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    DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1Aimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:02pm

    BEAUTY THREAD!

    Please star to keep it near the top.

    I finally tried one of the Pur-lisse masks I got in my ipsy bag, and it was amazing! It was the Blue Lotus and White Tea mask.

    My skin is calm. It’s actually calm. The oily t-zone chilled out, and the drier areas feel soft. No break-outs. The mask was wet and gooey—seriously drippy, put it on over a sink—and felt kind of gross, but the results were worth it. However, the price is an issue. $8 each, or 6 for $36. I’m still waiting for my Innisfree masks, and I’m looking forward to comparing them. But I may still splurge for a set of these to use once or twice a month.

    I’m hoping someone has a suggestion for a lavender toned blush. I’m not having a lot of luck, except there’s one MAC possibility, but it’s hard to tell from the computer screen. It’s called Full of Joy

    Has anyone tried it? Honestly, I hate going to the mall, and Sephora drives me up a wall with the music and noise. I hate competing for help at Macy’s, and I don’t shop at Nordstrom because I worked there years ago and they screwed me over.

    Meanwhile, I’m mourning my youth once again, listening to Prince on repeat and ordering import CDs.

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      KrisDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      4/23/16 7:05pm

      Urban decay revolution lippies on sale for $11 today only. You have to sign up for the free junkie service, but you will also get free shipping.

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      Surprise! HippopotamusDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      4/23/16 7:06pm

      Benefit does a cheek stain that’s quite lavender-ish! It’s called lollitint.

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    Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.Aimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:22pm

    Okay, A FEW THINGS!

    1.)

    Vladimir is having none of it. He is done with this terrible week/weekend.

    2.) I read a few okay books this week but this week was a bad week for mental health so I listened to the audio book for ‘Furiously Happy’ by Jenny Lawson. It is such a good book. I have read it several times but having the author read it to me and feeling less alone in my fucked up head was really nice.

    3.) I am getting ready to go to the craft store. I haven’t been in months because mostly I haven’t felt like making anything. Depression and anxiety steal the things that make me happy like that. Maybe I’ll post a craft haul when I get back. I know you all really care about crafting. (You totally don’t)

    4.) are any of you guys going to CatConLA?

    Okay! That is it! Tell me things. What are you crafting? Reading? Doing!? HHOW ARE YOU? Kitty pictures!? Let's do thiiiis!

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      4/23/16 7:29pm

      OMG, there are a lot of people on here who craft. I knit and sew (although they’ve gone by the wayside the last couple of years with too much going on in my life).

      I love Jenny Lawson, and I’ve been considering buying the audiobooks. Thank you for the recommendation. Most of the time—there are exceptions—the author reading the book adds so much to it.

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      MarillenbaumOctopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      4/23/16 7:35pm

      I haven’t made anything in FOREVER! I like to knit, but with work and depression and realizing that my new niece is growing FAR too fast for me to make her a decent baby sweater, I’m coming up blank. Plus, I’m moving in a month, so I don’t want to even think about starting anything. I need to go through some knitting magazines and at least get inspired for what I want to knit once I move into my new place.

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    mscoffeeAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:02pm

    Chag sameach to my fellow constipated Jews!

    In the past, I’ve posted about my awesome local nail place with the friendly owner. I’ve also posted pictures of my manicures obtained from that place. Some kind people here have complimented my hands/fingers/nails. Well... the owner is going to be writing some manicure-related blog posts for a lifestyle site, and she asked me to be her hand model! I’m probably more excited about this than I should be... I’m getting paid in free manicures, ha. Anyway, thought you all might be amused by this: I’m now your friendly neighborhood Ms. Coffee: lawyer by day, hand model by night!

    How’s your weekend? (And please show me your fancy nails if you have them!)

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1mscoffee
      4/23/16 7:04pm

      No, nail photos, as I’m waiting for the new minerals to work, but I’m wondering if anyone has used Darling Diva nail polish?

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      AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWmscoffee
      4/23/16 7:07pm

      Chag sameach! I’m a terrible Jew and am not doing pesach at all this year. But I’m not a practicing Jew so whatever. ;) Congrats on being a hand model!!! My hands are super gross and hangnail-y so no manicures for now.

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    DalismoustacheAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:30pm

    How do you deal with the rejection of telling someone you love them and the other person not reciprocating? And when asked if he would ever feel that way or whether he needs space he replies that he doesn’t know. An ex fucked him up majorly and he has trust issues.

    I told him to forget it.

    At the moment im trying to bury the pain. We’re still meeting (a lot) and he acts happy to see me and is very affectionate. Im happy to be with him but at times it’s literally like im under a black cloud.

    I just feel stupid like I totally misread the situation but he was the one who first mentioned being exclusive and also he was the one who said i was the first person he trusted and wanted to spend time with after the ex debacle.

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaDalismoustache
      4/23/16 7:33pm

      Distance, and keeping myself busy with other people, have always helped me when I was suffering unrequited feelings. Spending time together just reinforces it.

