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    randilynisFINDILYNClover Hope
    3/29/16 11:16am

    I wouldn’t do 20 years old again for anything in the world. For me, at least, everything was dire and forever and beyond repair. I don’t mean to say that this is a reflection of immaturity on her part but if you’re lucky an old mind becomes a “wise mind”. Sending her positive thoughts.

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      BathtubSturandilynisFINDILYN
      3/29/16 11:35am

      I agree. Even for millions of dollars I wouldn’t relive that period of my life. Adulthood is the greatest thing I’ve ever experienced.

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      VIRTUAL BRITrandilynisFINDILYN
      3/29/16 11:41am

      I look back at being 20 years old and in REAL love for the first time... Man, I did some crazy shit when we broke up. I couldn’t handle it. I didn’t sleep... I couldn’t eat... I was texting (T9ing on my Razr like CRAZY) and crying. Showing up at his parents and crying. Hanging out with friends of his friends just to possibly see him. Literally borderline crazy behavior. I thought something was wrong with me and was definitely threatening to kill myself because the thought of not being with out him would drive me insane. I wouldn’t wish a 20 year old break up on anyone. I took me AT LEAST a year to get over it.

      Fast forward 6 years - my hormones matured and break ups were fixed easily with a few bottles of wine and pizza.


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    The Real UnsharerClover Hope
    3/29/16 11:05am

    If you’re in the US and are thinking of taking your own life, call 1-800-273-8255 (the National Suicide Prevention Hotline).

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      A SPOOKY GHOST!The Real Unsharer
      3/29/16 11:06am

      Bumping the best comment here.

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      burn baby burnThe Real Unsharer
      3/29/16 12:16pm

      In the US you can also text Crisis Text Line at 741741 if you feel more comfortable texting

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    JessieClover Hope
    3/29/16 10:43am

    Any young person who commits or attempts suicide breaks my heart. I totally understand it, but it breaks my heart. I was suicidal at 21 myself, and several times I came very close to attempting. But instead I went into therapy. It helped me save my life.

    I look back now at all the people I would have missed meeting and loving, and all the things I never would have done or been around for...

    And I just want to say to these young women and men... It can and does get better. It’s not always easy, and therapy was a painful and hard road, but it helped me get to where I am today. I’m happy, and I didn’t even know what that was when I was 21.

    EDIT: Sorry, for specifically focusing on youth. It was just in my own experience that when I was younger it was harder for me to believe that any situation could be temporary.

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      Ken YadiggitJessie
      3/29/16 2:36pm

      I am glad you got better and my heart breaks to know you went through all that in your youth. I’ve known too many beautiful young people who struggle and it’s just devastating to watch,..but, I must say as a general argument (not specifically against yourself!) I really hate it when people use the “it’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem...it gets better!” argument.

      It is not going to get better for some people. I cannot foresee any change in my biological makeup that will make my anxiety and depression go away. Sometimes it feels like the people who try and tell me to stay because there is a chance it might be better...aren’t really listening to how much pain someone suffering from depression can be in. It hurts to exist. Physically and emotionally hurts and it feels like anyone who wants me to continue being in this pain for the rest of my life is the selfish one. It ruins my life, it ruins any good days I DO have, it will be with me for the rest of my life and something that I, and only myself, will have to deal with.

      Obviously this is just my opinion, I know of plenty of people who are glad their attempts at hurting themselves didn’t work out. But honestly most of the time I just don’t want to be here.

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      Scavenger ReyJessie
      3/29/16 4:16pm

      I know that talking about things on the internet can feel an awful lot like shouting into the void but I wanted to let you know that I think what you’ve said is heartwarming and it’s something that I may have needed to hear just now.

      I’m 22 and things... Aren’t easy right now. People always say that it gets better and whatever else but I can tell that you mean it and that’s important. So thank you.

      :)

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    PerraviejaClover Hope
    3/29/16 10:43am

    Apparently she was getting lots of hate on social media after PND posted that photo of them in bed. Poor girl. And just when her professional life got a bump this week.

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      SodburgerPerravieja
      3/29/16 10:55am

      yikes, the trolls on this article are already being extremely rude

      I like Kehlani’s music. I also really like PND’s music.

