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    clockworkandcameosMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:38pm

    I have a couple friends from high school I still talk to, but the rest I plan never to see again.

    I recently went to a Zumba class that a couple of the mean girls from high school also attended.

    After class they stood in the doorway talking to block me, backs turned to me. Same shit they used to do in high school. Block me and talk about how I should just kill myself.

    Unlike a high school I pushed those dumb bitches to the side by walking in between them. Fuck outta my way assholes, I have more important things to do than breathe the same oxygen as you.

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      deerlady83clockworkandcameos
      12/24/15 2:42pm

      Jesus, you all are adults now. They need to grow up.

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      clockworkandcameosdeerlady83
      12/24/15 2:50pm

      Exactly. I’m older and a lot sassier now. If you’re nice to me, I will be nice to you. You want to moo at me while I walk by, I’m going to tell you to shut the fuck up before I call Old McDonald to come pick your farm animal ass up.

      I’m one of those people who rarely runs into people I don’t want to see, but when I do...its when I am already in a shitty mood.

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    sweeneyMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:39pm

    Black Friday two years ago I ran into a high school friend, who, when we were both 15, told me that if I was scared of coming out to my parents, it was because I knew that they didn’t love me enough. She wanted to have a big reunion in the middle of Macy’s. I pretended that I didn’t remember her.

    (“Michelle? Did we have biology together?” That sort of thing.)

    It’s a very useful tactic. Life’s too short to make small talk with assholes.

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      I'd eat a spidersweeney
      12/24/15 2:48pm

      I get that all the time, now. I usually pretend I don’t remeber, but there was one egregious bitch who made like five different nexopia accounts to tell me I should kill myself cause everyone hated me. She tried the bestirs routine and she got a “ have some fucking dignity, you know that’s not how it is between us”....was lovely watching her orange tan stiletto nail ass slink away.

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      the slaughterhouse spousesweeney
      12/24/15 2:50pm

      +1, I-dont-know-her.gif

      I stopped going out to the bars when at home for the holidays many years ago. The people I want to see, I either go to their house or they come to mine. We have a bunch of cocktails, catch up, hug and say goodbye. It is literally a gazillion times better than going to TGIF’s, drinking watered down margaritas, and avoiding eye contact with a bunch of people who suck. In your situation, I would knock down an Origins counter to avoid crossing paths with that person, but if it is unavoidable, I hope I have the chops to handle it like you!

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    JuneBugMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:49pm

    Madeline, you didn’t miss much at the 10-year reunion if it went anything like mine. Very few people showed up and half of them said they had a nine-year-old child...by our 10 year HS reunion. Never again!

    Solid advice, don't let shit from umpteen years ago take up space in your brain now.

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      DashleyinCaliJuneBug
      12/24/15 2:56pm

      I think that in the age of social media, high school reunions are becoming obsolete. I went to two high schools, and didn’t attend either reunion. One got cancelled because they only got a handful of RSVPs, and the other was apparently sparsely-attended and a boring waste of time, from what I heard.

      Why travel and spend money on an outfit and expend all that anxiety for a tiny hit of the drug Facebook provides in your newsfeed every day?

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      kafrometJuneBug
      12/24/15 2:56pm

      At my 10 year reunion there would have been a lot of them with 10-12 year olds. o_O

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    Joseph FinnMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:36pm

    What kind of weirdo assholes are running the reunions at your high school that they don’t invite everyone?

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      sweeneyJoseph Finn
      12/24/15 2:42pm

      Maybe they can’t find everyone’s contact information? I assume that when one is planning a reunion, they open up the class yearbook and go name by name, so there’s no room for memory lapses. At least that’s what I would do if I were planning a reunion.

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      paultoesJoseph Finn
      12/24/15 2:43pm
      GIF
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    AllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdoMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:45pm

    All fine advice-but if all else fails...have a dance number ready.

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      Madeleine DaviesAllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdo
      12/24/15 2:46pm

      How could I leave THAT out...

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      AllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdoMadeleine Davies
      12/24/15 2:57pm

      I don’t want to disrespect West Side Story but they’re at least TIED for best movie choreography of all time.

      Followed very closely by the sister act movies.

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    AllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdoMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:51pm

    Also remember that aloof hot guy that you really liked and couldn’t understand why you were never good enough, pretty enough, cool enough for? And you’d kiss at a party and then he’d act totally uninterested after and you obsessed and cried about it a whole lot for a year? He probably has a lovely male partner now and you were just fine...just you know...not his cup of tea.

    Or was that just me?

