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    LaMorenaRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:23am

    Man, more power to any new mom who can get an hour or two to herself (or out with her husband, girlfriends, etc.). You suddenly feel like everything you have belongs to a tiny, adorable, demanding creature. A brief respite to wear clean clothes and engage with adults can help keep you sane.

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      schuretteLaMorena
      4/25/16 9:28am

      I remember after giving birth to my son being super depressed that I couldn’t BF. So my husband said: let’s make the best of it and go have lunch. Not a luxury many new parents can enjoy!

      And frankly - it was the first time I felt better and not like a failure. What pisses me off about this is that people are pissed about parents having parent time after birth. Why is that a bad thing?! I just don't get it.

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      MissAndryLaMorena
      4/25/16 9:28am

      Seriously. I spent about 2 hours yesterday babysitting my friend’s 3 week old so her and her husband could go out and have a meal together and after those 2 hours I basically threw the baby at them and ran out of the house. Taking care of a newborn is no joke. I can’t imagine how badly new parents need a few hours to themselves!

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    randilynisFINDILYNRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:14am

    My mom and my sister’s MIL literally threw my sister in the shower, colluded with her husband and kicked her out for their night alone with the baby. I suspect that my niece remembers nothing.

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      fondue processrandilynisFINDILYN
      4/25/16 9:15am

      randi you cant just change your picture like that with no warning

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      Masshole JamesrandilynisFINDILYN
      4/25/16 9:17am

      Is this our Randilynbeginagain? I mean, that avatar...

      GIF
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    thebloodofthematadorRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:17am

    I’m very tired of the idea that moms have to be 100% dedicated to their children— especially their small children— and never let them leave their side or enjoy anything without them. What happens when your kids grow up and leave home (which they will) and you’ve spent the last 20 years erasing your identity to become “Mommy?”

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      reachoutbitchthebloodofthematador
      4/25/16 9:20am

      Martyr Mommies unite! Engage JUDGEMENT! Activate CONDESCENSION!

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      TheLibrariennethebloodofthematador
      4/25/16 9:26am

      They become helicopter parents and ruin the lives of everyone who works at the precious angel’s university and job as well as subsequent spouse(s)?

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    PerraviejaRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:18am

    I wonder how many of those “I would never leave my babies” are the same ones shushing me AT THE BAR so I don’t wake up their babies. (I’m looking at you, lady with the blue sweater and the baby sling thing.)

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      MissAndryPerravieja
      4/25/16 9:30am

      One time at a bar after a Jets game I spilled a beer on someone's baby. The woman yelled at me and I just said that's what you get for having a baby in a bar.

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      SnapTestMissAndry
      4/25/16 9:34am

      Hero

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    FrankieBooLovesYouRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:14am

    None of the concern trolls seem to be upset that John left his nine days old to have a meal....

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      SqarrFrankieBooLovesYou
      4/25/16 9:22am

      Truth.

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      SnapTestFrankieBooLovesYou
      4/25/16 9:34am

      Ding ding ding!

      But no, women are totes just as valued as individuals in our society and not just incubators/species propagaters, sexism doesn’t exist, the end

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    justachickRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 10:14am
    GIF

    OMG this Chrissy person is my new best friend. YAAAAAAS. it’s soo true. I have a 6 month-old, and I still get “but how can you leave her” when I go somewhere for like 2 hours while she’s with my professional nanny. WTF? They act as if a trip to try on some pants or have dinner with my husband is like I left her sitting alone somewhere to go get hammered in a seedy bar (which by the way the bar part sounds really like a good idea now that i mention it...).

    I was talking to a close personal friend, who is like someone who I share the same opinion on many things. I said I feel that it makes me a better parent to grab a few hours of ‘me time’ every week. (Walk to the grocery store alone, have a coffee and sit somewhere, buy deodorant and take time to smell the different ones. you know, really crazy stuff) Her answer: “well, I am really close to my baby.” WTF. Like I’m not. This is what we do to each other, women. This is what we do.

    Me and Chrissy will be over here wondering WTF is wrong with the rest of you. Oh Jezebel commenters, please don’t let me down on this one.

