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    SqarrTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:12pm

    This is the third Magic Mike-related article today.

    Or something? Must have dude-flesh on my mind today.

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      GELLA - LLAPSqarr
      11/23/15 3:18pm

      welcome to JEZ, don’t forget to take your shirt off to show your 6 pack.

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      SqarrGELLA - LLAP
      11/23/15 3:21pm
      GIF

      How dat?

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    Murry ChangTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:08pm

    Or just dump the asshole, because if you need to resort to MRA-lite tactics to stop him from being an asshole, then he’s not worth it.

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      stgenMurry Chang
      11/23/15 3:16pm

      Admiring other people makes you an asshole now? Interesting.

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      Murry Changstgen
      11/23/15 3:19pm

      No, staring at other women when you know your girlfriend ‘puts up with it’ makes you an asshole. And, generally, leering at any women in public does indeed make you an asshole.

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    Woundup_PenguinTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:07pm

    I’m pretty sure I check out men and women a lot more than my partner. There have been at least two occasions when I said something about women in the park (not snarky, like “I love her outfit” or “I wonder if I could pull off that look”) and he’s not noticed her at all because he was looking at a dog. I just like looking at people/outfits.

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      OvdanyakadWoundup_Penguin
      11/23/15 3:15pm

      I’m genuinely surprised about the amount of times I bring up a pretty lady and it turns out my boyfriend is eyeing pizza/dogs/games etc

      It’s comforting hahaha

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      prollynotWoundup_Penguin
      11/23/15 3:15pm

      Yeah, my man too. I’m always asking him, “what about that girl?” etc and he hasn’t noticed her. It’s always surprising to see who he finds attractive. He’s got such a range, and it’s really hot b/c usually he is attracted to the sort of women that I think look super cool . Or else maybe he’s intentionally selecting gals that he knows I’ll think are cool to find hot- in which case, good on him because it works.

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    Octopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.Tracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:21pm

    Why can't everyone just be honest? Stop writing in for advice and have a conversation with your fucking partner. Be honest and open or shut the fuck up and go away, Jesus.

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      Yoga Nerd, Maybe DeadOctopit didn't choose the burrito life, the burrito life chose octopit.
      11/23/15 3:30pm

      Lol, imagining the Octopit Relationship Advice Column, where every answer to every letter would be this comment copy/pasted.

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      The Obsidian OrderYoga Nerd, Maybe Dead
      11/23/15 3:49pm

      10/10 would read

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    prollynotTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:13pm

    Well, I check out guys. But if you do it in a really obvious way, most of the time the guys will come hit on you. Which is great if you are wanting the attention, but if you just want to be able to sit back and stare, they are unlikely to leave you alone. As for checking out guys when I'm with another guy (a buffer guy to prevent unwanted attention), I tend to not be rude and not be with guys who are rude. We can all be polite about it. I check out dudes, and I assume my man checks out gals. I wish he also checked out dudes, but alas...

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      andsmokeit is mrs tormund giantsbaneprollynot
      11/23/15 3:17pm

      But if you do it in a really obvious way, most of the time the guys will come hit on you

      thissssssssss

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      kshortie16prollynot
      11/23/15 4:05pm

      I must be ugly as hell b/c this literally never happens to me. Or I’m not as obvious as I think I’m being. Either/or but probably both.

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    Feminist KittenjoyTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:07pm

    I appreciate the attempt at balancing the scales here but it seems as though this would really only serve to amplify the importance of physical appearance. Maybe it’s just me but I’m not attracted to the vast majority of men and would rather they downplay their need to judge women by appearance than for me to upplay (?) in response. Thoughts?

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      darleeeeeene aka deraaiilleeeeeeneFeminist Kittenjoy
      11/23/15 3:11pm

      I follow, but I also do find a kind of confidence from allowing myself to ogle men. I dunno...maybe its because I largely ignore my sexuality most of the time in my mundane life.

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      ReginaDentataFeminist Kittenjoy
      11/23/15 3:11pm

      Sure, but the problem with that is that you can’t control anyone’s behavior but your own.

