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    EastCoastCaliGirlAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:04pm

    Can we do a television thread? Share shows that you are new to you and are your current obsession.

    Lately, I’ve been watching a lot of Silicon Valley, and trashy reality tv (Single Dad Seeking, anything on ID, etc.)

    What about all of you?

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      ChocolateChipWaffleEastCoastCaliGirl
      5/21/16 7:09pm

      I don’t have any recommendations but I do really need some new stuff to binge watch, so I’m seconding your request.

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      EastCoastCaliGirlChocolateChipWaffle
      5/21/16 7:12pm

      I am obsessed with your username btw. I eat way too many of you and you sure are tasty :)

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    DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1Aimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:01pm

    BEAUTY THREAD!

    (Please star to keep it near the top. Thank you.)

    I hope everyone has had a good week in self-care. Last week’s recommendations for argan oil and sunscreen were huge helps.

    My only real news is that I tried a Rimmel lipliner pencil (Lasting Finish 061 Wine) and I’m really happy with it. It’s one of my two favorites now, with the other being Nyx (Lip Liner SPL834 Prune). Both stay on pretty well, and the colors match well with my main lipcolors.

    I finally tried my other Purlisse mask that I got from ipsy, but it was too irritating or something, because my skin got very oily afterward. It was the Blue Lotus and Seaweed. I did love the Blue Lotus and White Tea, so I used the ipsy discount code (ipsylotus30) and ordered some sets. The code should be good for another week or two, if you’re interested.

    I bought some Acure Argan and Coconut Oil towelettes at the health food store, but I don’t think I like them. I think the argan part is fine, but the coconut oil is too much for my skin. Oh, well.

    I can’t wait to see all the gorgeousness this week. Have at!

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      MargieBonzDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      5/21/16 7:02pm

      I love our rush for the immediate posts. Kisses!

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      AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      5/21/16 7:03pm

      I am really getting into K beauty! I just ordered Boscia’s charcoal pudding mask, which I’m super excited to try. I’ve had really stubborn, deep blackheads on my nose ever since I hit puberty, so I’m hoping it’ll help with those and the size of my pores.

      Also, does anyone have experience with those 3-step blackhead-clearing nose strips (like Biore’s, but with two more steps to open up your pores before and moisturize after)? I’m looking at ordering some from Tonymoly and was wondering if they’re worth it. Thanks!

      Oh also I’m on the verge of ordering $50 worth of nail polish from ILNP because omg holographic sparkliness help save me D:

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    MargieBonzAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:01pm

    Hey there Jezzies! Whatcha drinking? I am having some Brooks Dry Cider from TJs.

    Back from my two week hiatus. It’s been busy. Sorry if I am stepping on anyone’s toes with this drinking thread. Grad school application is totally submitted, now I just need to take the GRE and submit my score. Hopefully I will know at the end of July whether I am accepted or not. In typical me fashion, I went to a prospective student mixer on Thursday and maybe met a dude. Which is good since the dude I was banging, well that’s over for the sex part. We still have dinner and play backgammon and friends stuff, but no more am I on that dick.

    The Tinder thing has been weird this week. A mix of good and one super bad crazy dude who freaked out after I didn’t respond to his flurry of texts in what he considered a timely manner. (Not) sorry I have a fucking job and shit to do other than respond to your weird texts when we haven’t even freaking met yet. Gonna try to post the screen shot of his text freak out as a reply to this.

    Also got my braces adjusted today and got yellow and black for my mom and it’s ugly. But I get them changed Tuesday.

    Anyways, what has everyone been up to? How’s life, love and all that jazz? I have missed SNS greatly and been getting some of my fix from twittering with Jezzies.

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      Sunshine is my Spirit AnimalMargieBonz
      5/21/16 7:06pm

      Yellowstone golden ale!

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      Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshitMargieBonz
      5/21/16 7:07pm

      I bought some nice bubbly rosé today. It’s wonderful. The bubbles are delicious. I’m snacking on baked green bean chips (you know?) and rice chips.

