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    LOREM IPSUMMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:02pm

    Hey Jezzies, whatcha drinking? I’ve got some Great Lakes Brewery Christmas Ale chilling, along with some New Holland Brewery Dragon’s Milk stout. My friend recommended the ale, which I’m typically not a fan of, so we’ll see how that goes!

    I finished my online religion exam, which was driving me insane. Yes, I was raised in a Catholic family so I know a lot of this stuff already, but having to read a lot of the stuff in the textbook is driving me fucking insane. Do you need to talk about abortion and stem-cells when this is a fucking Bible class? Is it necessary? GAH. But I aced the last two, as in got 100% aced, so I know I did just fine on this one. It’s just tedious.

    Now I’m just waiting for “Ash vs. Evil Dead” and “The Returned” to start, just like the last few Saturdays, and am rewatching “The Knick.” Because “The Knick” is amazing, and I love Harry and Cleary together and they better never split apart, even after this episode’s slight setback. I don’t ship, but I ship them hard, whether platonic or romantic I do not care.

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      DerbyDuck42LOREM IPSUM
      12/05/15 7:07pm

      Yellow Tail Chardonnay tonight, and plenty of it.

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      many bells down wears many stupid hatsLOREM IPSUM
      12/05/15 7:09pm

      I wait pretty much all year for Costco to get their Sam Adams holiday pack in, JUST for the Chocolate Bock. I dunno what it is about that beer, but it’s so delicious. And they don’t fill the rest of the damn carton with IPAs like everyone else does.

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    GELLA - LLAPMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:14pm

    after crazy week at work, the only thing that kept me sane was gym. Boxing rulez. Waking up in the middle of the night for no reason what so ever and not able to back to sleep sucks.

    watching “Galaxy Quest”, whats next??

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      anyah8sbunniesGELLA - LLAP
      12/05/15 7:19pm

      I love GalaxyQuest!

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      GELLA - LLAPanyah8sbunnies
      12/05/15 7:20pm

      one of the best Saturday night movies and GofG

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    OverlySexualizedVelociraptorMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:09pm

    Jezzies,

    It’s been a really shitty 7 days. Can we all share something positive that happened this week (to us or that we heard about) to spread a little joy ‘round these parts?

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      Cocopop!OverlySexualizedVelociraptor
      12/05/15 7:24pm

      It’s dopey but went to Home Depot and bought a space heater that looks like a wood stove and has little faux flames. It is so cheesy, but I love it.

      It’s this thingie-

      ...and I also have this on in the back ground, for the sound effects-

      ...and I’m drinking hot cocoa. I’m in need of coziness. If there were some way to install a wood stove in here, I would do it.

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      Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshitOverlySexualizedVelociraptor
      12/05/15 7:30pm

      My kitty cuddled with me all night. He’s generally affectionate but he’s had a little kitty cold (which is sad for him, but kitty sneezes are so goddamn cute). And then this morning he came and slept on my chest and purred and gave me little kisses and it was cute.

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    anyah8sbunniesMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:02pm

    Hi Jezzies!

    So... I got huge news this week.
    My brother text me last night and and came out as Transgender.
    I’m okay with the news, shocked and still processing... I mean, he’s been my little brother for 35 years.
    He told me, it’s still a new revelation ... after his girlfriend who helped me with the realisation and his best friend, I’m the only other one who knows.... and the first family member
    I feel honoured that he chose me as the first family member to tell. He doesn’t plan on telling our mom until probably after Christmas. So, I have to go at least another month before I can talk to anyone in my family about it

    I’ve told a few friends, and they were all really supportive. The thing is... I don’t know know how to process it. I’m completely on their side, and I have their back because this is what’s best for them.
    As a sidenote .... we need a better gender neutral term than “them, they, and they’re”

    But... I don’t know.... I have a zillion questions, I’m not sure how to articulate all my feelings. In a way I feel like a bad sister, I keep crying... I’m also scared for them,

    I’ve always been a big supporter of the LGBTQ community and when I asked my brother why I was the first they chose, they said.... I thought you’d be the most understanding... which makes me feel honoured and I know this isn’t about me... but how do I process this? I am looking for a support group, so hopefully I can find one

    Anyone? Suggestions? Stories?

