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    AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:04pm

    Hi Jez friends! Happy SNS! This is your Brag Thread. Any grand accomplishments, big or small, you want to brag about but haven’t yet found an acceptable outlet in which to do so?

    I don’t have a brag this week, but since there’s a chance that Jezebel might not exist soon anyway, I’m gonna say fuck it and be a self-promoting asshole. Aimée, if you’re reading this, may I please be ungrayed here on the Jezebel main page? I want to enjoy my potentially-last bit of time here to the fullest extent. Also I post this thread every SNS and I would love to be able to pull other Jezzies out of the grays when they respond with brags of their own! Thank you!!!

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      GELLA - LLAPAntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJW
      5/28/16 7:09pm

      I think i slept for 10 hours

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      MargieBonzAntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJW
      5/28/16 7:11pm

      Love you!

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    MargieBonzAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:02pm

    Helloooooooo! What’s everyone drinking tonight? I am not drinking anything at this moment since I am trying to battle against having a panic attack. But as soon as I can breathe normal, I will have some La Marca.

    My thumb has been twitching all day and my hand feels kind of numb. Guess I need to get that checked out.

    This past week was super long and stressful. Work was ridiculous. I also had a dentist appointment on Tuesday, which included me breaking down in the chair because my dentist was being really firm and truthful about how I need to get my shit together in regards to my teeth. And he is married to my orthodontist, so I know when he says he is going to have to tell her the bad stuff (because it will affect my orthodontic treatment), he means it. Anyways, he was super nice after I lost it and let me calm down and then talked to me about the good things he is seeing. This week has been a lot of crying for me for various reasons. Honestly, I am ready to go ahead and cry for the night right now. Sorry I am such a bummer tonight.

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      mscoffeeMargieBonz
      5/28/16 7:05pm

      first rosé of the season over here!

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      Rubber Jeni TaliaMargieBonz
      5/28/16 7:06pm

      “What’s everyone drinking tonight?”

      Everything. All the booze. But at the moment 3.2 Bud Light because I live in Oklahoma and Walgreens had a coupon for “buy two 12 packs, get one free.”

      I may have taken 20 of them. Coupons, I mean.

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    PoodletimeAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:11pm

    [Please star so that everyone gets a chance to see this!]

    Hello Jezzies!

    After all of the talk this past week about Gawker Media being sold, or going under, I have set up an e-mail account anonymously where we can all meet up in the event things go pear-shaped here. I would hate to lose track of Squarr, George Jefferson, James, Tina and the countless others who have made my time here at SNS and in the comments section so enjoyable and enlightening.

    This is not a sophisticated, admin.-level operation that is designed to have all of the bells and whistles of Gawker, Jezebel, or even a reasonably-designed personal website or message board. I’m sure that if it comes to that, I can find someone to help me set that up.

    If things go pear-shaped here, send an e-mail to Gawkerites@gmail.com. Put your Jezebel/Gawker handle in the subject line, and some kind of identifying info. about yourself as a poster in the body of the e-mail. I tried to get an account set up at AOL, which has better security, but was frustrated in my efforts. If you feel un-secure about trusting me (I could be someone who is not Poodletime,) come in to Gmail though an anonymizer or Tor.

    Hope we don’t need this, hoping our little community thrives and grows under a resurgent Gawker, but you never know….

    Keep up the fight for good beer and enlightening talk, my sisters and brothers!

    — Poodletime

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      BenjaminSmuttinsPoodletime
      5/28/16 7:27pm

      Filed under - Gawker, Open in Case of Emergency. Sincerely, Smuttins

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      Cocopop!Poodletime
      5/28/16 7:37pm

      Done! Thanks!

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    DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:03pm

    MENOPAUSE: AN AAARRGGGHHH STORY

    For a while there, there was that “last gasp of fertility” thing where you get two periods a month. Or anyway, I did. As an extremely heavy, and lengthy (five to seven days at a time) bleeder, that was fun!

    Now, tentatively, it looks as if that portion of the festivities may have come to a close. It’s been about four or five weeks since the last one, with only a little spotting since. Yay!

    But this is not the end of things for My Menopause and Me. Oh no. Now I’ve been premenstrual for about a week and a half and it shows no signs of abating. Bloated, constantly hungry, extra-oily skin, my boobs are killing me, cravings, teariness, restless sleep, THE WORKS. I wish the next gusher would just arrive already! There are probably a few more to come... how long is this going to take?!?

    I’m dealing with the cravings by simply giving in to them. Heck with it, they won’t last forever. The emotional lability, with self-soothing (for me this is mainly personal grooming and cooking). The fact that nothing fits or feels right with soft, stretchy clothes. The situation is not totally untenable.

    But dammit, my uterus is constipated and I want it to let go already!