      The separation is hard at first but it does get easier, whereas remaining in stasis doesn’t.

      Whatever you decide to do, I hope you’ll be feeling better about it before too long.

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      LaChavalinaDalismoustache
      4/23/16 7:39pm

      I’ve been there so I know how much it hurts. Honestly, it’s happened to me twice and the relationship has never really recovered from it... but I guess the “I don’t know” response is better than what I got.

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    Butter Nutter MilkshakeAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:18pm

    Emily and I had a real moment today! She decided to sit on my lap and nap for a while, which she has never done before. I hope this progress of bonding isn’t ruined next week when nail trimming and vet visit is planned. She’ll hate me forever, poor girl.

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      Myra FlectionButter Nutter Milkshake
      4/23/16 7:25pm

      Hi Emily ! God youre so adorable. We had a computer scare yesterday and Mr Flection though he had accidentally deleted all our pictures. We have, I don’t know how many pictures of our now deceased kitty. It would have awful to lose them.

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      Myra FlectionButter Nutter Milkshake
      4/23/16 7:33pm

      Basking n the sun was the best activity.

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    I'm Fart and I'm SmunnyAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:15pm

    Okay, gonna have a little pet owner venting here.

    These past couple of weeks have been so rough with my poor pooch *Gross Alert* I don’t know if any of you have had the pleasure of dealing with an anal gland infection, but my dog has had one (the first issue with her anal glands in her 13 years), for weeks. I brought her in when they were full and there was no infection, and then I take her back 2 weeks later because all of the sudden she is leaking bloody anal gland fluid everywhere. She also had lost 3 pounds and my vet scared me a bit by saying at first she thought it was anal gland cancer, but thankfully she felt no mass and every time we have gone in for a check up there continues to be no mass. But unfortunately the first round of antibiotics didn’t work and she is now going on two weeks with an apparently very uncomfortable and kind of painful infection in her cute little booty.

    Also, as much as I’m grateful that it is an infection and not cancer, the smell of infected anal gland fluid is probably the most disgusting thing I have ever smelled in my life. But I still let her cuddle with me because she is obviously in discomfort and needs all the love she can get. I just make sure to wear clothes I don’t care about throwing out, anyways.

    *End of grossness*

    And not to make this an essay of a post, but can you guys help me out with what is considered business casual? I have two events this week because I got into this honors society and also I got a scholarship from this women’s group, so I have to dress “business casual” at an induction ceremony and the luncheon to thank the scholarship donors. But I have no idea what to wear without looking like I’m going on a job interview.

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      BenjaminSmuttinsI'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      4/23/16 7:22pm

      I would err on the side of a but dressier business casual since you are the recipient. I would recommend a simple sundress and cardigan if you are in the warm part of the world, or slacks and buttondown or nice sweater if you are in a chillier climate. Since scholarships tend to be given by old people, I would probably also go towards conservative styles. Congrats on your scholarship and good luck!

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1I'm Fart and I'm Smunny
      4/23/16 7:25pm

      I’m sorry about your poor baby. That’s horrible.

      Business casual for an event: skirt or tailored pants, twin set or blouse and casual jacket, scarf or necklace or brooch. You want to look put together but not like you’re appearing at a board meeting. Pretty much something you wouldn’t mind posterity seeing you wear in a photograph.

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    deerlady83Aimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:15pm

    Some of you know this has been a trying three days because my dad had to go into the hospital for pneumonia in both of his lungs. At first, we thought he had low blood sugar because he is a diabetic. His blood sugar was normal. My mom wanted to call the EMTs but he said no. She finally called when he fall out of bed and couldn’t get back up. We have big dent in the wall from his fall. We spent the night with him until he was transferred into another hospital. That was the first day.

    The second day we visited him and he was doing way better. His blood pressure was up in normal range. He was on oxygen. He had an appetite and he could move around better. My mom and I were tired from the night before and we crashed when we got home.

    Today, dad was well enough to go home. The doctors were impressed with how fast he recovered. He’s home right now and is on all kinds of meds. We have a new rule that we call the EMTs when either of my parents fall. Also, dad has to go to the doctor if he comes down with the cold or flu. He thought he just had the flu. He has COPD and he’s a disabled veteran. He’s going to talk to the VA to see if we can get a machine to measure the oxygen levels in his blood.

    My mom is feeling guilty she didn’t call sooner. It sounded like he might have died if it continue to be left treated. I’m trying to convince her she did call and next time we’ll know to do this. We have a plan.

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      PinkBunnyHatdeerlady83
      4/23/16 7:19pm

      That’s so scary. It’s much easier to tell someone else it’s not their fault than to not blame yourself, I still have guilt about my dad dying almost eight years ago because I didn’t say anything about him seeming really unwell and out of breath the day before he died.

