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    LadyologyStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:51pm

    I’m just so grateful that mother and child are well. That is ultimately what matters here.

    But Fellow would have called an ambulance an hour plus earlier. He would have called Brotherology and asked for fucking military favors to helicopter me to the care of professionals. Ten pounds is nothing to sneeze at.

    But as a woman who will need a C section (not pregnant now, but trust; I will), I also just can’t relate to this whole experience, personally. This would endanger the lives of our children and not for a moment would I ever allow that.

    Who am I to say how she should feel about how her partner behaved. Again, grateful that mother and child are well.

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      AspenLadyology
      7/19/15 3:00pm

      This was her third baby. If she's had two uneventful vsginal births then this probably an extremely low risk pregnancy.

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      willsomeonethinkofthechitlinsLadyology
      7/19/15 3:04pm

      A birth is not a medical emergency. Unless she was bleeding, an ambulance is not going to take you to the hospital an hour and fifteen minutes early. Turn up early and you will be sent home. You call the hospital, they assess your contractions and tell you whether you come in or not. Unless you plan a section, Delivering a ten pound baby is no riskier than delivering a six pound one, unless the mother is abnormally tiny. I’d rather the ambulance take sick and critically injured people to the hospital. Had my last two not been planned home births, they would have been born in the taxi on the way to the hospital.

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    hedonisticmeStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:45pm

    Guys I am six month into incubation mode and I am way terrified of labor. Hearing that screaming did not help my anxiety about it :-/

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      willsomeonethinkofthechitlinshedonisticme
      7/19/15 3:11pm

      Take the drugs if you want them. You'll be okay.

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      I made a pigeonrathedonisticme
      7/19/15 3:44pm

      Epidural. Trust me. It is mankind’s greatest invention

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    SpringSprungStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:22pm

    “We did it! High-five, babe!”

    Uh, no. The only way “we” did it is if she got to crush his balls during each contraction.

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      septembergrrlSpringSprung
      7/19/15 2:28pm

      To be fair he did talk her through it without panicking, which is pretty damn impressive under the circumstances. And I usually hate “we” talk about pregnancies and births as much as anybody.

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      SpringSprungseptembergrrl
      7/19/15 2:29pm

      Okay, points for that. Points deducted for driving and filming though.

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    GrumpyEagleStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:24pm

    They didn’t fully plan out multiple alternative routes to the hospital? I was so seriously paranoid about this sort of thing happening that I scouted out streets for weeks. (Although this also points up the state of maternity care in the U.S. - “birthing centers” are expensive for hospitals to operate, so they're fewer and farther between than they used to be.)

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      IIIGrumpyEagle
      7/19/15 2:50pm

      I read somewhere else that this is their third baby, and that he came way faster than the other two had. She said in an interview that next time she’d leave at the first signs of labor to avoid a repeat. Lots of birth coaches/natural birth advocates say that you should wait as long as you can to head to the hospital to avoid unnecessary stress/monitoring/interventions, so that’s probably what they’d tried to do. Things just happen weird sometimes!

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      willsomeonethinkofthechitlinsIII
      7/19/15 3:10pm

      My third child was born in three minutes. There was literally no time for the second midwife to come and my husband had to assist. My second child was born in 20 minutes. I tend to go into active labor quickly. Once my waters break, there will be a baby in minutes.

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    HistoryRhymes1Stassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:34pm

    Is that going to show up on the Carfax?

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      Socks Are My Favorite ClothesHistoryRhymes1
      7/19/15 2:48pm

      ^^ This.

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      dcgirl13HistoryRhymes1
      7/19/15 2:56pm

      Based on the experience of a friend who ended up delivering in her car, the smell and stain is very hard to get rid of.

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    septembergrrlStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:29pm

    I love the look on Lesia’s face at the end. She seems so totally in love with the baby. I don’t get why he didn’t pull over, but maybe there wasn’t a safe space to do it on that stretch of road?

    (And yeah, I know she tells him to keep driving, but if there was ever a time to overrule your partner’s wishes that would be it.)

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      IIIseptembergrrl
      7/19/15 2:41pm

      I’m kind of confused as to why stopping would have been better? Cars stopped on the shoulder of the road are not the safest places. If anything I’d suggest continuing to drive but foregoing the filming, as that’s an additional distraction that doesn’t get them any closer to the birthing center/hospital. What am I missing?

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      AltairaMorbius2200ADIII
      7/19/15 3:33pm

      Because then he could have helped more, she could have gotten into a better position, and moving cars are not safe, either.

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    Mike Pipper Super GIF EnthusiastStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:22pm

    “The rules of the road don’t apply to me.”

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      randilynMike Pipper Super GIF Enthusiast
      7/19/15 3:17pm

      this is making the rounds again. (thank you hurrikate)

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    Marlene FreaktrickStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:18pm

    wait he kept driving? And then took credit (WE did it? wtf?!) for it being done like he was somehow involved? barf. I would have been screaming for a divorce, she is way nicer than I am.

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      Bokbunzajoo1Marlene Freaktrick
      7/19/15 2:46pm

      It didn't really happen unless a dude gets to take credit.

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      Marlene FreaktrickBokbunzajoo1
      7/19/15 2:48pm

      ughghakldkajdlkjajkaljaa

      words cannot describe how i much i hate that you are right.

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    IlikefactsStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:53pm

    I know everyone here is going to be up in arms about the guys saying we did it, but lets not forget that while some women think men saying we when it comes to pregnancy is about men taking credit for something they played no part in.

    Lets not forget there are still plenty of women who want their partners to say we about everything pregnancy related, because it makes them fell more safe supported and less alone.

    In the end it’s about what the mother wants, it’s highly unlikely he would have used the word we if she was not ok with pregnancy stuff being a we thing.

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      CharcharbinxIlikefacts
      7/19/15 5:04pm

      Thank you for this. I feel like too many people are getting fucked up over that comment. I like saying “we” when I was in a 32 hour long labor with our son. I would've gone batshit crazy if he wasn't there the entire time doing every single thing he could to make it as comfortable as he could for me. WE definitely got through it together.

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      rockoutwithyourbockoutIlikefacts
      7/19/15 6:32pm

      Yes. He was being really supportive and she told him not to pull over just to keep going. She also seemed to really thrive on his coaching. People are all different. Women feel differently. Geebus. No, “we” are not pregnant together biologically but if I ever got knocked up, my husband would be part of these situations because we parent as a team now (he has kids) and we would continue to do so.

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    TamWingsStassa Edwards
    7/19/15 2:17pm

    That does not seem super safe. Maybe do not film your child’s birth and drive.

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