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      Brene Brawnanyah8sbunnies
      12/05/15 7:07pm

      No suggestions, just hugs. You can be supportive and loving and also grieve for what is no more. We don’t live in a world that is entirely safe for the trans* community. It makes sense to have a heavy heart.

      Also— the gender neutral pronoun I’ve heard is “xe,” pronounced “zee.” So many well wishes to you and your sibling!

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      OverlySexualizedVelociraptoranyah8sbunnies
      12/05/15 7:07pm

      I think you sound human. Change is hard (sorry for the cliche, but it’s TRUE) and this is a HUGE change. It would be weird if you didn’t feel confused and emotional. I think a support group is a good idea, not because you have a “problem” with it, but because they can tell you that what you’re feeling is normal and help relate.

      ETA: I think it speaks volumes that your brother chose to tell you first. You must be an amazing sister!

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    clockworkandcameosMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:08pm

    Tomorrow is my 27th birthday jezzies! Right now I am babysitting a former student and watching some crazy show on Netflix with her.

    I'm hoping 27 is a lot better than 26!

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      GELLA - LLAPclockworkandcameos
      12/05/15 7:18pm

      Happy birthday

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      clockworkandcameosGELLA - LLAP
      12/05/15 7:19pm

      Thank you!

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    DerbyDuck42Marie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:06pm

    Hi Jezzies,

    I think with all the bad news we collectively received this week, along with Mom not having power for a good chunk of it, that my mental state has taken a bit of a hit.

    Had the weekend off. Did a whole lot of not much today. Think that’s what I needed. Well, that and a good quantity of wine.

    How’s everybody else?

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      arewemenoramidevoDerbyDuck42
      12/05/15 7:24pm

      Work party with free booze and pizza took my mind off the fact I’m about to be consistently broke for the foreseeable future. Learned that I can’t avoid being myself, and now eating stolen party pizza.

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      SqarrDerbyDuck42
      12/05/15 7:31pm

      Took my cat to the vet yesterday. She’s been having trouble eating, puking what little she does eat. She’s lost a pound and a half since her last visit. She has visibly less muscle mass on her legs and doesn’t jump up onto a book shelf where she used to spend the majority of her nap time.

      Vet thinks it may be a thyroid thing, complicated by a kidney failure thing.

      We’ll know more from the blood test results on Monday.

      We tried getting different brands of canned food today to see if any interested her and she enthusiastically ate two cans of Fancy Feast turkey stuff in gravy within an hour, which was pretty surprising considering how uninterested in anything else she’s been.

      I don’t know how much longer she’ll last.

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    SarahEmCeeMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:20pm

    It has been four days since my best friend went to the Rainbow Bridge. Hoagie was a 16 year old beagle I adopted when he was 8. He meant a lot to me and I meant a lot to him, which meant a lot to me. Luckily I could be with him when he was put to sleep. He was the last remaining joy of my life and practically my reason for living. Almost as painful as his absence is some people’s reactions (or lack thereof). The isolation and frustration is called “disenfranchised grief” and I am definitely feeling that. I can’t believe the world just keeps turning when my world has crumbled, yknow? Today was hard because it was the first weekend day without our usual routine(s). He was all I had. It’s hard to endure this without the benefit of a partner to lean on who is going through the same thing. I just wanted to share and honor him.

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      SqarrSarahEmCee
      12/05/15 7:37pm

      I’m so, so sorry. :(

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      Tupiniquim - white cat with hands is all of usSarahEmCee
      12/05/15 7:42pm

      I feel ya. I'm so sorry for your loss. Some pets I’ve lost caused me the more grief than when human relatives died. The trust and love one can build with a pet is just unparalelled. Your grief is not without reason, and you should tell anyone who says it’s no big deal to fuck off. Whenever I lose a dog I always feel it was an honor to have been able to share my life with them and give them all the love and care I could. I’m sure Hoagie feels honored by you :-)

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    Supernova: Bullshit JediMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:09pm

    What up my Knitters?!?

