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    Slay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)Marie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:10pm

    Hey Jezztones,

    That dorky Hallmark instigated heart shaped conspiracy holiday is coming up. For those that might not be blessed in bliss - what are people’s favorite ways to distract yourself from it?

    (or is it it just a universal chocolate, ice cream and sappy netflix movies all the way round? :P)

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      MargieBonzSlay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)
      1/30/16 7:15pm

      I like to get sick on that holiday. Just as a way of avoiding it all together. But, I suppose I will be in my sweatpants, drinking pink prosecco and watching action movies.

      Also, because I am still a child, my grandmother sends me a card and some money for candy. So I gorge myself on Reeses Peanut Butter Hearts.

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      MissAndrySlay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)
      1/30/16 7:19pm

      I like to go out with other single friends for dinner and then watch a horror movie. It’s a nice antidote to the forced lovey-dovey nature of Valentine’s Day.

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    LOREM IPSUMMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:02pm

    Hey Jezzies, whatcha drinking? Lemon ginger Kevita tonight for me, but last night I had a Sierra Nevada Narwhal stout. It was actually quite good. I’m trying new stouts because I’ve been drinking mainly Old Rasputin and Dragon’s Milk for the last couple years, and it’s time for something different.

    My class is still going well. More blackface/minstrel show stuff this week, which was tedious, but then there was interesting stuff too. Did you know there was a theater riot that ended up with the death of over two dozen people in 1849? Or that “A Christmas Carol” was pretty much a work of propaganda? It’s quite fascinating stuff, a lot of which would make amazing segments on the series “Drunk History”. Learned a bit more on that crazy bastard P.T. Barnum, too, and how he became a teetotaler and wanted his establishment to be respectable, so he held anti-liquor plays and had his patrons sign teetotaling pledges.

    Now, here’s a selection from Mindymoo’s Mixtape. A great track from The Kinks, which was originally released as a B-Side to the single “Sunny Afternoon”.

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      anyah8sbunniesLOREM IPSUM
      1/30/16 7:05pm

      Hooper’s Strawberry Elderflower... probably the last one till summer

      I had no idea A Christmas Carol was propaganda! For what?

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      iseedeaddaleksLOREM IPSUM
      1/30/16 7:07pm

      Not Your Father’s Root Beer!

      I didn’t realize “A Christmas Carol” was propaganda. What was the goal?

      Gotta love the Kinks. <3

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    anyah8sbunniesMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:04pm

    So today’s been a bit of a shit day...
    I stumbled across my ex’s new FB profile. I cried... which is stupid of me, I also blocked that profile. I saw “her” before I blocked it. I hate him so much, and I hate her. I thought I was pretty much over it, but I’m not... probably because I’m stuck dealing with shitty assholes and that asshole gets to be “happy” I just feel like I’m always on the losing end of those situations. I have a magical vagina that enables men not to want me for a relationship.... but somehow they find someone else. What is wrong with me? I feel like that kid who always gets picked last for everything, I’m going to go cry in a corner with my drink
    My boss is being a bitch again ...
    I didn’t get into school because of my previous academic failings. So I have to figure out what else I can do.... I’m going to apply for a mat leave job in radio (my old career) about 6 hours away, I’m hoping it’ll be a positive thing. I’m done with this city.
    I have another meeting with my employment coach on Friday, so we’ll see what she says about other opportunities for school in case the job options run out

    Did I mention my life’s going great? Yay me.

    Anyway, I shaved my legs today; for the first time in over a month, when I realised the hair on them was actually creating wind resistance.

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      MargieBonzanyah8sbunnies
      1/30/16 7:07pm

      Can I come join you in the corner with my drink?

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      NoMoreEggshells&Bed'sAlllllMiiiiine!!!anyah8sbunnies
      1/30/16 7:09pm

      Cheer up! I read a lot of your posts and think you’re awesome and witty and all that jazz and I’m sure someday you’ll find what you’re looking for, orrrrr.... happy thought! It will find you!

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    CAPTAINOHMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:02pm

    Hey ladies and gents. Hope everyone had a great week. After how long do you guys think is an appropriate time to move in with a so? My new bf just gave me the key to his place this week and he’s talking about getting a place together after my lease runs out in March. It will only be close to four months of dating by that time. My parents think I should wait but this feels right. Am I rushing things? What are some of your experiences moving in with someone?

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      Rando CalrissianCAPTAINOH
      1/30/16 7:07pm

      I’d aim for 6 months but have you tried staying at each other’s places for more than a weekend? Like for a week or two? It’s a good test. If you’re sure, why not go for it at 4 months?

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      iseedeaddaleksCAPTAINOH
      1/30/16 7:09pm

      It depends on you and your relationship. My parents moved in together after two months and they’re still going strong 30 years later. They say it just felt right and it was easy. If you feel good about it, go for it!