    I’ll be seeing a gynecologist soon, but in the meantime I’m looking for any and all kinds of related anecdata. What was this process like for you, or your mother, or your aunt, or your friends? Please, share your stories!

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      Adrastra, patron saint of snarkDontBeSuchaBoobPunchTina
      5/28/16 7:05pm

      For a while there, there was that “last gasp of fertility” thing where you get two periods a month.

      oh my god, DO NOT WANT. (I have nothing to offer you here but sympathy.)

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaAdrastra, patron saint of snark
      5/28/16 7:12pm

      That part really does suck. I think it’s finally over, after several months. Maybe!

      I’ll take that sympathy and thank you!

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    DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1Aimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:02pm

    BEAUTY THREAD!

    (Please star to keep near the top.)

    Bought some other sheet masks and a common ingredient is castor oil. My face does not like castor oil. So as not to waste them, I’ll probably use them on dry patches on my legs or arms.

    Also, I just ordered some L’Oreal lipsticks on Amazon for $5.99 each.

    And since hot weather is kicking in AND it’s Memorial Day weekend, here’s a good article at Adequate Man on sunscreen:

    http://adequateman.deadspin.com/your-go-to-sun...

    It includes a link to an article on the best and worst sunscreens for children and adults on Mother Jones:

    http://www.motherjones.com/environment/20...

    I hope everyone gets to enjoy some extra time off.

    I need to find an easy recipe for alcoholic lemonade. Any suggestions?

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      tealstarDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      5/28/16 7:06pm

      I bought the Becca face and eye palettes.

      I have two Tarte mini lip crayons that are super close to being finished. And after keeping it shoved in a drawer for a long time I finally threw away my Wet N Wild Reserve Your Cabana highlighter.

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      deerlady83DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      5/28/16 7:07pm

      I got my hair colored today. It's an umbra red. As my hairdresser was working with my hair, she asked me what I was using. I've been using this conditioner called Argan Oil Hair Mask about once a week. I have noticed a difference and she said it has really been helping.

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    Sunshine is my Spirit AnimalAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:49pm

    I’ve been counting down to this all week. So, a few weeks ago I posted about how I was feeling bullied by one of my coworkers. Well, it escalated this week. A few days ago they emailed me and told me I needed to stop leaving my desk so much because there had been a lot of complaints. I responded like, “oh wow, thanks for letting me know!”

    I kept a low profile for pretty much the rest of the day until I figured they had gone home because I know their set hours. I left my desk briefly to see if there was anything I needed to work on, and had barely chatted with some of my friends (whom I hadn’t talk to literally at all that day) for less than 30 seconds before they came running in and yelling at me to get back to my desk. This was in full view of coworkers and clients. I offered to talk to them but they refused and I went back to my area and brought the issue up with my supervisor as soon as I could. Thankfully, my supervisor is PISSED (at them, not me).

    I was literally freaking out and got really drunk the night after the events happened because I know everyone loves my coworker but they can be a total bully. So yeah. But things are definitely going to (hopefully) change.

    That was my week. Also, I had been documenting everything for the last month, which definitely came in handy.

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      BrynandNessaSunshine is my Spirit Animal
      5/28/16 8:00pm

      Good for you for going to your supervisor. I know people like your coworkers and doing something like this is half the battle in upending a little fiefdom of bullying.

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      Sunshine is my Spirit AnimalBrynandNessa
      5/28/16 8:02pm

      I was honestly fucking terrified of the fallout. Like, I just about had a heart attack when I checked my voicemails because I was sure she had called me to leave me a voicemail complaining about me having gone to the supervisor. Thankfully, everyone who was present for her outburst is PISSED.

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    jinniAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:21pm

    Really down, today. First beautiful stretch of days where I live, and everyone I know is travelling for the weekend with a significant other, and I am home alone. The place seems deserted.

    Having trouble with friendships, lately. I tend to way overgive — am always the helpful ear and hand, and I don’t much talk about myself. As a result, I feel taken for granted, used, and drained (even though I know that I am complicit in this set-up), and then end up avoiding people. I don’t know how to get out of this spiral. It is in my nature to give and not receive, and I either have to be satisfied with this, or find a way to change the dynamic. Or be happy alone. And I do not know how to do any of it.

    It truly isn’t in my nature to talk about myself, but it doesn’t mean that I necessarily wish to listen to people talk about themselves for hours on end which is that which ends up happening.

    I miss the University in which people actually spoke about objective things: no one I know (except you, belles) wishes to speak of anything outside of themselves. And I don’t necessarily attract users: I just train people into using me out of my initial sincere desire to help.

    I don’t think people even see jinni as a person, anymore. Just the friend they can always rely on. And I’m tired.

    Going for a walk; just needed to vent.

    Does anyone else feel this way?