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    AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:02pm

    Hi Jez friends! Happy SNS! This is your Brag Thread. Any grand accomplishments, big or small, you want to brag about but haven’t yet found an acceptable outlet in which to do so?

    My brag: as some of you might know, I counterprotest the anti-choice fundies at my local Planned Parenthood every Thursday. This week, one of the old white geezers started talking to me (as they sometimes do, usually to tell me that I have no dignity and that I should be a good little girl and go make some babies *barf*), and the topic of adoption somehow came up. I asked him why he doesn’t do any advocacy work for adoption agencies, since we both agree that that would be a great, constructive use of his time. He said that he’d genuinely look into it and seemed to agree that it would do far more good in the world to do advocacy work for kids up for adoption rather than standing outside of PP shouting at patients. I know it may not happen but I’m proud that I was able to plant a seed of an idea in the geezer’s head!

    I’m busy tonight so I probably won’t be here much, but yay for all of you and your accomplishments! You’re awesome!!

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      PinkBunnyHatAntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJW
      5/21/16 7:08pm

      I ran a half marathon on Sunday in 2:18:57, which isn’t fast, but it’s faster than I ran the same race last year!Also I got a fitbit for my birthday and I’ve walked 10,000 steps two days in a row! Who knew I was so sedentary at work?

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      Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshitAntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJW
      5/21/16 7:10pm

      My brag: I have two! I got my grades back! In one of my classes I knew I was getting an A, and I did, but in my other class, my serious class, I wasn’t so sure. I wrote this frankly spectacular paper about anti-semitism on college campuses and honestly the feedback I got was really amazing and I’m proud of myself. 22 pages! It was a damn good paper.

      Second one: I think I’m finally over my big smoking weakness, which is drinking. I never want a cigarette unless I’m drinking, and I love drinking. But for the past week I’ve been having my nightly wine and just haven’t had the urge at all. I’ve made sure to have lots of good and interesting things to snack on (thank you Trader Joe’s!) and it seems to be working! Drinking bubbly now and NOT SMOKING!! 10 days!

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    Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.Aimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:50pm

    OKAY GUYS, let’s do a few things!

    Good-ish things first?

    1.)I have read 127 books so far this year. That is pretty good I think. Go go Octoreader!

    1a.) So recommendations from the past week? I read a graphic novel called The Divine and the story was okay but I LOVED the art. Loved, Loved, Loved. I read a mystery thriller type book about a criminal psychologist who goes home and things happen called It takes one by Kate Kessler it is the first in a series so THAT is exciting. I really liked it. I like reading about badass ladies. AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST, an author I want to recommend if you love, funny laugh out loud goofy romance with knitting and a great group of friends is Penny Reid specifically the Knitting in the city series BUT Penny Reid’s other books that I have read were also funny and awesome.

    Any recommendations for books or authors that make YOU laugh our loud or write really funny characters? Lemme know! I loooove a book that can make me laugh.

    2.) This guy. He is a big goofball who looks at me with all the love

    3.) So I am a plant murder, it is known. I am a serial over-water-er with the blackest of thumbs. My thumbs are metal. (get it? HEH!) anyway, I want to share how alive my house plants still are! Like..I HAVE NOT KILLED THEM GUYS.

    There were other things, negative things. Ever since reading the article on XOjane about the lady who was glad when her friend died because she would have ended up a big burden to her parents or institutionalized I have been... not great. Those are my biggest fears. Those are the things that give me panic attacks. Those are the things that make me have anxiety induced vomiting.I fucking hate the woman who wrote that piece. she is such a shitty person and her ex friend deserved SO MUCH better than her. I really just want to punch her in the throat.

    Okay! That is all, I think? There was probably more but I got distracted by wanting to punch people in the throat. This happens more often than it should.

    Oh! So tell me about who you want to punch in the throat! Show me your animals! Your plants! EVERYTHING!

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      5/21/16 7:55pm

      She is a shitty person, and it was stupid of xojane to publish it.

