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    Rooo sez BISH PLZThe Root Staff
    3/04/17 5:07pm

     

    Before we get to the author’s presumably well-meaning advice (irony?), I have a preliminary inquiry:

    What makes Author think any of us are/were doing any of that in the first place …?

    My F&F (friends & fam) know way better than to come with that nonsense, after a well-meaning “friend” once tried to present me with a “gift copy” (mm-hmm #ReGifting) of a thing penned by a huckster who was on his third wife (and you all well-read people already know which one of those I mean) who then found himself ducking as it went whizzing back past his right ear.

    ‘Cause that selfsame huckster is this guy

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    (Yes, the one on the facing right - though I’ll give points for anybody who was confusedly asking self “The huckster with the third wife?” #jhyeah)

    Miss me with the “you need to / you should” advice aimed at gaslighting me & mine into tolerating & bearing up under what are actually someone else’s problems ...particularly when Someone Else is making no demonstrable effort whatsoever to change or improve.

    “The worst vice is advice.” - Al Pacino as John Milton/Satan, The Devil’s Advocate

    #QuiBono 

     

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      Hoyo AfrikaRooo sez BISH PLZ
      3/05/17 4:54pm

      He always looks like that one uncle that dates fat white women.

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      Rooo sez BISH PLZHoyo Afrika
      3/05/17 5:43pm

      lol your username ;-)

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    jay_dub1The Root Staff
    3/05/17 6:58pm

    When we/I say men cheat because “women allow us to” it’s not that we’re taking the onus off men. I agree that it speaks to the man’s moral failings, his lack of character and/or self-control and his dishonesty. What we’re saying is, a lot of men cheat because, in many instances, the wife or significant other accepts the cheating and continues within the relationship. A lot of women do not express to men what they will and won’t put up with and, when they do, some still allow that dishonest,immoral,character-lacking man convince them to take them back, again and again.

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      hamwinkyjay_dub1
      3/06/17 11:17am

      the first cheat though, the first time is what we’re talking about.

      they did it ‘cause they wanted to.

      regardless of gender or sex, people cheat cause they wanna. it’s nobody’s “fault.”

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