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    Paranoid Android (sometimes says dumb things)Rachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:37pm

    Jezzies,

    My coffee maker just stopped working! I bought a Mr. Coffee 12 cup drip 4 months ago on sale at Target and it just died. It worked this morning. I’m devastated.

    I’m freaking out. I want my coffee. I do have a coffee press but not the right type of grounds. I can’t get a replacement until tomorrow, at the earliest. It’s still under warranty so the folks at Mr. Coffee should expect hysterical sobbing first thing in the morning.

    How’s everybody else doing?

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      Cocopop!Paranoid Android (sometimes says dumb things)
      7/04/16 7:42pm

      I’m doing better than that. Damn. I love my Hamilton Beach 12 Cup Programmable. I should probably marry it. We’ve been together for three years.

      I hope you learn to love again.

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      WallflowerParanoid Android (sometimes says dumb things)
      7/04/16 7:42pm

      The last coffee maker I bought from target died after a few months. I think it was a Black and Decker though. I think I spent $12 on it so I didn't bother with the warrenty.

      I’m having muscle spasms in my neck so I have muscle relaxers and I’m watching tv on the couch with my dogs so I’m good!

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    Ladyheatherlee 2016 EditionRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:29pm

    While you are all celebrating, I had a brutally frustrating appointment with my family doc re: my kid. He doesn’t seem to trust our psychologist’s diagnosis. But he also has never even heard of selective mutism. I want to get her on Prozac. He’s referring me to pediatrician. There is no child psychiatrist. Well there is one, but she only comes up from Vancouver every once in a while and only sees patients who are under school age. Which...I don’t even understand. Hopefully the pediatrician has heard of it and will help us.

    I should be looking forward to family coming to visit, but all I can think is that if we don’t get her talking soon she’ll be silent for freaking Christmas. Bah. I hate anxiety. And I hate that I passed it on with my genetics.

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      Cocopop!Ladyheatherlee 2016 Edition
      7/04/16 7:38pm

      That sounds extremely frustrating. Hopefully the pediatrician will know what’s up.

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      MayotonillaLadyheatherlee 2016 Edition
      7/04/16 7:39pm

      I was wondering if my niece has selective mutism. She’s 5. She started speaking late. Once she started speaking she pronounced some words in a different war (she skips the r’s some times). And she never repeats when asked to. She lives in a Spanish speaking country and speaks only Spanish. I was visiting her family this weekend. She heard me speak English and she had never heard English before. She was very curious. I explained (as best as I could) that English is a different language. I offered to teach her. She seemed interested so I said. I can teach you to say Hola in English which is Hello. Can you say that? She looks very uncomfortable when someone asks her to say a word or repeat something. I don’t know what that is about.

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    breakfastattiffanysgirlRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 8:32pm

    Hey Jezzies, how did y’all dress yourself after getting your first “grown up” job? I just survived my first week and want to splurge on some new dress pants, because they’re going to be super necessary for the new job but I’ve realized I have no idea how to dress like a grown up person with a real job. My last job was with 5 year olds and I wore jeans all the time.

    The new job is at in an office but I work with getting funding for our organization so I go out and talk to people who made decisions concerning this all the time, so jeans aren’t going to work. Suggestions for how to start? Or where to look? I’m not rolling in cash and haven’t gotten my first paycheck yet.

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      JuneBugbreakfastattiffanysgirl
      7/04/16 8:53pm

      Clearance racks at department stores? If you’re not in “special sizes” (like plus or tall or petite) you might be able to find decent stuff at second-hand stores in the more affluent parts of town. Or maybe consignment shops. The only reason I make the special sizes comment is that I have such a hard time finding stuff that works (I am both plus and tall).

      As far as what to get, basic black pants are probably the most versatile. I don’t know what climate you’re in, but I wear my dress pants year-round (humid summers and 0°-30° winters) and mix in dresses/skirts occasionally. My shoes change with the seasons more than the rest of my wardrobe. Since you’re asking for money from people, I’d think you want to err on the conservative side WRT dressing. A well-fitting pair of pants, a printed shell, solid cardigan, and tasteful necklace would be good. You could also get some inspiration from Pintrest for styles you like. I’m not a fashionista by any means nor do I visit clients (or donors in your case) in person. My $.02

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      thorinbagginsbreakfastattiffanysgirl
      7/04/16 8:54pm

      I got my first set of adult clothes from the thrift store.... specifically the hospital charity thrift store in the rich suburb I was working in. If there’s something like that around you, try there because you can get higher end brands that are still in good condition. I personally stick with grey or black pants, button downs and blazers because I like that look. If you are on a really tight budget right now, one good blazer can dress up any simple tops you already have. Good luck and congrats on the new job!

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    deerlady83Rachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:28pm

    My family had a cookout at the lake. It was nice. I swam with my cousins. It was the first holiday after my aunt’s death. It will get easier. My mom was talking to a friend and she said the first holidays are hard.

    Here is a picture of Hiro with devil horns looking super needy. He has resting sad face and he has no problem using it to get what he wants.

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      fondue processdeerlady83
      7/04/16 7:40pm

      I really, really want you to draw eyebrows on Hiro sometime.

      It... needs to happen.

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      PinkBunnyHatdeerlady83
      7/04/16 7:43pm

      Aww, what a cute kitty! My Milo uses his disapproving glare to get what he wants.