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      AllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdoOctopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      5/21/16 7:58pm

      I also hate that woman! My biggest fear too is that no one will like me anymore if I’m depressed and not “fun”. She’s a dumpster garbage fire spewing hot smelly garbage and we just have to step to the side so none of that garbage hits us just like we would if actually passing an exploding pile of diarrhea filled garbage on the street....so....

      I just finished reading The Bone Clocks which I really enjoyed, and am now reading “Buried Giant”. I like it but it's moving more slowly....I need a new young adult recommendation. Any good new dystopic ones?

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    The Noble RenardAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:18pm

    Hey Jezzies! So, after quite a while without any more time off than a three day weekend, I’m taking a vacation with the lady friend!! I’ll be gone for three weeks, and exploring (but hopefully not Columbusing) the other side of the world.

    So, in the spirit of temporarily dropping off the face of the earth (this is a lie, every hotel will have Internet and I’ll still be here from time to time), tell me vacation dreams! What was your best vacation, or what place do you dream about going to?

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      yonofuifueteteThe Noble Renard
      5/21/16 7:22pm

      Best vacation was a year ago when I got to see my guy for the first time since our LDR started. We went to a colonial town in Mexico for a friend’s wedding, saw him for three days then stayed with my friend for the rest of the week hanging out after work with her and her new hubby (wasn’t weird, she was totally into me staying ‘cause we hardly see each other). It was a great time.

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      arewemenoramidevoThe Noble Renard
      5/21/16 7:24pm

      Right now, the dream is to get a motorcycle and hit the open road.

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    Fuzzy SocksAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:20pm

    Hey Jezzies! I have a weird dead pet question. Two weeks ago we had to have the family dog put to sleep. She was 13, and having health problems for a while, but her actual death was pretty sudden.

    She was the first dog that was ever “mine" - she never lived outside the home with me but she slept in my bed and cried whenever I left the house. I knew I couldn't handle burying her, so I had her cremated. Now her ashes are ready to be picked up from the vet but I have absolutely no idea what to do with them. Bury them? Make a little shrine on my dresser with pictures and her old collars? Anyone done this?

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      IsitdrunkoclockyetFuzzy Socks
      5/21/16 7:32pm

      I just keep mine in a box. Like, a specific box in my closet dedicated to boxes/urns of ashes of loved ones. I also have some of my mom’s ashes in there along with the ashes of my kitties and photos of them. I had them on a shelf, but then I got kittens and was terrified the monsters would knock the ashes and frames all over the floor, so the boxes and photos went into storage in my memory box.

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaFuzzy Socks
      5/21/16 7:38pm

      Several times. Usually I kept them in a box, with a photo, and once also with a ceramic pawprint that the vet’s office was kind enough to make for me. Eventually I felt ready to let go, and disposed of them in ways I felt appropriate to each pet. One had loved the water; her ashes went into the ocean. Or you can bury them, or scatter them under a tree, or whatever feels right at the time.

      Sorry for your loss. It’s especially hard with the first one that’s really yours.

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    Butter Nutter MilkshakeAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:12pm

    Emily has a new toy, so she is a very happy kitty. Her face is always so serious looking in photos, but she has a really charming face and actually a very sweet cat smile.

    I got my hair chopped off even shorter, so it is kinda like Ginnifer Goodwin style? I really like it, but I don’t know how long I am going to enjoy having such short hair. I had a dream a weak ago where my hair was long and beautifully curled (it doesn’t like being curled much) and I woke up and was like, huh.

    Now to drink rose and pretend it is not snowing on Saturday in May.

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      IsitdrunkoclockyetButter Nutter Milkshake
      5/21/16 7:25pm

      PIXIE POWER! I chopped my hair off when I was 28. I let it grow out one year when I was... 42? Mainly to see what it would look like. And then I got fed up with long hair and chopped it all off again again last year, and I haven’t even *considered* growing it out again.