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    MargieBonzMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:06pm

    It’s been a rough week. I was written up at work on Tuesday, the first time I have had it happen or have even heard of it happening in my department in the 8.5 years I have been doing my job. I made a bad judgement call and apologized for it. Also part of the write up was a mention about me having to take at least 30 minutes for lunch due to California labor laws. Now, the lunch thing and the event which caused the write up are two separate issues, which should not have been combined.

    I think I am going to look for another job. I hate the idea of it, but the company I work for has become so corporate and unfeeling. I fight all the time for my department to become a better functioning place for my coworkers and the time that I got called on the carpet, I couldn’t even muster the energy to fight for myself. I have put so much time, effort and a huge chunk of my sanity into this job.

    So yeah, I am 31 and have had this job since I was 23. But I want to leave and find a new job. Give me some good stories of leaving a job please? Also, I work in a very small field (7 companies in the country are in this industry) and I just don’t know where to go from here.

    Just sitting here crying thinking about it. But I am going to be stupid and order an insane amount of sushi to be delivered to my house because fish is one of the few things I can eat with the braces.

    Any good vibes would be appreciated. I just feel like I have lost myself recently.

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      CarrieA6hatesportmanteauxMargieBonz
      1/30/16 7:13pm

      I’ll try to send good vibes. Do you have some contacts at some of the other seven companies? Would you have to move to stay in your field.

      I’m unhappy to see that I’m not the only one whose week went to shit. I interviewed on Monday for a job I really want and I flubbed one of the questions so badly it made me nervous and I’m pretty sure I acted like a goober for the rest of it. And my husband is slipping back into self-absorbed brat territory. Life is already plenty without that biz.

      Ick. Next week will be better!

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      MargieBonzCarrieA6hatesportmanteaux
      1/30/16 7:18pm

      I don’t have contacts at the other companies (highly competitive business), but I do have a lot of contacts at the businesses we service (mortgage lenders). So I could move from this into the mortgage business. Mostly, I want to move and just change my life completely. But I can’t keep making large moves to avoid the fact that I hate the way my life has turned out. I just want a job that I can work as hard as I do at the current one, but feel appreciated for it.

      Good luck with your job hunt and hopefully your husband improves. Internet hugs!

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    jpomonkeyMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:14pm

    SoCal Jezzies! I’m visiting family in the Laguna Beach area soon and am looking for advice about fun things to do in and around the area. I’ll be there for at least a week and will have a car. My mom is also visiting and she’s not in the best shape, so suggestions about low-key activities for someone who’s not so active are welcome, as well as suggestions for more active things to do. I love the beach especially, so if you know a good spot, please let me know.

    I was thinking about visiting Catalina Island - is it worth it? I’m also OK with driving long distances to see cool stuff, so if you have suggestions for a road trip anywhere in the area I’m all ears.

    Thank you in advance!

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      MargieBonzjpomonkey
      1/30/16 7:20pm

      Meet me! I live right on the edge of Laguna!

      Catalina is lovely. It’s a good day trip, there is like a small street where everything is and the food is great and the ferry ride over is fun (don’t sit up top the whole time unless you have warm weather gear).

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      many bells down wears many stupid hatsjpomonkey
      1/30/16 7:25pm

      There’s all sorts of neat stuff to do on Catalina. Avalon is tiny, so you can stroll around and drink, do a little shopping, what have you. There’s also submarine tours of the harbor (you can shoot food at the fish with a little button) and bus tours around the city.

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    TampaBeeAtch (misplaced witty subname)Marie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:42pm

    I’m always so conflicted when I hear my favorite Jez writers are moving on. Of course I wish them all the success in the world but it still is sad. Marie, are weekend warrior, I will miss you so much. And of course I wish you nothing but unicorns farting rainbows!

    So hey, can anyone put in a good word for me over on The Slot? I hate being grey over there. Yesterday was my 42 birthday, and I treated myself by going to a Hillary Rally where the special guest was Chelsea (she is holy amazeballs) as well as meeting several other state, county and city pols. (I’m very involved with city, state and national politics, I don’t wanna be greeeeeeey anymore!!!!)

    And excellent networking for community organizing groups. All while overlooking the Gulf of Mexico on a gorgeous sunny, Florida day. Then proceeded to hang out with my gay and drag queen neighbors. Really kind of a perfect birthday for a middle aged lady, despite my brother exasperating me, which isn’t unusual, long issues there. It was pretty amazing.

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      Marie LodiTampaBeeAtch (misplaced witty subname)
      1/30/16 7:55pm

      Aw, thank you! Yes, I’ll try to find you on there and approve.