    Working on some socks for my best friend, the yarn is so fine and soft (and acrylic! Dude, I know!) I think she’ll end up spending most of her time fondling the fabric rather than wearing the socks themselves. It took forever but I finally finished that stranded Tam style hat now I’m soaking it in fabric softener because I kept my stitches far too tight. I’ll block it tomorrow.

    What is everyone else working on or having trouble with?

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      Burner613Supernova: Bullshit Jedi
      12/05/15 7:15pm

      I'm slowly working on a hat for my daughter. So much knitting in the round. I'm going to try to finish a sweater for my husband befor Christmas. I'm out of work as of yesterday so I have time! I love knitting socks except that I knit so damn slow they take forever. What are you using?

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      snarffles the catSupernova: Bullshit Jedi
      12/05/15 7:17pm

      Don’t knit...but currently crocheting a sweater for my boyfriend for Christmas....plus an afghan for me....the nice thing I got the yarn on clearance plus my employee discount!!

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    fondue processMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:03pm

    okay you guys. i have a story. it’s long. deal with it.

    so i’ve had a tough week - got in a fight with my best friend and haven’t spoken with her in days, really stressful stuff at work, and this really great guy who i’d been seeing for like a month just ghosted on me. i was walking home from work and talking with my mom on the phone, close to tears. my mom was very sweet and all like, “fondue, love, you are not alone.” she’s the best.

    when i got home the doorman had a package for me. whoa, totally forgot that i ordered a vibrator a few weeks back.

    i went in my apartment, put on comfy clothes, lit candles and got a little bit high (it’s for anxiety, okay).

    alright, feeling good:

    GIF

    i opened the box and pulled it out.

    wait, what’s that?

    “ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!”, i shouted.

    “YOU ARE NOT ALONE”?!

    i threw it to the ground.

    end scene.

    p.s. a couple hours later i swallowed my shame and anger and tried it. it didn’t work. tried 4 different batteries.

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      GELLA - LLAPfondue process
      12/05/15 7:10pm

      by saying you are not alone, do they mean you can talk to other people on line who use it at same time as you and share special moments???

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      anyah8sbunniesfondue process
      12/05/15 7:16pm

      OMG.... what a weird thing for a vibrator to say.

      I also had a weird week. As a sidenote.... I have a similar routine when it comes to new vibes ;)

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    Brene BrawnMarie Lodi
    12/05/15 7:10pm

    Anxious jezzies, how are you coping this week? My anxiety got really terrible to the point where I was up way too late imagining all the terrible things that could happen to my kids.

    So instead of letting the anxiety win, my oldest (kindergarten) and I started a ritual where before school, we talk about who he noticed had a hard day the day before, and he picks out a sea shell from his collection to take to them. Made it a little more manageable this week.

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      Cocopop!Brene Brawn
      12/05/15 7:17pm

      My son has anxiety, and I have it a little bit too. I started realizing what his peak anxiety times are, and planning calming activities for those times. I told him to think of it as medicine- it’s 8pm. Time for cute puppy videos.

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      feministeaBrene Brawn
      12/05/15 7:18pm

      My anxiety has been really bad this week too. I splurged and bought myself some stuff online last week and it still hasn’t been shipped. I’m moving at the end of next week, and at this rate it won’t get here until after I’m gone (and they have a no order changes policy, ugh) so I’m really irrationally anxious about that probably because I’m trying to avoid all the legitimately anxiety-producing stuff going on with me right now.

      To manage it all, I’m indulging in at-home spa treatments, burning scented candles, Parks and Rec and eating good frozen food so I don’t have to cook. Plus I’m working on holiday cards for my preschool students (with adorable pictures of them), so that’s been fun.

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