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      kafrometAllieCat ❤️'S hats on cats-is probable weirdo
      12/24/15 2:56pm

      There was one cheerleader who I had a huge crush on. She was super nice to everyone (even dumpy, nerdy me) and I could never figure out why she seemed so different than the rest of them.

      Until a year or so ago when I saw picture of her and her wife at their wedding.

      #lightbulbmoment

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      Slay.douché - (dreams to be a puppy)kafromet
      12/24/15 3:15pm

      There were instances of this in both genders at mine. (super brainy/nerdy community).

      So weird to think about in retrospect - (compassion seeming to stem from secret uniqueness)

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    MegSwanMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 4:38pm

    All these comments are so bitter about high school and reunions. Shit wasn’t great for me either but I moved on and truly love going to reunions to see people who are not nearly as terrible at 35 than they were at 15. I think that it helps that I’m living a good life and have the confidence to realize it.

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      clockworkandcameosMegSwan
      12/24/15 4:42pm

      It is not being bitter to not want to spend time with people who tormented and abused you, even if your life is better.

      My dad physically abused me and was a cruel drug addict who stole my college fund, should I be excited to attend family reunions because I turned out well DESPITE trying to choke me death?

      I'll stick with not spending time with him and wear my bitter badge with pride thanks.

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      RedScharlachMegSwan
      12/24/15 9:39pm

      I think this is a super-important point. I don’t want to be judged for the way I behaved 20 years ago when we were all swimming in a hideous sea of insecurity and hormones and acne. For what it’s worth, I was totally “cool” in high school— I got invited to all the best parties, always had the right boyfriend, wore the trendiest clothes, etc— and the whole time I felt SO hideous and weird and misunderstood. I think I treated everyone kindly; but I didn’t, like, go out of my way to expand my social circle... because I was sixteen freaking years old and my brain wasn’t fully developed. So please judge me based on the adult I’ve become, not the 15-year-old that didn’t talk to you in algebra class.

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    StrategerieMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 2:53pm

    Here’s a thought. I’m a bit older than Jezebel’s target demographic, so I can offer comfort. (Hopefully.)

    I attended my high school’s last significant-number class reunion. After a couple of drinks (a couple? Hell, try four or five) those I went to high school with turned into the same people they were when we were all still in school. The petty BS that marks high school behavior was still strong with them. Interestingly enough, the nerds/geeks were the people I gravitated toward as the evening wore on. They’d done things with their lives. They were interesting, engaged, better educated, and had seen something of the world. And I want to be numbered in that group as well. You will, too. And you don’t have to worry anymore about whether the “most popular” in high school like you. You have your own life now. You can live it any way you’d like; you’re no longer looking for their approval.

    Fun fact: I went to high school with a musician considered to be the best in the world at what he does. He has multiple Grammy Awards. He was tormented in high school. The reunion committee is still begging him (redacted) years later to attend a reunion. He is still refusing. And I admire him for it.

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      FlahdaStrategerie
      12/25/15 11:41am

      Seconded. I kept up with the tiny number of people from my high school that were important to me. But I left that hamlet, that county, and that state and I have no need to reminisce falsely about an uncomfortable time in my life. The one openly gay guy committed suicide. The mean girls are still small town queen bees, and grandmothers. The only guy I would be interested in is *still* a good guy and making his community better, and I’m far away living my life. We’re all probably happier not seeing each other!

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    kingwolfMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 4:06pm

    Huh... My graduating class was a couple thousand. Have never eseen any of those people again. Is it really that common to run into these guys?

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      LosFelizGuykingwolf
      12/24/15 4:34pm

      I’ve never run into anyone from my high school.

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      MPapaverkingwolf
      12/24/15 4:46pm

      My graduating class was just shy of a thousand, and honestly I think it was a good thing... There were so many kids, I don’t think groups like “jocks” and “nerds” etc really existed and there wasn’t this huge angst and animosity so many people report as part of highschool. Most people I knew had 2+ extracurriculars, so naturally formed groups around those activities, but there was a lot of overlap and mixing. The only clique-y thing I remember was stratified by your academic levels. AP kids more or less all knew each other, honors kids the same, level kids together.. There was still some mixing and no one bullied anyone about it... Hell must be a graduating class of 50.

      Edit to add- I was a weird arty super nerd AP kid who did theatre and debate as extra curricular a and while I got along with most people just fine, I really only had one close friend. Quite happy.

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    Queen of BithyniaMadeleine Davies
    12/24/15 3:00pm

    Yeah but what if you don’t have any good stories to tell about your current life? I mean, I missed celebrating my first million because I hit the mark while I was in the hospital recovering from my penis reduction surgery. That’s just embarrassing.

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