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    Adrastra, patron saint of snarkMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:03pm

    Is it normal to breastfeed at sixteen months? I get that health benefits might be a reason, but I thought mostly kids are on baby food/small whole foods like cereal by that age? (Disclaimer: am not a mother, and am youngest child.)

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      JulietgAdrastra, patron saint of snark
      1/06/16 8:05pm

      The WHO recommends breastfeeding for 24 months. After six or so months, many add solid foods to the diet. “Normal” should be what works for mom and baby and nothing to do with what onlookers think.

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      Snowqueens IceramenAdrastra, patron saint of snark
      1/06/16 8:05pm

      I think at that age it’s more of a mother/child bonding thing. I try not to judge but I would sure as hell would want my boobs back by that stage.

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    LaComtesseMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:20pm

    I lucked out in this regard. Between two children I’ve breastfed for 36 months now (son was 17 months, daughter 19 months and counting... Sidebar, holy FUCK that’s a long time when I think about it). I’ve nursed in myriad situations and locations through the tristate area and if anyone interacts with me it’s always entirely positive. Like some old lady telling me how lovely breastfeeding is or whatever. It’s really nice, especially hearing all the awful horror stories some of my friends share. Anyone else have NICE breastfeeding in public experiences? Where do you live (general area)?

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      Still-Celia is NeverfuckingvotingforhillsxoLaComtesse
      1/06/16 8:30pm

      I live newr Philly and have nursed three children, 13 months, 15 months and the last is almost 22 months and still nursing maybe twice a day. Hands down the best place ever to nurse is the zoo, which makes sense. Every zoo I've been too was super easy to nurse at.

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      LaComtesseStill-Celia is Neverfuckingvotingforhillsxo
      1/06/16 8:36pm

      Yes! Last time I went to the Bx Zoo I saw a mama gorilla nursing her baby. I wanted a picture of me nursing my daughter in front of her, but there wasn’t enough room to do so (also it would have been a dick move to take that viewing space for a picture on a crowded day).

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    Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.Madeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:06pm

    So avert your fucking eyes, Wendy.

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      Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      1/06/16 8:08pm

      Like no one has ever come up to me and said ‘HEY, HEY! Have you seen my tit in my kids mouth yet? HAVE YOU? LOOOOOOOOOOK.’

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      AlexandraOctopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      1/06/16 8:25pm

      Uhh, #momgoals anyone? If I ever have a little one I’m going to see if I can twirl the kid off my nipple like pasties in a saucy Vegas show.

      Or at least slur, “Like what ya see???” to anyone walking by.

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    thundercatsaregoMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:32pm

    You know, a long time ago when I was young and stupid, I was of the opinion that women shouldn’t breastfeed in public. Then I grew up. In all my years on this earth, I’ve never seen a woman stand up in the middle of a store or restaurant or whatever and yell “look at me! Look at me! I’m about to whip out my boob, dance around for ten minutes, then feed my child! Look here!” The few times I’ve seen a woman breastfeeding in public, they have always been discrete. I’m sure so many of those women would avail themselves of private breast-feeding facilities if they were available, but they’re not. Why in the world anyone would care about seeing a woman feeding her child (where you can’t really see much of the breast anyway), is beyond me.

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      shelwoodthundercatsarego
      1/06/16 9:35pm

      Yeah. Maybe I’m not observant, maybe I’m a relative shut-in, but I cannot remember the last time I have encountered a woman breastfeeding in public in a way that I just had to look at it. Yet I am sure I have been in the presence of breastfeeding women. It’s not really something moms announce and shout about.

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      MegaMechaMegthundercatsarego
      1/06/16 9:37pm

      I did see a mom with a newborn forget to tuck leftie back in when baby fell asleep at Target once.

      Sleep deprivation is a hell of a drug.

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    lunchcomaMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:05pm

    What is there to even see? I see a kid’s head and no more boob than you’d see on a lot of red carpets.

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      vero_jacobilunchcoma
      1/06/16 8:18pm

      Yeah, if you see something, it's probably because you were trying to see something. And if you do see something, why is a nipple so offensive to you? I don't get these people.

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      dcgirl13lunchcoma
      1/06/16 8:22pm

      You might catch a glimpse of nipple if the kid jerks away, but it’s not the end of the world!.

