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    Dirt CheapAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:28pm

    “Men are afraid their gifts will be returned. Women are afraid they’ll get stabbed 20 times.”

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      Tejón FaceDirt Cheap
      5/23/16 1:36pm

      mm. so true.

      The crazy thing is it says he ASKED for the gifts back (via her actress friend)? Then stabbed her because she didn’t answer his ambush-question clearly enough?

      Like so his “temper” aside he showed up just to kill her.

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      deliaplumTejón Face
      5/23/16 3:38pm

      no no silly - it was only after she returned the ONE gift that he got all snippy and asked for ALL the gifts he had sent her to be returned. if she doesn’t like the one, then why should she get to keep any of them? makes perfect sense if you are a psycho stalker.

      this poor girl. i guess the bright side - if he had had a gun, she’d be dead? is there a bright side to this?

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    nebulousmettleAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:30pm

    “Lost my temper.” BULLSHIT. This was predetermined. He brought that knife to meet her.

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      sockerkakanebulousmettle
      5/23/16 1:42pm

      Yes. You don’t bring a knife to a fist fight, and you certainly don’t bring it to a conversation about returned gifts. He knew what he was ready to do.

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      nebulousmettlesockerkaka
      5/23/16 2:01pm

      YES. This story reminds me of that poor girl who was murdered by the boy she turned down on going to Prom with as she was already going with her boyfriend. A lot of MRAs were like this is why women shouldn’t reject any men. Again, BULLSHIT, he was already prepared to kill her as he knew she would say no.

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    deerlady83Anna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:38pm

    I hope she will be able to pull through. I can’t imagine how awful and scary that must have been. A lot of men can’t seem to understand how scary it is to be a woman. There is always that fear this might be the guy that will hurt me because I said no in the wrong way. She even tried to get the police involved letting them know about him.

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      kernkernkerndeerlady83
      5/23/16 2:04pm

      I recently explained the concept of a “safe word” to a group of male friends (they’re safe guys...I hope). Anyway, as I explained how it’s used and WHY WE NEED ONE IN THE FIRST PLACE the women with us just nodded their “uh huh!”s and the men just sat there dumbfounded that women have developed these subtle nuances as a call for help. They hadn’t even considered the idea that a decent amount of our social lives is spent being on guard or in fear.

      So no, men have no clue how scary it can be to be a female.

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      potahhhtokernkernkern
      5/23/16 3:14pm

      Aaaaand comments like this remind me why I hate reading these fucking articles. Yes, you have accurately described all men, everywhere, forever and ever. Oops, now I’m #notallmen-ing.

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    det-devil-ailsAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:31pm

    Criminy. Does dating in Japan really work like those weird Japanese ‘Dating Sim’ Games?

    “I complimented her. I knew her favorite color. I knew her birthday. I expressed an interest in her favorite pop group. I sent her a gift. Now is when she is supposed to giggle flirtily and take her top off.”

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      kitocatdet-devil-ails
      5/23/16 1:52pm

      For men, sometimes, yes. This is a very real issue. One of my best friends is Japanese and waffeling between where to live. We’ve had lots of talks about the experience of women in Japan. There is definitely a reason many women there are choosing to be single, unmarried, not have children.

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      CHIEF QUEEFdet-devil-ails
      5/23/16 1:57pm

      Wait, where did you get that this article was about dating in Japan? The guy was a crazed stalker.

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    DunlinAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:25pm

    I tried to come up with a good snarky comment, but I just can’t.

    I’m snarkless.

    I’m so tired of men who feel entitled to women. I’m glad she survived and I hope she recovers quickly.

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      LuaDunlin
      5/23/16 2:16pm

      Dismiss the MRA troll!

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      DunlinLua
      5/23/16 2:26pm

      Thanks! I go away for one meeting and come back to a whatabouthepoormenz essay! Fortunately I’m thinking less of a troll than a “well yes, but let me inadvertently prove all your points” kind of clueless screed, and I’m equally tired of those, too. There’s no equivalence between hurt feefees and getting stabbed 20 times.

