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    Falcon Depth BrunchAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:39pm

    I respect her so much. She has some very biting things to say about purity culture in general and it is wonderful.

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      Rando CalrissianFalcon Depth Brunch
      5/27/16 2:49pm

      Yep. She is impressive and inspiring.

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      lawloverFalcon Depth Brunch
      5/27/16 2:58pm

      I love that she is using her experience to comment and constructively criticize the rape culture we have all around us. She is SO bright and thoughtful, and I really am inspired by the way she took something so terrible in her life and is using it to help other people. I believe she can make a difference in the way rape victims are treated.

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    bladerunnerAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:50pm

    It seems weird to me to give a sic to “premedidated” rather than just assuming that what was heard as a d was actually a t?

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      Avada Yo Mamabladerunner
      5/27/16 2:59pm

      Seriously. It was probably just a Utah accent thing, they have some different pronunciations out there (the one that comes to mind is that they tend to say "moun-en" instead of "mountain").

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      rusholmeruffianAvada Yo Mama
      5/27/16 3:03pm

      Utah is where old weird British accents, much reduced today thanks to radio and television, went. Older Utahns say “fark” for “fork”; this probably is because a very large portion of 19th-century Mormon converts were from North Yorkshire—pronounced by locals as “Narth Yarkshire.”

      The swallowed/elided T is more common among people under 50 or so. Traditionally many Utahns actually have overpronounced interior Ts in words. As a Midwesterner I say “moun-en”; older Utah natives will say “MOUN-ten,” overpronouncing the T like a speaker of Received Pronunciation (“BBC British”) will overprounounce it in “water” or “butter.”

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    wasabi75Aimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:34pm

    Keep fucking rocking, Elizabeth Smart! That’s all I’ve got. I have no snark or cynicism to give. Just keep being an amazing human being.

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      Aspie-punkwasabi75
      5/28/16 12:58am

      I am so impressed by Elizabeth Smart and thankful for her advocacy. I have used her quote about the chewed gum metaphor (used in abstinence only “sex ed” classes) in my victimology and juvenile delinquency classes (when we talk about the impact of adverse childhood experiences) to explain why we need age appropriate comprehensive sex education and the role that it plays in helping to prevent victimization of children and youth.

      You go girl!! :-)

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    jordanbakerAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 3:10pm

    Forgive me if I’ve mentioned this here before, but: I met her once, briefly, and not only is she an amazing human being, but she’s the only person I’ve ever seen in real life with a radiance around her, like she stepped out of a Renaissance painting of a saint or something.

    (She also had the most GORGEOUS white coat on, and I realize that that and her fair hair may have contributed to the impression that she was glowing, but whatever.)

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      Marillenbaumjordanbaker
      5/27/16 9:09pm

      No, I totally believe it. There are some people who just have that radiance, and I’ve always thought she would be one of them.

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      j-mmjordanbaker
      5/28/16 4:18pm

      When I was waiting tables, I waited on Ram Dass once without realizing who he was. He had this brilliant glow of love around him. I said to a co-worker, “That man is so peaceful.” He said, “He should be, he’s Ram Dass.”

      The experience of meeting someone like that is indescribable. I’m really happy that Elizabeth Smart has that effect on the world. I remember her mom kept telling her, “Those people took 8 months of your life. Don’t give them a single more day.” I say that to myself whenever I want to hold on to bitterness or resentment instead of truly grieving my loss and moving on.

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    eats books and leavesAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:40pm

    Rogue apostrophe in second sentence.

    Great news though!

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      scowly brow spinstereats books and leaves
      5/27/16 2:57pm

      Thank you. I ground my teeth.

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      accordingtoeats books and leaves
      5/27/16 3:18pm

      And they had the nerve to call her out on “premedidated”

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    PinupsAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:58pm

    Aimee, I’m in the greys, which is okay with me in general. But because people won’t probably read this, would you consider putting a link to both the BYU Code of Conduct for victims reporting rape as well as a link to the petition to your story? I didn’t know what that last paragraph requesting “limited amnesty” for victims reporting rape was in reference to, so I checked it out, and it is literally horrifying not to mention archaic. This would be highly informative to your readers and I'm sure many would like to sign the petition. Thank you.

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      SkepticalChefPinups
      5/27/16 3:06pm

      I am also in the greys and wondered the same thing - what is this awful sounding honor code and limited amnesty business?

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      PinupsSkepticalChef
      5/27/16 3:23pm

      I’m really lousy at providing links, but check out the story “BYU’s Honor Code Violates Survivors and Makes Rape Likelier” put out by Slate>articles>jurisprudence>2016/04 as an example. According to story, Baylor’s honor code does not allow one to drink, do drugs, have premarital sex, drink COFFEE, have homosexual encounters, and a whole host of others ridiculous things. So if a person reports a rape, and was found to have been complicit in any of such actions at the time of the rape, she/he can be kicked out of school or not allowed to enroll in other courses. So who would report a rape if this is allowed to happen? Hence the amnesty petition. Why they are asking for “limited” amnesty and what that entirely entails, I must admit, i do not know.

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    carriebwcAimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:37pm

    Ms. Smart seems like an exceptionally brave woman. Every time I see her putting herself out there in public, I can’t help but think, “You go, girl!”

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      Call_Me_Alcarriebwc
      5/27/16 8:40pm

      I am so proud of her too. Great to have a woman of her background who is universally respected speaking up for rape victims. From my memory, it seems her family has always supported her, and that has mitigated the impact of her traumatic experiences.

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    deerlady83Aimée Lutkin
    5/27/16 2:45pm

    I admire Elizabeth Smart so much for all the advocating she does for women and girls who have been raped. She's a strong woman.

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      $7CoffeeAimée Lutkin
      5/27/16 2:44pm

      So glad to see she’s doing well. She’s a tough as nails woman who doesn’t get enough credit for everything she’s accomplished.

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        Mental IcebergAimée Lutkin
        5/27/16 2:34pm

        Oh wow. I did not know that Elizabeth Smart is now a reporter. What a strong young lady.

        Thanks for sharing this!

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