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      Myra Flectiondeerlady83
      4/23/16 7:22pm

      Glad to hear he's ok. I've worked in hospitals for 30 years so trust me when I tell you many, many people don't come in when they should. Actually health care workers are often the worst. There's people who don't get any testing because of fear. So anyway your mom should in no way feel guilty. It's simply human nature to assume that whatever is going on is not that serious . It will pass. Just consider it a wake up call.

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    crankylittlephotonAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:34pm

    Evening, folks!

    Well, this week has been SHIT. Found out my highest-ranking employee (who enjoys her rank because I fought for her to get the promotion) went to the CEO to complain about my “difficult personality.” She never said a word to me. Even better, she’s been unbelievably passive-aggresive to me in front of other staff for several weeks now. Very undermining to my position, to say the least. The CEO took me aside and gave me the opportunity to save her or to fire her. Being the dumbass that I am, I chose to save her, despite what amounts to a pretty huge betrayal. The best part, though? I went to the CEO to let him know that I took the high road, and instead of being impressed that I kept it classy and professional, I got a 45 minute lecture on how I should be more feminine and empathetic.

    I HATE EVERYTHING RIGHT NOW.

    Apropos of nothing, I watched the season premiere of Million Dollar Listing New York, and I think Luis is an immature prick.

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      Marillenbaumcrankylittlephoton
      4/23/16 7:43pm

      Okay, your CEO needs to SHUT THE FUCK UP with that bullshit about being “feminine and empathetic”. That is stupid, it’s bad business advice, and it’s unprofessional.

      And your employee sounds like a rotten person. I’m not sure what advice I have to offer, except that you should definitely check out the Ask A Manager blog; she might have something in the archives that deals with a situation like yours, but she does also take and answer questions pretty regularly.

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1crankylittlephoton
      4/23/16 8:00pm

      I am an old, and I have learned to not save backstabbers ever. They don’t grow out of their behavior. If you have firing power, use it. And fuck feminine and empathetic; that gets you nowhere.

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    AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 7:03pm

    Hi Jezzies! Happy Saturday! I would love some input and perspective. I’m at an interesting time in my life. Mr. Antisocial applied for a commission with the armed forces that he’ll hear back about next week and we don’t know what’s going to happen with us if he gets it. I recently got a job that I love here at home on the West Coast, after doing the same job in the Midwest and transferring (we were long-distance then). I worked hard to get back here and I don’t want to leave yet, especially since I’ve been here less than a year. BUT, I do have the kind of job where I would likely be able to transfer almost anywhere in the US or its territories. That being said, we’re not married so we wouldn’t have any legal recourse should we want to live together/should I want a transfer while he’s stationed somewhere. Also we’re not at a point where we’re thinking about marriage yet, but we definitely don’t want to break up either. But also long distance sucks. Ugh.

    Then there’s the issue of my career, for which I need to get a graduate degree if I want to advance more (I do, eventually). But the more I advance, the less flexibility I get job-wise (there’s always a need for people in my current position, but there just aren’t as many job openings for proper scientists in my agency as there are for technicians). So basically I’m looking at potentially (though not necessarily) sacrificing my own career aspirations if I choose to follow Mr. Antisocial. Also, I have a really great potential opportunity to do a master’s thesis here that’s connected to my current job, so I want to jump on that while I can. I would be cool with getting a job elsewhere once that’s done, I think. I’m just worried that there won’t be one for me once I get my master’s.

    Anyone else ever been in similar shoes? Any words of wisdom? Internet hugs? Cute animal gifs? Thank you! <3

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      DanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJW
      4/23/16 7:09pm

      My first husband was 18 years older than me and had built a career, although it took a serious hit during the early 80s recession. I kept setting aside school and jobs to follow him, and when he died suddenly and unexpectedly, it left me in a very weak position financially. I don’t know if I would have changed anything, because I really wasn’t happy with where I was living at the time we met, and I’ve been very happy here in California, but I do know I should have pushed harder to go to school (no online options then, and very few distance learning options), but that’s on me.

      Good luck, and I sincerely wish you the best, whatever your decision.

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      AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWDanceswithPeeps The Burner v2.1
      4/23/16 7:13pm

      Thank you for your wisdom! I’m sorry about your first husband. And I’m definitely going to make grad school a priority once I figure out how to make it work.

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    I'm burning I'm burning I'm burning for youAimée Lutkin
    4/23/16 8:36pm

    Where the hell is Mindymoo and why did she delete her twitter account?

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaI'm burning I'm burning I'm burning for you
      4/23/16 8:41pm

      I didn’t know she’d left Twitter too... darn. We followed each other there but I don’t use it much, so I didn’t realize.

      Anyway: The short version, she got bullied off the Kinja sites by a group of trolls who choose specific people to follow around and harass. Incredible choice of target, right? She couldn’t be nicer! Damnedest thing.

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      Fuzzy SocksDontBeSuchaBoobPunchTina
      4/23/16 8:53pm

      It really sucks that that happened to her, she was so nice! I miss her “hey jezzies, whatcha drinkin?” posts.

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