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    VwolfAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:40pm

    It’s amazing how the worst thing that can happen to a guy is to be rejected by a woman. To us, we can be stalked, raped, murdered, etc. not that it doesn’t happen to men, yes guys, it can happen to you too, but not to the same degree. The numbers are different. Very different.

    I’ve encountered some crazies in my days. One of them from high school ia still trying to get in contact with me after 12 years. Male entitlement is a scary thing. Which one of them is going to try to kill you? Why won't they let you go?

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      Setzer777Vwolf
      5/23/16 1:44pm

      Yeah. The most I’ve been scared in dating was when I was with an ex who had a scary ex-boyfriend. I was afraid for her, and I was afraid that he would go after me for being with her now (or I’d have to try to stop him from doing something to her).

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      kitocatVwolf
      5/23/16 2:00pm

      I feel like we (women) all have some kind of experience. I told a guy on a bus once that I didn’t want to talk to him and he continued leering at me telling me that he “Had a right to look where he wanted and say what he wanted.” I tried to refrain from upsetting him because it was a scary situation, but I wanted to just scream FUCK OFF. Another guy on the bus stepped in and told the guy to cut it out and it nearly escalated to blows to blows between them, probably would have if creeper guy hand’t gotten kicked off the bus.

      And thats just my most recent example. Sigh.

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    iElvis is Now Funded by Peter ThielAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:34pm

    I know male celebrities get stalkers, but has a female stalker ever done anything like this? This woman brought David Letterman cookies.

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      VwolfiElvis is Now Funded by Peter Thiel
      5/23/16 1:42pm

      They do show up at actor’s homes. They just break in. There have been many cases of female stalkers breaking into actors’ homes and they just chill there. I think it happened to Chris Brown last year? I don’t recall if any of them has been violent though.

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      many bells down wears many stupid hatsVwolf
      5/23/16 2:21pm

      There was a woman in my hometown who got stuck in a dude’s chimney when she tried to break into his house after stalking him online. Not a celebrity though, just an ordinary guy from OKCupid.

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    Setzer777Anna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:38pm

    Is celebrity-stalking particularly bad in Japan? Seems to be reported more often, at any rate.

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      cinnamonSetzer777
      5/23/16 1:46pm

      I read that Japanese idols are not allowed to date because them being in a relationship would make their fans feel betrayed. Seems like obsessive fan behavior is kind of encouraged there.

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      FollowTheFlockcinnamon
      5/23/16 2:06pm

      How does this even work? I take it there isn’t a loop hole about dating your biggest fan, so the idols aren’t actually “available” to anyone, they’re very high profile nuns.

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    calliope anneAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 1:27pm

    sounds familiar...

    GIF
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      deerlady83calliope anne
      5/23/16 1:39pm

      That is a creepy movie.

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      MsMymlandeerlady83
      5/23/16 1:52pm

      But also pretty good. Whenever I hear someone say anime/cartoons are just for kids I tell them to watch this.

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    No-Mi SkyeAnna Merlan
    5/23/16 2:21pm

    Weak, cowardly men will be the death of us all.

    I think I’m just going to get a tat of this. Men don’t understand that fear that grips you when a strange man, or even a guy you know, confronts you angrily about some imagined/minor slight/infatuation. You can’t just laugh/shrug it off and walk away. As a woman you have to look that man in the eye every time and try to judge whether you’ll get out of the fucking conversation safely.

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      funiculifuniculaNo-Mi Skye
      5/23/16 5:51pm

      Stop being scared of everything. Statistically men are about 4 times more likely to have violence done to them than women. That situation you describe happens to men far more often than women.

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      tunafishbonanzafuniculifunicula
      5/23/16 7:40pm

      “Statistically men are about 4 times more likely to have violence done to them than women.” Yeah - by other men. And you’re telling us not to be scared of men? What kind of reasoning is that?

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