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    willsomeonethinkofthechitlinsHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:52pm

    It’s inappropriate to ask anyone that question. I do know someone that struggled for years before she got pregnant, and I know another woman who had several miscarriages and a stillbirth before she had a child. Another person I know had to abort more than halfway through a pregnancy because a severe chromosomal abnormality meant her child would die at or soon after birth. So don't ask that shit, please.

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      RedWriterwillsomeonethinkofthechitlins
      9/16/15 6:05pm

      I was told to throw personal questions back at people who ask this: “when’s the last time you declared bankruptcy?” “When’s the last time you had an orgasm?” “What’s your credit score? Oh, that’s none of my business? WHAT BETTER ADVICE TO TAKE THAN YOUR OWN??!!”

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      bonnismournedinterruptedorgasmRedWriter
      9/16/15 6:43pm

      oh i wanna do this

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    Blueberry JonesHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:48pm

    I really don’t know how my married pals without kids don’t throttle people who ask them this questions. I’m 30 and unmarried and most people fucking know better than to ask me when I am getting married or when I am having kids (they know exactly what answer they will get), but I do have a lot of married pals who like, the second the wedding ceremony is over they are being hounded about children. People need to fuck off and mind their own business. It’s so rude and nosy.

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      cwpBlueberry Jones
      9/16/15 5:52pm

      I’ve watched this and it’s so weird. Their friends and relatives seem to fit their entire lives into about a week, ‘When are you getting married?’ ‘When are you having a kid?’ ‘When are you having annother kid?’ ‘When are you going back to work?’ ‘When are you dying?’ I’d throttle them.

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      mollymlf05Blueberry Jones
      9/16/15 5:55pm

      I’m 28, my 3-year anniversary is coming up, so people are definitely beating around the bush a little less. It doesn’t bug me too much because we’re not trying, but I would probably lose my shit if we were unsuccessfully trying to get pregnant and people kept asking.

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    LisasaurHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:52pm

    It’s an obnoxious thing to ask anyone. It’s none of your goddamn business, and if a couple wants to have children it will probably come up organically. You know, like when she shows up pregnant.

    I am in a very bad mood today.

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      Ms.ChanandlerBongLisasaur
      9/16/15 6:05pm

      It is. I had a cousin ask me on Facebook a few weeks ago. I decided to be a bitch and teach her a lesson. I said “We’ve been trying but we can’t seem to get there”. She replied saying she was going to pray for me. Ha.

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      ambitiousLisasaur
      9/16/15 6:05pm

      I really don’t understand why near strangers ask about this like they need advanced notice in order to make preparations.

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    RedWriterHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:44pm

    *forwards article to my mother*

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      RedStateBlueWomenRedWriter
      9/16/15 5:45pm

      Lol we should just make this an auto response text.

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      RedWriterRedStateBlueWomen
      9/16/15 5:49pm

      Someone get on it because I’m over hearing about this bullshit. And the fact that I’m moving in with my boyfriend is not improving the situation.

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    Ari Schwartz: Dark Lord of the SnarkHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:49pm

    This woman’s fertility is of the utmost importance to me personally.

    I don’t know if I can go on without knowing what her uterus is up to at this moment. Please, whoever you are (who are you?), tell me what your reproductive organs’ status is.

    Or don’t, I don’t really give a shit either way.

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      PessimippopotamusAri Schwartz: Dark Lord of the Snark
      9/16/15 5:55pm

      IS SHE, LIKE, OVULATING RIGHT NOW?!? I MUST KNOW

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      Ari Schwartz: Dark Lord of the SnarkPessimippopotamus
      9/16/15 6:04pm

      It makes me sad not to know where her ova are right now.

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    RedStateBlueWomenHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:42pm

    BUT WE WANT TO SWOON OVER YOUR CUUUUUUUUUTE MIXED RACE BABIES CHRISSY!!!!!- white girls

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      No Math After 5PMRedStateBlueWomen
      9/16/15 5:55pm

      THIS. And most people don’t know, or think, that “mixed” is bothersome to people. A friend of mine used to say, “Mixed with what? Flour and sugar?” Same goes for “exotic.” Any time someone tries it with my kid, I shut it down.