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    barchibaldMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 10:49pm

    I’m about to have my first baby (2-3 weeks to go!) and I think the thing I’m most freaked out by, other than labor, is the length that you’re supposed to breast feed! Don’t get me wrong, I definitely want to breastfeed and understand all of the benefits involved, but am I selfish for not wanting to feel chained to a pump or my baby for 1-2 years?? I can happily do 6 months. But I’m really nervous about going beyond that, especially once I go back to work. It just seems exhausting and all consuming. And I’m kind of intimidated by the breast pump (still haven’t taken it out of the box.) :/

    Experienced moms, please tell me that it’s not that bad and that it gets easier, time management wise, after the initial every 2-3 hours feedings of the newborn stage!

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      Rebeccabarchibald
      1/06/16 11:17pm

      It gets way easier. The first 6-8 weeks can be pretty rough sometimes. So if you really want to breastfeed, but you’re a month in, and you feel like you can’t do this anymore, if you stick it out for just a couple more weeks you may find that you get over the hump. And don’t be afraid to reach out for help from La Leche League (in fact you could find a meeting now, pregnant women are always welcome) or an IBCLC (board certified lactation consultant) if you feel like something isn’t right.

      The thing about nursing a 2 year old isn’t you don’t just birth a 2 year old and latch them on out of the blue. Each day your baby is only one day older. And you don’t have to do it for 2 years, there are no breastfeeding police to arrest you if you decide to wean earlier. You will know what is right for you when the time comes. You’ve got this.

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      Minabarchibald
      1/06/16 11:22pm

      Prepare in the newborn stage that you may be feeding every 15-20 mins (2-3 hour stretches are for later in in development after your milk supply is established...look up “cluster feeding”) day and night for several weeks. Sometimes nursing for 6 hours at a time when the baby is in a growth spurt and trying to get regulated with your supply. All of my friends troopered through this though and were happy they did. I threw in the towel for a lot of reasons and was equally happy. Many others decide to do a combo of nursing and formula feeding. Basically the best advice I can give you (as a mom of 3, the youngest just turning 1) is BE FLEXIBLE. Do what works for both you and your baby. Don’t let the people who tell you there is only one specific way to do it “right” get into your head. Babies are not clones of each other and what worked for other people’s babies may not work for yours or for you. Keep the kid fed, clean and loved and you’ll both be just fine. Good luck!

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    UmbraMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:10pm

    Planning to breastfeed, if I can, after I deliver in April. If anyone anywhere wants to give me stink eye, I intend to engage in unbroken eye contact until they give up and slink away like a little bitch ;P

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      LaComtesseUmbra
      1/06/16 8:16pm

      Woot!!!

      If you are not yet familiar with Kellymom.com, it's a great resource!

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      ihatebrasUmbra
      1/06/16 8:21pm

      I always would smile and wave like I was in a parade or like I knew the person and they would practically run away. It was fun.

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    CrystalClearWatersMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:26pm

    Well babies need to eat Wendy. Not everything is about you.

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaCrystalClearWaters
      1/06/16 8:51pm

      That’s the solution! BABIES NEED TO EAT WENDY!

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      CrystalClearWatersDontBeSuchaBoobPunchTina
      1/06/16 9:02pm

      Ha! Serves me right for forgetting my comma. Your comment is amazing and I thoroughly enjoyed it. :)

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    TheVageniusMadeleine Davies
    1/06/16 9:00pm

    Has she never played sports? Gone to a gym? Changed in front of friends before going out or for pool/hot tub time?

    Also, I’m sorry that you have internalized the erroneous belief that women’s bodies are shameful and not fit to be seen (even casually or in the most nurturing way) but yeah. Your problems are not my problems.

    (And before people get all up in arms, I'm not saying you have an issue if you personally don't wanna be naked. You have a problem if you are somehow offended by the sight of another woman's nudity when it has nothing to do with you.)

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinaTheVagenius
      1/06/16 9:17pm

      Azealia Banks is such a bad example IMO... I mean, I’m pretty sure other people’s problems with her are in fact her problems.

      Totally agree with everything you said in the text, though!

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      TheVageniusDontBeSuchaBoobPunchTina
      1/06/16 9:41pm

      I don’t know that woman but I do think that the “if you don’t like it you can stroll on” is pretty apt in most situations. Unless your shitty behavior is hurting your community. Is she that? I am in bed with a spasming back and am in no condition to bone up on pseudo-celebrity gossip. I might have to throw computer out the window if I have to read that ish and that would likely hurt since my window is behind me.

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    BlessedAreTheHedas. Our fight is not over.Madeleine Davies
    1/06/16 8:03pm

    Simple solution then, don't fucking look.

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