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    I'm Fart and I'm SmunnyRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:21pm

    I’m thinking of watching Captain America because I honestly can’t think of a more patriotic movie. Plus, Hayley Atwell.

    GIF
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      candy_pantsI'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      7/04/16 7:23pm

      Do it! She's so mesmerising in that. Still bummed Agent Carter got axed. Still hoping someone somewhere picks it up.

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      deerlady83I'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      7/04/16 7:24pm

      Do it!

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    Cocopop!Rachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:30pm

    I’m out of propane. I’ve got shrimp, corn, sausage, watermelon, potato salad, chips, salsa, avocados, limes, and stuff for s’mores.

    I’ve got fireworks, and I’ve got boozahol.

    Everything but propane. Goddamn.

    Whatcha all cookin’?

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      Ladyheatherlee 2016 EditionCocopop!
      7/04/16 7:33pm

      Oooo...this sucks.

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      Cocopop!Ladyheatherlee 2016 Edition
      7/04/16 7:35pm

      Mr. Coco is out getting propane. We’ll see.

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    Lady LyannaRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:51pm

    Not to be a total bummer on a holiday, but I need some divorce advice. Ladies (and gents) who have been through this, any words of wisdom would be helpful. How do you go about asking your significant other for a divorce? My husband is a very nice guy and he is never intentionally cruel or mean. He is immensely popular and my mother loves him. He’s very laid back. But we have zero sex life. Like, we haven’t had sex in two years (we’ve been married for three). We had trouble in this area before we got married and I would always bring it up after a long dry spell and we would talk about it, have sex, and then go back to celibacy. I gave up pressing the issue two years ago when he accused me of trying to “bully him into sex”. I have caught him masturbating a few times but the offer to finish the job for him never comes. I’m not sure if he’s in the closet or what, but he’s definitely not into me. We have no affection whatsoever in our marriage.

    Add that to the fact that he is the laziest godamn person I have ever met. He works, sure, but the second he gets home the suit comes off, his ass hits the couch, and there it stays. Meanwhile I cook dinner almost every night, do the laundry, clean the house, take care of the pets, work full time, and I’m a full time student. I’ve had numerous discussions with him about this and he never changes. His only “chore” was cutting the grass, and even now he pays someone to do that. I feel like a servant in my own home and I’m not even getting laid for my efforts.

    So I need some advice. I don’t want to hurt him too bad but I can’t take it anymore. I have a way out and a place to go and a plan but I don’t know how to actually do it. He’s proven time and time again that talking does nothing and he has no desire to change. Meanwhile I am on the verge of a complete mental collapse from staying in this relationship.

    Any words of advice? Thank you in advance to anyone who responds.

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      MarillenbaumLady Lyanna
      7/04/16 8:02pm

      I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know you describe him as a nice guy, but someone who makes you feel like a servant in your home? Someone who isn’t a partner in actually running your life? Someone who tries to make you feel like a bad person for wanting physical affection? That’s not that nice. I know you don’t want to hurt him, but he has been hurting you with this behavior for two years, and you have a right to not be hurt, too. You matter. I’m assuming you’ve talked to a lawyer; if you haven’t, do that now. They can help you figure out the logistics of what moving out would do to your rights and responsibilities re: your lease/mortgage. Then, rehearse what you want to say. Role-playing and fine-tuning your scripts is really important, especially if confrontation freaks you out. I would suggest checking out Captain Awkward for this; she has really good language for how to end a relationship. Then, once you do it, spend time with Team You: the people who are unequivocally on your side in this. Surround yourself with experiences and people that remind you that you are worth loving, and you deserve to be treated well.

      Hugs. I know this is hard, but as someone who grew up with divorced parents, I know from experience that sometimes the best thing for a marriage is to end it.

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      SurgeLady Lyanna
      7/04/16 8:06pm

      2 years is definitely a sign that something is intrinsically off in the marriage. I’m so sorry. It sounds like you do not have a partner, but a really annoying roommate. If you’ve brought up the issues before and haven’t seen the work from him, it’s totally appropriate to say you want a divorce. What if he asks for compromise, like couples’ therapy, etc.? How would you answer? Also, is sometimes easier to frame as a separation. Could be really helpful for you both to glimpse your lives without each other.

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    HavenRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 8:44pm

    I hate this holiday. It is loud and scary for some of us.

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      PumpkinSpiesHaven
      7/04/16 8:46pm

      POOR PUPPER. I hate the 4th, too. The cat is totally oblivious but I don’t like fireworks at all.

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      DorthyDandridgeEyesHaven
      7/04/16 9:17pm

      Mine is curled up under me shaking

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    paultoesRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:59pm

    Check out these best buddies:

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      goddessoftransitorypaultoes
      7/04/16 8:25pm

      Nothing looks happier than a smiling fox!

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      Akat101paultoes
      7/04/16 8:44pm

      Ohhhhhhh my goodness. Who are these sweet babies?? I need to go watch The Fox and the Hound and cry now.

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    imaginaryfriendRachel Vorona Cote
    7/04/16 7:28pm

    3 shitty tweets:

    and 1 beautiful one:

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      Akat101imaginaryfriend
      7/04/16 7:31pm

      Those tweets definitely needed a kitty/puppy love follow up to take the edge of WTF off.

      ETA: I’m not sure that sentence made sense. I’ve been drinking.

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      deerlady83imaginaryfriend
      7/04/16 7:35pm

      Did they adopted the cat?

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