      It might take a bit of getting used to after an abrupt and dramatic change, but I love it and am actually kicking myself for the year when I let it grow out. Today was actually haircut day. My hair wasn’t *long*, but it was touching my forehead, and I hate that. It finally occurred to me that I could, uh, GET IT CUT and fix that issue.

      And this also means that if you’re a makeup person, you can play around with makeup because you might need to change things up. Like, your eyeliner approach might be different, and your cheekbones might need to have a different focus on them.

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      Myra FlectionButter Nutter Milkshake
      5/21/16 7:38pm

      Hi Emily!!! Has she become a lap cat yet ?

      My boy would spend hours on me if I let him. Ugh. Really miss him. Seeing your pictures every week really has me thinking about adopting again.

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    yonofuifueteteAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:12pm

    Question:

    How do you gals deal with birth control? Are you on the pill? Are you on the patch? Do you have an IUD? Condoms?

    Do you ever freak out about missed periods? Even when condoms were used?

    Would love to hear your stories and how you handle things.

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      Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshityonofuifuetete
      5/21/16 7:17pm

      I just replied to someone else above but I have the Mirena IUD and I love it. I haven’t had a period since Novemberish. The first 6ish months were rough, I got monthly bad IUD cramps but that’s all settled down now. Really the best decision I’ve ever made in that regard. I wish more women knew about it. IUDs forever!!

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      yonofuifueteteCaptain Janeway has no time for your bullshit
      5/21/16 7:19pm

      Thanks, i’ll look into it.

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    BringBackPhrasingAimée Lutkin
    5/21/16 7:02pm

    Good evening, Jezzies! I have been waiting and waiting for this, I really need your sage advice. I actually made a burner account just for this because I don’t want this problem getting linked to my real life.

    Okay. So. I have a very complicated family of origin. There was a lot of abuse and neglect. One parent abandoned me as a small child and now lives in desperate poverty. The other is relatively wealthy (very wealthy on the scale of all people; poor in comparison to what’s coming next, so hold off, I know relatively is a ridiculous qualifier but here it fits) but also very abusive, and as soon as I was an adult I stopped taking any money from them (including money for basic stuff like housing; I was homeless for a couple months before I got my own financial shit together somewhat). I really, really, really value not depending on anyone else financially. II am disgusted by the way my wealthy parent uses money to control people and I’m saddened by the poverty the other parent can’t break free from. I have a distant relationship from my family, so none of those are issues that really impact my day to day life.

    BUT. For the past year there has been a guy with such a big crush on me that he couldn’t get out words and could only stammer when he tried to talk to me. He wasn’t my usual type but he was just so sweet and persistent (in a respectful way!) that he warmed my heart and I started dating him. I really like him. He’s funny and gentle and kind. It seems like he genuinely is interested in me as a person and not as a sex object. It turns out that his family is worth BILLIONS of dollars.

    I’m really struggling with all of that. I’m struggling with the obvious class difference, I’m struggling with my feelings about one family hoarding that much money (what they spend on a single private jet ride could change my impoverished parent’s life forever), I’m struggling with whether his family would view me as a hanger-on, etc. I’m struggling because he’s never had to work and never will, and I think I want an ambitious partner, but it’s also not his fault who he was born to. Help! Have you ever had to deal with a class difference this severe? How do I be polite and grateful without being annoying about how fancy everything in his life is? Can this be surmounted? I’m sorry this is so long, I can’t ask anyone I know about this. I don’t want anyone to know.

    Tldr: I’m white trash and it turns out the guy I am dating has billions of dollars. I feel weird about it. How can I make that okay?

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      ChocolateChipWaffleBringBackPhrasing
      5/21/16 7:05pm

      I have absolutely no idea, but if he has a brother, send him my way.

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      stroderealtyBringBackPhrasing
      5/21/16 7:10pm

      Ugh. I once dated a man whose family had multiple homes, maids, 2 cooks, a chauffeur, and membership at a very exclusive country club. I ultimately found that the way he was raised and the environment I would be expected to be in were things that I couldn’t accept. But every situation is different and if this man cares about you rand you care about him, why not give it a go?

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