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      Dances With HamstersNo Math After 5PM
      9/16/15 6:05pm

      I have a friend that’s managed the double with this! I’m sterilised (by choice) and she’s actually asked me if I could have it reversed because my husband and I would make such adorable exotic babies.

      She does have redeeming qualities though :-/

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    sallysassalotHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 6:04pm

    Why haven’t you had kids? That’s why.

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      DontBeSuchaBoobPunchTinasallysassalot
      9/16/15 7:33pm

      Though I’ve never wanted to have my own, I do love children.

      This still cracked me up!

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      AnglKatsallysassalot
      9/16/15 9:51pm

      I feel like I can’t really laugh at this since I’m forever cleaning out the litter box.

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    stacyinbeanHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 5:43pm

    It’s so strange to me how people ask about this, would you ask about the contents of my large intestine? If someone is pregnant and wants you to know, she will tell you, I promise.

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      Ari Schwartz: Dark Lord of the Snarkstacyinbean
      9/16/15 5:48pm

      If someone is pregnant and wants you to know, she will tell you, I promise.

      AND HOW.

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      chienfoustacyinbean
      9/16/15 5:53pm

      And other’s interest in our wombs really never ends, does it? If you have a kid, then the questions are “When are you going to give little bebe a brother or sister? And if you have two (god forbid they be of the same sex) then it’s “Aren’t you going to try again for a girl (or boy)?” And then if you happen to be very fertile and have lots of kids, then you get “Wow! Five kids! Was that last one unplanned?” People - stop being so concerned about everyone’s uteri!!!!!!!

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    Charlotte29 aka Rob KHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 6:03pm

    FUCKING THANK YOU! Honestly it bugs the HELL out of me when people do that. It’s none of anyone’s damn business when or IF people have kids.

    Also, if someone responds to that question you have no business asking in the first place with “I don’t want kids” the appropriate response is not “Oh you’ll change your mind!” or “But kids are so wonderful! They’re the best thing you can do with your life!” etc, etc. The appropriate response is “Okay cool.” Or no response. Because you’ve already been talking to much.

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      digbetteCharlotte29 aka Rob K
      9/17/15 10:28am

      You know I often ask my female friends if they want kids. I also ask them if they like bananas (I don’t like bananas). With the kids thing I just want to know, and with the banana thing it’s just so I can go ‘uck really but they go all gross in your mouth!’

      Basically I just like asking questions. I’d be horrified to think anyone thought I was suggesting anything or meant anything by it, but I’m reasonably confident that given the frequency with which I ask dumb questions about random things the bb stuff just slides on in.

      The only thing I can recently remember judging is someone saying they didn’t like Star Wars. I mean I’m not a big fan or anything but it seems strange to me that anyone would actively dislike Star Wars? Babies, tho? I totally get not being into babies.

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      Charlotte29 aka Rob Kdigbette
      9/17/15 10:56am

      I was talking less about “Do you want kids?” and more “When are you having kids?” Two VERY different questions. I think it’s reasonable to have a conversation with your friends about whether or not you want kids. What is NOT reasonable is ASSUMING that everyone wants to have children, which a lot of assholes people do.

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    motherofgoatsHillary Crosley Coker
    9/16/15 6:09pm

    I feel this. My husband and I have been trying for a couple of years, and the only “success” we have had have culminated in 2 miscarriages. So when people ask me when I’m having kids I just don’t know what to say.

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      pygmypossummotherofgoats
      9/16/15 6:18pm

      I’m sorry. That must be very painful. I hope you can find something you’re comfortable saying to these assholes (comfortable within the reality of being asked a shitty question - you know what I mean) because you owe NO ONE any kind of answer or explanation. Or maybe don’t say anything. Just stare back at them silently and let their rudeness hang there in space.

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      Kim Jong's Angstmotherofgoats
      9/16/15 6:33pm

      I’m with you. 2 years, 3 miscarriages, and 1 surgery on my uterus later, and every time someone asks me when we’re having kids it takes all of my energy not to punch them in the face. I mean that literally too. I had to stop myself from decking a friend’s wife at a barbecue a few weeks ago.

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