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    thatsjustmyhairAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:08pm

    Oh how lovely. So when this kid is a teenager, Nana-mom is going to be in her 70s. Perfect.

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      AvaSilverthatsjustmyhair
      6/30/16 12:26pm

      My dad was 60s/70s when I was a teenager. He’s 83 now and I’m in my late 20s.

      People (especially white people who have all the commodities and healthcare) can live to older and older ages now.

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      Graceless but Graciousthatsjustmyhair
      6/30/16 12:44pm

      I have a friend who was a whoops when her mom was 55. I remember when we were 15, her mom would get pissed off and curse the heavens for late menopause.

      Not relevant. Just triggered a memory of a really pissed of old lady.

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    DrWhoSoccerStarAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:07pm

    I know it may seem odd for a mother to carry her daughter’s children, but if it is acceptable for sisters, cousins, or other family members to do the same thing then I don’t think it should be that big a deal. However, her being 60 brings up safety concerns.

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      JustSmileandNodDrWhoSoccerStar
      6/30/16 12:13pm

      For me, it’s more that it’s without clear consent from the daughter. Yes, I would think it was slightly weird for a daughter to ask a mom to be a surrogate simply because of the age issue, but this woman is dead and there’s no explicit proof that this is what she wanted. It feels more like the mom wanting a grandchild regardless of reality.

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      VeggieTartDrWhoSoccerStar
      6/30/16 12:14pm

      I was worried about how a 60-year-old woman would handle a pregnancy. And to your point about carrying someone else’s children, usually it’s for someone who is alive, like a woman who is unable to carry children having a relative carry the pregnancy but the infertile woman raises her own biokids.

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    rslwnAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:07pm

    ... hey, Mom, long time no talk. So, uh, in case you ever thought of bearing my child posthumously... don’t, please. Thanks! Love you!

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      jilliebellerslwn
      6/30/16 1:55pm

      I took a class called Assisted Reproductive Technologies and the Law and my mom got phone calls or text messages like that every Tuesday after class. Just, “Hey, in case anyone ever needs evidence of my intentions, you are not allowed to harvest my eggs from my dead body and then use them to have a grandchild. If you consider that, probably see a therapist, because it doesn’t sound like a super healthy way of mourning. K, bye.”

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      rslwnjilliebelle
      6/30/16 2:06pm

      Fun class! I think the closest thing we did in law school was a unit in Property addressing medical derivatives and a case (in maybe Contracts?) about parental rights in surrogacies. God knows there’s a lot of room for legal development in those areas...

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    randilynisFINDILYNAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:08pm

    Brothers and sisters I have naught (er) but this woman’s mother is my mother’s daughter.

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      The Noble RenardrandilynisFINDILYN
      6/30/16 12:10pm
      GIF

      All the stars!

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      TeamHulkrandilynisFINDILYN
      6/30/16 12:33pm

      Do people here understand this woman has no intention of carrying this baby? This bullshit lawyer excuse about the daughter wanting her mom to surrogate was all about gaining control over them. Once she has that she can stick em in another, younger surrogate.

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    BusPassTrollop curls up and diesAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:06pm
    Her daughter allegedly asked for her mother to “carry my babies,”
    GIF
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      BurnedOnTheEdgesBusPassTrollop curls up and dies
      6/30/16 12:21pm

      Boy, yeah, if I were dying, “who can fertilize my eggs after I’m dead?” would not in any way factor into the shit I’d be asking for.

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      YoSupBusPassTrollop curls up and dies
      6/30/16 12:29pm

      Based on interactions with my own mother, I’m guessing the conversation went something like this: “do you want to have your eggs implanted in my uterus after you die?”

      “What??”

      (Mother thinking to herself: “she didn’t say no!”)

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    candy_pantsAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:23pm

    Oy. Ok. Right.

    Just because you can medically do something, maybe it doesn't mean that you should.

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      TampaBeeAtch (misplaced witty subname)candy_pants
      6/30/16 2:07pm

      Right! I wanted to look for the Jeff Goldblum Jurassic Park gif of that but can’t right now.

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      VoteyMcVotefaceThePartyVoteDriverTampaBeeAtch (misplaced witty subname)
      6/30/16 2:10pm
      GIF

      I like to be helpful :)

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    SodburgerAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:09pm

    I don’t think the grandmother carrying the child is THAT weird, in and of itself. I am concerned about WHY she wants to have this child. Is the child going to always feel like a “replacement” for the deceased mom?

    Also, where’s the sperm coming from? The daughter’s husband, or the grandmother’s husband (who is the daughters father...?)

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      JadedMoonSodburger
      6/30/16 12:20pm

      They want to use donor sperm, which for some reason makes it even weirder I think.

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      wafflesfriendsworkSodburger
      6/30/16 12:21pm

      I know someone who was a surrogate mother for her daughter, so yeah, the biology part isn’t that squicky to me...

      but yeah, you’re right on the nose. This seems like an emotional minefield for the family.

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    Major Lazer Power BlazerAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:12pm

    i mean good for them i guess.it’s nice the husband will get a child

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      SprocheteMajor Lazer Power Blazer
      6/30/16 12:30pm

      The widower doesn’t want any part of it, and his sperm will not be used to fertilize the eggs.

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      Major Lazer Power BlazerSprochete
      6/30/16 12:36pm

      oh i read ‘and her husband’ as the daughters husband. yikes that changes my opinion of things a bit

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    StartingOverEasyAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:09pm

    Seriously, just let go. You are not owed grandchildren. Please don’t give birth to children & raise them & have them call you grandma because it is what you want to believe it is what your dead daughter wanted.

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      WenchworthStartingOverEasy
      6/30/16 12:42pm

      Yeah, you hit the nail on the head. People are not entitled to grandchildren or children! HONY posted some thing about a woman trying to adopt recently, and she so clearly felt she was entitled to the baby her body couldn’t produce. All the comments were like “WELL If people I don’t like who I think are bad can have kids then she’s owed a child too, especially cause no one wants those kids in the system!”. NOPE. No one is owed a child.

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    verapsAimée Lutkin
    6/30/16 12:24pm

    It’s happened before. Here’s another case where a 61 year-old was a surrogate for her living daughter, who couldn’t carry a viable pregnancy:

    http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/health/2...

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      candy_pantsveraps
      6/30/16 12:26pm

      I think few people would take any issue with a healthy woman being surrogate for their (living) daughter if the latter were unable to carry a child to term. The story above is really not the same thing.

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      verapscandy_pants
      6/30/16 12:32pm

      True, there are profound ethical issues with this case. However, most of the commentators here seem to be preoccupied with the age of the surrogate. That is apparently not a significant barrier.

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