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    UrbanAchieverTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:28pm

    My husband and I were driving down a street when I saw a woman at a bus stop in some boots that I.Had.To.Have. They were that beautiful. They were boots to sell your soul for. But they didn’t match her outfit. So, as a passenger, I was checking out these heavenly boots being condemned to sit below an outfit that just didn’t do them or the wearer justice, and I was thinking about the outfits that I had that would truly do those damn boots justice, and my husband breaks into my thoughts with, “What the hell are you looking at?”

    “What? Why?” I said, because actually I was too embarrassed to admit my trainwreck of thoughts.

    “You were checking out that woman at the bus stop like a guy checks out someone he wants to pin up against a wall on the spot. Like, intense assessment, and lust.”

    So I told him, because marriage and honesty. “Boots. Boots and bad outfit judgement.”

    “That’s pathetic,” he says.

    Yep. But that’s my wandering eye. Boots, and other peoples’ bad outfits.

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      KaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToadUrbanAchiever
      11/23/15 3:59pm

      your husband told you you were pathetic for wanting a pair of boots you saw a woman wearing? that seems kind of harsh to me.

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      UrbanAchieverKaraThrace,LikeEverybody,LovesHypnoToad
      11/23/15 4:08pm

      No, pathetic for judging her outfit so harshly. He totally gets the lust for good boots.

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    OvdanyakadTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:10pm

    Super off topic but I cant get over how that dress is doing NOTHING for what woman’s figure. What is going on there?

    On topic comment:

    Terrible. While I see that Tracy tried to circle the wagons I feel the “make him feel as terrible as you do” original advice to be horrifying.

    I struggle sometimes with this on my particular bad body image days but I feel like consciously trying to make my boyfriend feel the same way would make me feel worse.

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      JaneyRottenOvdanyakad
      11/23/15 3:15pm

      It’s Elizabeth Banks in Magic Mike XXL; she’s playing the MC at a male stripper convention or something. It’s not really supposed to be a tasteful outfit.

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      OvdanyakadJaneyRotten
      11/23/15 3:19pm

      Tasteful or not she’s a woman in a movie I figured they wouldn’t want to put her in a dress that cuts her into shreds. Those lines are terribly placed.

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    shakeeshakeTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:14pm

    I had a similar realisation lately, but it turns out I (I am a straight woman) find it really difficult to objectify men. I watched Magic Mike explicitly because I wanted to see what it was like to ogle men, but I just kept thinking about how much time and effort Channing Tatum must put in to dance like that instead of, like, his abs or whatever. Sigh.

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      shooting magical symbolsshakeeshake
      11/23/15 3:30pm

      Ok so I’m a 33 year old straight woman and have never in my life been like, “check out that dude’s biceps” or enjoyed ogling men at all. After seeing Magic Mike XXL I seriously cannot help but notice nicely sculpted dude arms. I have no idea what happened to my brain, but it cannot be turned off. Like I got into a lane at the grocery store behind a ripped guy JUST because I wanted to gaze at his arms. WTF?!?! Who am I!? (Besides married to a handsome guy, whose arms I also love, haha)

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      normzzzshakeeshake
      11/23/15 3:42pm

      Dude, me too! My sis made me watch that second Magic Mike movie and all I kept saying was, “Wow, Channing Tatum is such a talented dancer! Good for him!!” Everything else made me feel a bit icky...

      ...except for Joe. Joe was too hot for LIFE.

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    Cylontater: Luke Skywalker's Baby MamaTracy Moore
    11/23/15 3:10pm

    I check out guys all the time.

    I check out women all the time.

    Equal opportunity starer.

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      lawlersonsCylontater: Luke Skywalker's Baby Mama
      11/23/15 3:16pm

      word.

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      Ken Yadiggit, AdiosCylontater: Luke Skywalker's Baby Mama
      11/23/15 3:18pm

      I’m too afraid to look at men so I often find myself staring exclusively at women. Not sure what that means about me...

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