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      Marie LodiTampaBeeAtch (misplaced witty subname)
      1/30/16 7:59pm

      Ok I tried finding you but haven’t! Email me a comment on the Slot you wrote and I’ll take care of it!

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    iseedeaddaleksMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:04pm

    Hey Jezzies, what’cha drinking’ (to steal from Mindymoo)? I’ve got Not Your Father’s Root Beer and I’m planning on hate watching the SAG awards.

    I’ve been job searching/interviewing for the last two weeks and I think I’ve gotten one response for every 15 or 20 resumes I’ve sent out. It’s insanely frustrating. A few interviews have gone well, but I’m waiting to get called back in for the next round with two jobs. I just want to start working (and get paid)!

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      deerlady83iseedeaddaleks
      1/30/16 7:17pm

      Good luck with your job hunt. I’m drinking hibiscus ice tea.

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      iseedeaddaleksdeerlady83
      1/30/16 7:18pm

      Thanks!

      ooh that sounds good.

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    Mary-GraceMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:01pm

    You receive a grant of ten million dollars, which is to be used to do good some in the world. The only caveat is that you can’t spend it on yourself, or your friends and family. How do you spend it?

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      iseedeaddaleksMary-Grace
      1/30/16 7:10pm

      Basic healthcare (sanitation, immunization, & birth control) and girls’ education.

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      *Malice in Blunderland*Mary-Grace
      1/30/16 7:15pm

      Give half to Planned Parenthood and the other half to various organic permaculture farms.

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    Butter Nutter MilkshakeMarie Lodi
    1/30/16 7:08pm

    Soooooo really long week.

    I work for a really small software company running a miniscule Support team. There was a big thing in Sales and one member of my three member staff was yanked by one of the company owers to work on it. He said it would take a couple hours, but it took her a full week and she was sent to personally meet the potential clients.

    I had huge, numerous objections that were overturned (it will really only be a couple of hours, it is not a big deal). My staff actually reports to the other owner (who created the project and is in charge of Support/Development) and I am responsible for making sure that all clients are handled on time and are satisfied with us. I had to call him and tell him that we not going to meet half of our deadlines, not going to close what amounted to 40 percent of our cases for the week on schedule because I didn’t have one person and my department was gridlocked by it. He was super understanding, but this is like the fourth time this has happened, so I scheduled a meeting with Sales owner to clarify that my department didn’t actually have the personal to spare for a whole week. We talked about it and he reiterated what is a broken record promise of hiring me new staff so that we are fully functioning instead of being so fucking short staffed all the damned time.

    The meeting has ended up being a huge drama, with one member of the ‘upper management’ accusing me of melting down. This person is Sales owner’s personal assistant, on and off girlfriend, office snitch, and the self appointed “office manager” who locks up the toilet paper and buys shitty coffee and is an incredibly patronizing woman who thinks I need her to mentor me in supervising my staff. To be perfectly clear, this woman does not understand our product, does not understand the full scale of my teams operations, and had to be taught how to attach something to emails twice.

    She accused me of going over her head, throwing a tantrum, and trying to shame my boss for doing his job, and repeatedly said that there was no company without the success of the sales team (it is a two person team -the Sales owner and a highly competent project manager who could have done what my agent was asked to do).

    She ended this lovely conversation by telling me my staff can handle more if only we can multitask better. We are doing the work that seven people should be doing in order to be fully operational, but four people can somehow manage this better than we have if we can become grand masters of multitasking.

    I texted that last point to my friend who knows a lot about my job and my complaints about my job and is a very solid confidante. It was a kind of sarcastic one basically like, “did you know you can multitask the busyness away? Haha.”

    I accidentally texted it to the wrong person. To my boss ‘ personal assistant.

    The silver lining is that they kept a girl on who got drunk in the middle of her shift because we were so shortmanned, so hopefully it all blows over.

    I also should say, my cat is feeling great. She was seen by a shitty vet over a week ago and in addition to panicking me and giving terrible advice, he treated her for worms. She is living her most feisty life now. Here is a picture of her!!!!!

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      Slay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)Butter Nutter Milkshake
      1/30/16 7:33pm

      Wow - talk about office drama!
      Clueless, pollyanna micro-managers are the *WORST*.

      Seems like the type who would be all:
      “Just download Basecamp or Asana, then it all just fixes it’s self!” ;0 ugh

      Here’s to hoping it smooths into better seas for ye.

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      scarysheriButter Nutter Milkshake
      1/30/16 7:37pm

      Wait, who got the text? Snitch or other bosses assistant? Snitch sounds awful and you are a better person than me because I would have done had some words for her. Sounds like you almost need to talk to both bosses and get more help or something. Sorry that other people are being inconsiderate towards your team. Man I’d be in there snapping, probably get myself fired!! Good luck friend and I’m happy for your cute Kitty!!!

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