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      mizchanandlerbongjustachick
      4/25/16 10:53am

      I’m with you. I’m close to my baby too, but I know it makes me a better mother/person if I’m able to separate myself from her and get some time for me. It’s good for her too, in my completely unscientific opinion. I think it helps her adjust better to different situations and people. Some people give up everything when they become parents. Those are the people who wind up with nothing to talk to their partners about over dinner when the kids finally move out of the house because they’ve spent the last 18 years doing nothing but catering to the whims of their children.

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      snakebitejustachick
      4/25/16 11:23am

      I am pregnant with a baby now and already fear the people who will say this shit to me. It is nuts—it’s fine to have someone else give you support and some time apart from the kid. And honestly, if leaving your baby is as hard as so many people make it sound, it’s better for everyone, baby included, to get used to it early on. Chrissy and John both have very demanding careers. There are going to be times when they are away and the baby will need to be watched by a sitter or family member. Going to eat something without your baby isn’t the same as tying it to a tree and abandoning it with a sign that says FREE BABY. It’s fine for moms who really don’t want to leave their kids ever, but I don’t believe that’s how most of them feel. I really think many of them don’t get enough support and/or are worried about being judged. Who REALLY wants to be needed that constantly? My dogs even exhaust me sometimes.

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    bitcholaporvidaRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:31am

    I didn’t leave my one week old baby to go to a bar, I went to Target, and it was the most magical Target visit ever. There wasn’t a tiny human demanding everything from me, I didn’t feel anxious about not being able to make her happy every second of the day, I didn’t have my other kid screaming at me in jealousy..who wants to leave a one week old baby? Every sane mother. Because that’s how you stay sane, by getting away every once in a while.

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      darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeenebitcholaporvida
      4/25/16 9:56am

      that’s when you saunter into that starbucks by the front door and MAKE AN EVENT OUT OF IT!! “why yes, I will investigate every comforter in the bedding department, thank you”

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      Michiganderbitcholaporvida
      4/25/16 10:05am

      I had this exact Target visit. I was trying to explain to a friend who was about to have her first baby that those first few weeks can be weird and hard and that she should be very, very kind to herself. When I read this story I am only impressed that Chrissy managed to be out late enough to have dinner - I think I was practically asleep by 7:30 every night for months.

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    Memorykid-9Rachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:15am

    Hell hath no fury like the uninvolved.

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      4/25/16 9:21am
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      Novel SolutionMemorykid-9
      4/25/16 10:22am

      I want to star this so many times.

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    kitteneyeRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:29am

    Not sure why I know this, but doesn’t Chrissy’s mother live with them? How horrifying that you would let the grandmother take care of the kid for a few hours!

    Regardless, I think that it would do most new parents a world of good if someone stepped in and said “I am watching the baby tonight, go out to dinner and remember that you are your own person for an hour or so.”

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      dcgirl13kitteneye
      4/25/16 9:51am

      My mother is pretty horrified by how rare it is for lots of my friends to go out as a couple without their kids. Especially because she knows I like kids and have offered to baby sit. Like she thinks it’s bad for their marriages.

      I think she has learned that it’s different than when she was a stay at home mom with young children and standards for vetting your sitter were lower. But still.

      My sister has two regular sitters that she admits she hopes take 5 years to finish college because she’s not sure how she’ll replace them.

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      zap rowsdowerkitteneye
      4/25/16 10:02am

      I was going to say the same thing. Her mom was probably more than happy to watch the baby so Chrissy could have some time for herself.

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    Amy'sOwlRachel Vorona Cote
    4/25/16 9:34am

    I left my newborn son in the care of my mom when he was one week old. My husband and I went to our friends’ wedding for a few hours, and I hear from my mom that she never put the baby down once, because, you know, that’s what many grandmas do! I guess I’m a bad parent just like Chrissy Teigen. /s

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      SnapTestAmy'sOwl
      4/25/16 9:35am

      Stars, they’re just like us!

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      ecchic889Amy'sOwl
      4/25/16 11:50am

      My nephew gets WAAAAAAAAY more attention when my mom or me is watching than when his parents are.

      Because his parents are exhausted and need to do shit like laundry and cook and bathe themselves. And my mom and I perfectly happy to obsess over his every coo and giggle and moment because we only have to do it for, like, two hours at a time.

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