/07/17 7:48pm

      We’re supposed to give all the men a pass while women are excoriated.

      Especially in communities of color (not that you don’t know that).

      Not here for it.

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    EvenBaggierTrousers7Monique Judge
    8/07/17 5:58pm

    Having just binged the entire series (so far) today while working from home, the things said in this article?...

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      hiyoarizonaEvenBaggierTrousers7
      8/07/17 6:15pm

      Was it worth it? The people on this site talk like its the best show out I stopped after 20 minutes of the first episode. Maybe I just stopped too soon.

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      DariasfriendJodiehiyoarizona
      8/07/17 6:19pm

      Yeah, maybe you did.

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    TypicalBayAreaFanMonique Judge
    8/08/17 11:12am

    My current girlfriend and I were Tasha and Lawrence when we first started dating. I had just gotten out of a Lawrence/Issa relationship and was just looking for right now. In the end, right now turned into tomorrow, tomorrow turned into next Tuesday, now we live together. It’s funny how shit works out.

    I remember watching the premier a couple weeks ago and the whole time I just thought, holy shit, we are them. In Ep 3 when Tasha *SPOILER* told Lawrence off, I couldn’t help but think about how my girlfriend could have done the same thing had she wanted to. She stuck it out and waited for me to figure out my shit. Thankfully I wasn’t being a fuck boy that whole time, because she put up with a lot.

    Can’t wait to see where this season goes.

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    StartingOverAgainMonique Judge
    8/07/17 7:04pm

    The long distance thing is hard.

    My wife and I did it for a year and a half after dating for 3 years for school related reasons as well, in the era when cell phone minutes were expensive and texting wasn’t a thing. We both had to crush some attractions we had with other people over that stretch. It’s natural to wind up attracted to other people in that circumstance, but it’s basically impossible to talk about with anyone in a productive fashion.

    I think what saved me from slipping was the fact that I had a handful of good male and probably even more importantly female friends who liked my then girlfriend and I individually but also as an “item”.

    I knew myself well enough to know that if I had made a connection with a woman who looked at me only as me, instead of as being connected to my girlfriend who they cared about in a direct, personal way as well ... it would have been tough to avoid sliding down that slope once we got a few months in to living apart.

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    wyldeflowerMonique Judge
    8/07/17 7:22pm

    Things came to a head when Mr. Right Here and Now found my journal and read it.

    Oh hell no. Mr. Right Here and Now instantly turns into Mr. Kicked to the Curb the moment I found out. No explanations necessary.

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    heyheynoMonique Judge
    8/07/17 6:39pm

    Now I do a good job of not falling for the Lawerence types. I haven’t really been a Issa or Tasha in years either. All this good filtering and still single go me.

    : (

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