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      AntisocialJusticeWarrior is not Anti-SJWPerravieja
      3/29/16 11:08am

      RIGHT?! HE posts that photo (was it even from the past few days? was it time stamped? was he just posting a past photo of them together to try to get some attention from her or from the public?) and SHE’S the one who gets shat on by the Internet Mob. What the hell. I’m not familiar with any of these people but I really hope she gets the love, support, and help she needs.

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    pibberClover Hope
    3/29/16 10:41am

    Couldn’t imagine speaking publicly about a suicide attempt. I hope people treat her kindly and she is able to get what she needs.

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      j4x_pibber
      3/29/16 10:51am

      I can barely speak with my best friends and family about my disorder or my time in a mental facility.

      Thinking about it, I would rather be in a car accident than talk about my suicide attempt with them.

      Not only would it break their hearts, it is the kind of story that causes everyone alive to treat you like a cracked egg.

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      Luaj4x_
      3/29/16 10:59am

      I had felt so alone and abandoned by everyone I never could tell my friends and family about my attempts.

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    AP BearClover Hope
    3/29/16 11:07am

    I am not familiar with any of the three people involved in this story. But I hope her ‘goodbye Instagram’ is a goodbye to all social media.

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      ktfrightAP Bear
      3/29/16 11:28am

      Kyrie Erving -basketball player for the Cleveland Cavs

      Kehlani - popular R&B singer

      PARTYNEXTDOOR - singer signed to Drakes OVO label

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      AP Bearktfright
      3/29/16 12:20pm

      I read the description. Still not familiar with their music/sporting careers. Sure that they are lovely all around. My car radio is broke, and I don’t have much time to explore new artists. Don’t watch any form of sportsball (although I am familiar with a few of the well-known athletes Curry, Lebron, Ciara’s husband.)

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    motaviaClover Hope
    3/29/16 11:24am

    I’m torn on this one. On the one hand, I hope she gets the help she needs. I’ve been struggling with suicidal ideations for a long time, and even spent some time in the hospital as a result a few months back. To legitimately want to end your life is a terrible place to be. The only reason I’m still alive is because I love my son more than I hate myself (for the time being).

    On the other hand, I hate myself because my exwife cheated and left me for another man while I was deployed to Iraq. I normally have little to no sympathy for cheaters. So I really hope the cheating allegations against her are false.

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      zap rowsdowermotavia
      3/29/16 11:50am

      You’re really going to hold fast to that rule about a 20 year old? I have major issues with cheating due to my past but I made a lot of less than admirable decisions when I was her age.

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      motaviazap rowsdower
      3/29/16 12:00pm

      I would think less of her if it was true, yes. Being young isn’t a free pass to deliberately and maliciously use people.

      That being said, I hope it's not true, and that she gets the help she needs.

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    Calls From the PublicClover Hope
    3/29/16 2:02pm

    Robert DeNiro, take note. THIS is a conversation that needs to happen. Forget about fake science scaremongering and open up the conversation on mental health. The stigma surrounding mental health in our culture is fucking real, and the shame it carries keeps so many people from sharing their experiences or seeking help. I applaud Kehlani, and anyone else (famous or not) who speaks openly about mental health issues. THIS NEEDS TO BE NORMALIZED!!!!! I know instagram might teach us otherwise, but real life life is not a constant stream of perfectly executed sunset yoga poses or enlightened cleanses on a mountaintop. Some times real life is those things, but a lot of other times it is desperately trying to pull yourself out of bed but only making it as far as the couch. AND THAT’S OKAY!!! It is OKAY to share both the light and the dark. It’s OKAY to feel sad, angry, lost or scared. It’s OKAY to ask for help. And you are not weird or bad or abnormal for doing so! LET’S TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH AND SELF CARE!!!!!!

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      Mrs. FingerbottomClover Hope
      3/29/16 10:44am

      There’s no way the internet isn’t going to be a huge asshole about this.

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        IHateGoatsPartDeuxClover Hope
        3/29/16 12:17pm

        That poor girl. I’ve been there and it hurts my heart to look at those pictures.

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