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    Flying SquidAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:36pm

    I wish there were some way to prevent men doing this, but until that happens, if you have to get up from the table and go to the bathroom or something, get up and give your drink to the bartender. It might be inconvenient, but it also might save you from something truly horrific.

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      SqarrFlying Squid
      5/28/16 12:42pm

      This is a pretty good idea.

      And if the person you’re with gets all insulted that you don’t trust him, fuck it. He’s not looking out for you.

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      Aimée LutkinFlying Squid
      5/28/16 12:50pm

      Bartenders roofie people too.

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    Slut PanicAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:25pm

    I love when women watch out for other women

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      RubyCan'tFailSlut Panic
      5/28/16 12:28pm

      I’m not crying. Nope.

      Holy shit I love women.

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      brighterSlut Panic
      5/28/16 12:29pm

      that made me get all teary.

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    prollynotAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:25pm

    These women are awesome. And the restaurant handled that perfectly. How awesome that they were able to verify via camera. But I’m just so stunned that it would be the gal’s good friend. What a jerk. What are guys thinking this way? Who wants to have sex with sleeping girls? I just never understood rape drugs. Makes no sense. But happens all the time. Hope he rots for it.

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      Amyprollynot
      5/28/16 12:36pm

      We’re always told to fear strangers, but most assaults are by people we know and trust. Because they’re the ones we let get close to us. I hope he rots too.

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      Lannister Handjobprollynot
      5/28/16 12:47pm

      It depends on the drug. Some at lower doses amp up pacivity, not an immediate knockout. That’s part of the danger of these drugs and the under reporting of their usage. It’s how the victim will walk out of the bar with someone they don’t know. Some victims recall “coming to” while engaged in a sex act they didn’t consent to, like actively giving oral sex, and then “black out” again. They are losing consciousness but aren’t like a slumped sleeper. It can make the victim feel responsible (too many drinks? did I ask for this?). Others can be awake while they seemingly can’t move their body, so they are aware but can’t resist.

      These are nasty drugs and sick, terrible rapists using them.

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    AmyAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:40pm

    I’m with the author - I would have wanted to tell the guy he’d been seen, watch him deny it, then say okay, prove it’s not true, drink it all yourself right now. And yes I realize that’s not the right way to handle it, it’s just what I would have WANTED to do.

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      Aimée LutkinAmy
      5/28/16 12:50pm

      Yeah, I’m just saying i don’t think i’d be able to control myself, not that there’s a right or wrong way to respond to a situation like this.

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      HarvestMoonAmy
      5/28/16 12:56pm

      If he was smart he would immediately spill the drink. Whoops!

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    I'm Fart and I'm SmunnyAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:29pm

    “He stopped by our table and said he couldn’t do much because he didn’t see it.”

    Okay dude, if someone says that they saw someone put something in someone’s drink at a place where you are the manager, you can do plenty. But still, it seems like the restaurant staff acted appropriately. And these woman fucking rock good for them. I know some people might say we are praising them for just being decent human beings, but the reality is that most bystanders do not help when a stranger is in trouble. So these women deserve some fucking praise.

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      anisa-typesI'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      5/28/16 12:47pm

      I think he meant he wanted there to be a way so the poor woman didn’t have to sit at the table with her friend who tried to drug her for the better part of an hour. The restaurant did review the tapes, call the cops, and stall them. I don’t think it’s a bad thing that the manager wished they could have done more.

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      StillCopperboomI'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      5/28/16 1:00pm

      I don’t want to give the manager shit here. I think what he likely meant was that he couldn’t do anything as the manager, as in kick the guy out or something. Given that running things is the manager’s responsibility, I’d wager he’s the one who called the copes.

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    IAmBrettAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:42pm

    Then, in walks Santa Monica PD. They say “Come with us” and he doesn’t protest. Doesn’t ask why. Doesn’t seem surprised.

    This is kind of chilling in particular. This guy must have decided that he had “waited long enough” of “being nice” to her, and was going to try to rape her even if it meant bad consequences. Hell, maybe he’s been arrested for it before.

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      moopidooIAmBrett
      5/28/16 12:54pm

      I have to wonder what was going on in his head. Did he know he was caught when he saw the women watching him? Did he think he had gotten away with it until she refused to drink, several times, even at his prompting? Did he know when the “computer was down”?

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaIAmBrett
      5/28/16 2:50pm

      My first thought was that he’d done this before and figured they’d finally caught up with him.

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    Olivia Pope's Wine GlassAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:52pm

    As a Santa Monica resident, the response from Fig and the police department makes me very happy.

    What an awful, shitty situation for that woman.

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      picklesandbeetsOlivia Pope's Wine Glass
      5/28/16 1:20pm

      I’m so glad it got stopped, but I’m very curious as to why it seemingly took SMPD over 40 minutes to arrive- it’s not like we don’t have enough cops.

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      Flow Beepicklesandbeets
      5/28/16 1:39pm

      There’s was probably some black person(s) somewhere walking around existing that needed to be monitored and stopped. Most important issues first, ya know?

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    deerlady83Aimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:24pm

    I feel so bad for that woman who was almost drugged. That guy was her best friend. Holy hell. I hope he gets charged.

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      Capucinadeerlady83
      5/28/16 12:32pm

      Hope they get to the drug source too

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      Sqarrdeerlady83
      5/28/16 12:40pm

      Fuck, yes.

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    photoliberalAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 12:23pm

    I think perhaps the most depressing thing about this is how many comparatively random women present had their own stories. This is part of why I think the number of women who have been sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetime is much higher than more conservative estimates like to place that figure. Men seem clueless at the routine darkness that women have to deal with in their lives, primarily because we never have to deal with it ourselves.

    Great work by the women in this incident, and remarkable composure all around. Just sad that there are so many incidents just from the people there.

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      uualternatephotoliberal
      5/28/16 12:29pm

      I liked the inclusion from a woman whose male friend had that experience. I know I have.

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      MsMymlanuualternate
      5/28/16 12:38pm

      I didn’t notice that at first. Sad evidence of the general assumtion that stuff like this only happens to women, even unconsciously.

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    scowly brow spinsterAimée Lutkin
    5/28/16 3:01pm

    I, too, intervened in a sketchy situation once. A guy was leading a very intoxicated gal out of a bar and she kinda went down on the pavement out front and he was too weird, trying to jolly her along and get her to leave with him even though she could not. I just totally inserted myself in the situation and tried to help her out as she kind of lost consciousness. We called 911 and the guy had to talk to cops and it turned out he did not know the woman at all. Paramedics took her but I have no idea how it turned out from there. (Okay, I hope.) The woman had an atavan prescription with only a few missing in her purse so it’s possible she combined items that affected her badly, but this giuy was definitely trying to take advantage of her condition. Fuck that guy.

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      thatsmylampscowly brow spinster
      5/28/16 3:46pm

      Bless you, bless you, bless you.

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      scowly brow spinsterthatsmylamp
      5/28/16 4:36pm

      It was one of those, “Oh, no, motherfucker, not today!” moments. It didn’t take much of my time to give someone a hand and make a creepy opportunist back right off.

      I have since read so many reports of cops and other first responders sexually assaulting incapacitated women who they are purportedly helping, that I wonder if I should have gone with her in the ambulance, and sincerely hope that all turned out okay for her, because I do not know.

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