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    Brene BrawnClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:32am

    Oof. Another problem with domestic violence awareness like this is folks assume it looks like your face is all bruised and cut up. As one of my clients said, “I preferred the beatings. The bruises heal, but I still can’t get the words out of my head.”

    Sexual abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and financial abuse are real and no on deserves to be in a relationship where they are expected to endure any kind of abuse. These campaigns shine a light on one kind and have a way of minimizing the others.

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      Agent-Michelle-ScarnBrene Brawn
      12/02/15 11:38am

      It seems a little like he’s glamorizing it a bit? I know his intention is to create awareness but by using photos of polished celebrities it comes across more of a Paper Magazine cover rather than a well constructed collection of art. The whole concept seems very little thought out. Also, I don’t like that the focus is moreso on Kim Kardashian and Miley Cyrus and gossip that surrounds them rather than “omg this could really happen to anybody”.

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      JustDontStartBrene Brawn
      12/02/15 11:44am

      Exactly this. There are many forms of physical, emotional and sexual violence that never leave a visible mark. Overuse of the black eye and split lip trope leads people to believe you can spot a victim immediately. You can’t.

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    fo'realsClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:33am
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    The pictures make me feel so awkward only because Kim or Miley haven’t been abused at least to my knowledge. Wouldn’t it be more affected if there was actual photos of women who have been abused? JUST AN IDEA HERE!

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      LaComtessefo'reals
      12/02/15 11:43am

      Perfect gif is perfect.

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      septembergrrlfo'reals
      12/02/15 11:43am

      Kim was, is the thing. Her first marriage, to a guy she married at 19, was abusive. I don’t know if she’s publicly gone into the grisly details but she really shouldn’t have to.

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    clockworkandcameosClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:36am

    Sorry, I cannot get behind this. It does nothing to get the point across of domestic violence and how it affects women.

    It’s photoshop, everyone knows it’s photoshop. It’s also horrible to present celebrities as victims of domestic violence when they haven’t been. You know people are going to run with that image of Kim and start labeling Kanye as physically abusive over a photoshopped image.

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      Marx and Sparksclockworkandcameos
      12/02/15 11:45am

      And, of course, we don’t actually know if any of these women have survived domestic violence and not gone public with it. Imagine how painful it would be to see your face photoshopped with bruises if you were a survivor.

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      Suck It, Trebekclockworkandcameos
      12/02/15 11:59am

      You stated my exact thoughts much more eloquently than I would have which was, “What in the FUCK is this even supposed to help?”

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    HermioneStrangerClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:42am

    Campaigns like this also assume that the issue is just that people aren’t aware of severe physical domestic violence. But they are aware, because we’ve been raising awareness for decades - there are plots about it in movies and tv shows, publicly funded campaigns, huge national discussions about specific incidents, etc. People might think “well, she provoked him, she had it coming”, or that it could never be anyone they know or liked that abuses women. Sometimes they don’t know how to help. But they’re aware that sometimes, men beat the shit out of women. This isn’t moving the conversation along, it’s just reinventing the wheel and expecting a cookie for it.

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      WeetzieHermioneStranger
      12/02/15 12:00pm

      That's the whole reason I don't support the pink ribbons/ #savetheboobs campaigns. People are well aware of breast cancer, raising money for "awareness" is just exploiting an awful illness to rake in the money.

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      darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeeneHermioneStranger
      12/02/15 12:05pm

      much like breast cancer awareness when heart disease is the #1 killer of women and the #1 cancer that kills women is lung cancer.

      we are fucking aware of breast cancer, lets move the fuck on.

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    CaliforlifeClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:34am

    I’m conflicted by this campaign. I love the focus on domestic/all violence against women. The celebrity angle bugs me but I am not certain why. The pictures are ugly and could be triggering but maybe they’re needed to show just how ugly abuse/violence against women is? - although they need more black women, too. I’m anxious to read what women think about this campaign.

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      isner-mahutCaliforlife
      12/02/15 11:45am

      I sorta like it because the idea is that anyone can be a victim of DV. Being famous, or beautiful, or rich or smart etc. etc. doesn’t create immunity.

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      Extremely Biased Milk HotelCaliforlife
      12/02/15 11:47am

      I’m not sure the images really work, though. Not only is he just photoshopping random famous women who, as far as I know, have never been abused. But these pictures also depict what I imagine people who haven’t experienced domestic violence expect it to look like.

      DV and intimate partner violence in general is more extensive than physical beatings, and it doesn’t always look like black eyes and bloody noses. If we’re gonna talk about domestic violence we ought to bring focus to all aspects of it - sexual abuse, extreme control and manipulation, emotional/psychological abuse.

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    septembergrrlClover Hope
    12/02/15 11:40am

    Yeah, I have a problem with this because, first, I don’t think it’s okay to use images of real women to make a hypothetical shocking point. Being famous does not mean your photo is up for grabs; I don’t see this as being all that much different from photoshopping the women into sexual situations for purposes of porn. In that as in this, a man is using a woman’s image for his own purposes.

    Second, somebody seeing an ad like that for a moment won’t necessarily realize it’s been photoshopped. So it implicitly suggests their real-life partners are guilty of domestic abuse. Not cool.

    And it’s especially not cool because Kim’s divorce from her first husband, Damon Thomas, was on the grounds of physical and emotional abuse. So it’s not like this is some wacky possibility in her life — I’m sure there are bad memories associated with seeing herself photoshopped to look like this. Same goes for Madonna, who was famously terrorized by Sean Penn during their marriage. And I doubt those are the only two women who have actually been abused being used in this campaign; they’re just the only two who I can think of off the top of my head.

    I also don’t like the low standard set by the wording of the ads. Not being abused isn’t some fairy tale goal — it should be a bare minimum standard of life.

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      Marx and SparksClover Hope
      12/02/15 11:44am

      There are a lot of very real and rational reasons women experiencing intimate partner violence are silent about it—primarily because they fear for their lives. So by putting the onus on women in active abuse situations to speak up he is essentially blaming them for their own victimization.

      Solid work, dude.

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        darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeeneMarx and Sparks
        12/02/15 12:06pm

        another really good point. I couldn’t get beyond “i hate this”

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        IAMRU2Marx and Sparks
        12/03/15 2:49am

        Yes, thank you so much.

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      hillabeeClover Hope
      12/02/15 11:42am

      What I find so upsetting about this is that SILENCE is not the problem. LAX LAW ENFORCEMENT/MESSED UP LAWS deserve at least as much attention, if not more. And they are actionable and don’t put the burden on the victim to be more vocal.

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        darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeenehillabee
        12/02/15 12:07pm

        and that women are very seldom believed. unless you have a huge black eye, you must be overreacting.

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      GELLA - LLAPClover Hope
      12/02/15 11:32am
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        darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeeneGELLA - LLAP
        12/02/15 12:04pm

        exactly.

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      DarkTowerLateArrivalClover Hope
      12/02/15 11:44am

      So we fight abuse by casting women, without their consent, as victims of abuse? Sounds about the level of disconnect this culture is serving up these days.

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        Bingo BronsonDarkTowerLateArrival
        12/02/15 11:49am

        Exactly - isn’ t this taking away agency from women about their own narratives?

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