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      vertigoshtickjinni
      5/28/16 7:24pm

      *Hugs*

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      mscoffeejinni
      5/28/16 7:26pm

      I’m basically in the same place — I feel like everyone is traveling with their partners and I’m hanging out alone. And I recently had a friend lean on me through a difficult time, which normally I am happy to help with, but she knew that the topic of her problem was something that was a pretty sensitive/triggering topic for me, and didn’t even acknowledge that before asking me for advice. In the long run I’m not mad at her, because she really needed a friend, I just feel kind of drained.

      Anyway, what I’m saying is I feel you, and I’m raising a glass of wine to you tonight.

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    StillCopperboomAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:03pm

    I swear to God I have had it with anyone who says teachers are too whiny about our pay\benefits.
    My father passed away at the beginning of this month. I only have 10 sick\vacation days per year, which I had already used by the time he passed- some of those days, by the way, were spent taking care of him, and one day was lost because I couldn’t actually get to the school through all the flooding in the city- but no, that still counts as a vacation day. I stayed home grieving for 3 days- that’s it. And for that I lost $600. $600 that I don’t have to spare. My district doesn’t do bereavement days, so mourning my father cost me $600. And no, I don’t make $200 a day, but the math behind why it was $600 is boring.

    Even worse, when I emailed my principal to ask if anything could be done (prefacing it with “I feel REALLY awkward asking this”) he told me not to feel awkward and that I should come to talk to him about it. When I did, not only did he say that there’s not anything that can be done, but that to him it seemed fair because “23 days in two school years is a LOT of days out.”

    So yeah, the next person who tries to tell me that teacher pay\benefits aren’t that bad is going to feel my fist in their face.

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      Ladyheatherlee 2016 EditionStillCopperboom
      5/28/16 7:18pm

      I'm really sorry about your dad. :( As far as I'm concerned, teachers should get all the money and benefits plus a bottle of good wine each week.

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      I'm Fart and I'm SmunnyStillCopperboom
      5/28/16 7:23pm

      I’m sorry about your father :( My mom is a teacher and I totally know what you mean. Seriously, fuck anyone who tells teachers not to complain. My mom is getting so fed up with the county not valuing her because she costs more than a brand new teacher, and they just keep moving her from school to school, and now she is working at two schools at one time. She had collected enough days throughout her 40 something years in the county so she finally said fuck it and took 2 months leave just to keep sane because the stress was affecting her health.

      Teachers get all my appreciation forever.

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    MargieBonzAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:33pm

    Doing another thread for school stuff!

    I am studying for the GRE right now (really I just started this week) and I take it in just over a month. I am so mad at myself for waiting so long to start studying. The first book I have is basic algebra, and it is way too hard for stuff I learned in middle school. I need to buckle down and really work at studying. I am so nervous about just the GRE studying being hard for me. Because if it’s so hard for me to study for the test to get into grad school, how the hell am I going to actually be in school and work full time?

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      Cocopop!MargieBonz
      5/28/16 7:46pm

      Have you looked into online prep courses? I took an online prep course for a test, and it really helped. There was a pre-test, and there were quizzes. If you did poorly on a quiz it would give you a review. I was asked whether I wanted to ace it, pass it, or be kind of ready. I said “ace it” and it said...you don’t really have enough time for that, but it gave me a schedule, which I stuck to. It was worth evvvvvery penny!

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      MargieBonzCocopop!
      5/28/16 7:47pm

      I should do something online in addition to the physical books I have. Part of me is just wanting to own up to it and wait to apply for the spring trimester in January instead of aiming to start at the end of August. But I need to keep this forward momentum.

      Thank you for the suggestion!

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    Tupiniquim - white cat with hands is all of usAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 7:24pm

    So much packing, so many boxes, so much shit to do. We’re 10 days away from the big move and it’s that weird point where you know you’ll need some things but you’re afraid you’re just using this as an excuse for slacking off and in the end you’ll be overwhelmed. On the plus side, the house we rented is awesome (the most space I’ve ever had in my life) and both my kids got accepted at an arts-oriented charter school! Yay!

    Care to share any funny/horrifying/traumatizing/uplifting moving stories?

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      MargieBonzTupiniquim - white cat with hands is all of us
      5/28/16 8:34pm

      When I moved from NC to CA just over two years ago I couldn’t even start with the packing. It really took my dad and stepmom coming to visit and cranking it out for me for it to get done. I live alone, but wouldn't pack any of the dishes because I might need one plate out of the 15 I have. They made me get plastic cups, silverware and paper plates so they could just do it for me. It really was a blessing to have someone else do it.

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      Tupiniquim - white cat with hands is all of usMargieBonz
      5/28/16 8:41pm

      Ixm just tossing everything in boxes and leaving the most important ones open because I’ll still use some of the stuff. I wish I had someone I know come over and just take care of my shit though. The moving company my husband’s job hired said they’ll pack everything that’s fragile nut I’m freaking about the pieces with sentimental value. It’s not like a 3 dollar plate that I can replace.

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