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    JJ612Gabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:05pm

    I understand that parents have to work but isn’t 3 months old a bit early to be leaving a child at daycare without at least looking into the legitimacy of the place? Maybe I just have no idea because I don't have kids but it seems irresponsible to me.

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      pitypartyJJ612
      7/14/15 6:08pm

      Most companies only give you 12 weeks or so of leave, some people don’t have any choice but to return to work around the time a kid is 3 mos old (and yes, they could have looked into the legitimacy of the place more but it was a recommended by a friend which is good enough for many people. Very sad)

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      YourmomsdisdainJJ612
      7/14/15 6:08pm

      Trolololololol

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    dothedewGabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:15pm

    This is a nightmare. For the first few months of my daughters’ lives, I was obsessed with making sure they were breathing when sleeping, because you cannot always tell with such a little thing and because SIDS is not uncommon. It took me months before I was not nervous every time they went down. I cannot even imagine what this mother is going through. And she is probably blaming herself too, even though this might be SIDS and it might be the case that nothing she did or did not do could have prevented this.

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      HunterPenceNoneTheRicherdothedew
      7/14/15 6:20pm

      big hug dew.

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      dothedewHunterPenceNoneTheRicher
      7/14/15 6:24pm

      Thanks, I could use one right now.

      ::hugs back::

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    BrocephalusGabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:02pm

    It was also her first day returning to work from maternity leave, according to the Daily News.

    I don’t know why, but that makes a horrible thing even worse.

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      CharlieKellyKingofTheRatsBrocephalus
      7/14/15 6:05pm

      Probably because that is the first time the kid was left with someone else and new moms are super fucking anxious to begin with about leaving kids places.

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      Dashiell HammletCharlieKellyKingofTheRats
      7/14/15 6:11pm

      Not just new moms. When we left our baby at 4 months, that whole first day, I was kind of a wreck.

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    Gallus Advocatus, Esq.Gabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:05pm

    What the shit, babies can just die from not being burped!? I mean, it drank some milk and had a nap, what the actual fuck happened here that a “licensed” day care place would have prevented :(

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      ChalupaBatwomanGallus Advocatus, Esq.
      7/14/15 6:11pm

      Yeah, a license doesn't magically protect you from caring from an infant who dies of SIDS or any other number of causes of infant mortality. I'm waiting until all the facts come out to make my own judgment, but to operate an unlicensed daycare isn't the worst crime someone could commit and if someone of this mothers status, who could obviously afford high quality care, thought it was good enough for her infant, this might just be a really sad case of terrible luck.

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      Cherith CutestoryGallus Advocatus, Esq.
      7/14/15 6:15pm

      Well, the autopsy will come back with the cause of death. It could very well have been SIDS and there would have been nothing they can do.

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    UmmYeahOkGabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:30pm

    I took my 2 1/2 year old to WinKids for a 3 hour “camp.” I informed them that my daughter had never been away from her parents. We have never used daycare, and never had a babysitter other than her grandparents which she frequently sees. Every other parent dropped off their kid, while I stayed, to make sure she didn’t have any separation anxiety. I felt like a crazy helicopter parent for being there. After about an hour though, I watched her leave the room, opening a door and entering another room, where she started to play. They only went after her after they saw me get up to investigate. What’s even more crazy is that the adult watching the older children’s class didn’t seem to notice that he had gotten a new student.

    Next day I found her in the lobby, where they leave the front doors open. In their defense though, they might’ve assumed she was with me. But pretty much all that week, I couldn’t just drop her off like everyone else did. The last day though, I did, but was worried all day that I’d come back to find her playing next to a busy 6 lane street. ...and somehow it being my fault, even though I wasn’t the one who enrolled her. The ONE time I finally let go, she gets lost or killed and its somehow my fault.

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      MegSwanUmmYeahOk
      7/14/15 6:33pm

      Girl take a Xanax.

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      MEtheBarbarianUmmYeahOk
      7/14/15 10:25pm

      Former preschool teacher here, they should have been aware, but it is really confusing when parents are hanging around and we aren't big fans of it. Trust me that it’s way harder on your kid that way. Take a cue from your child, if they are comfortable and don’t fuss when you go to leave, then don’t worry.

      If you do want to spend time, read a short book then hug and say goodbye and make a clean exit. If you are hesitant your child will pick up on it.

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    OMG!PONIES!Gabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 8:47pm

    My 20 week-old baby is asleep upstairs. This...

    Well shit if this isn’t every new parent’s nightmare.

    The first week of having a first child is nerve-wracking for a million reasons. And one of the reasons is that they don’t breathe regularly. In fact, it’s common for babies not to have a regular breathing pattern for the first couple of months - all the way up to six months’ old. So when you are trying to fall asleep while keeping an ear out for the baby, you become terrified every time the breathing stops for more than 5 seconds.

    This, combined with a baby’s inability to clear obstructions and climate problems, is believed to be what causes SIDS. There could be a bunch of reasons. The baby could have smothered herself with a swaddling blanket. The room could have been a bit too hot or a bit too chilly or a bit too humid or a bit too dry. The baby could have rolled over. The caretaker could have put the baby down on her stomach or her side.

    SIDS are the four letters that keep parents up at night.

    As to the licensing, even if a friend recommends a daycare center, I look for a license. At least then I know that it may have actually seen a city inspector. But that’s me. That’s how I operate. Other people are different and different does not equal wrong.

    Is this the parents’ fault? Not at all. The parents maybe were too trusting of a friend’s recommendation but, when you are new to babies, you seek out advice from friends. Raising a baby for the first time is a communal activity. I can understand why the parents would have gone with a place like this.

    And to anyone who thinks this somehow might be the parent’s fault for whatever reason, there’s really no reason to give voice to that opinion here. You’re free to do so (that’s what freedom of expression is about) but really, all you’ll be doing is outing yourself as a callous asshole.

    Dumping on people who have lost a child - especially a baby - is the epitome of being shitty.

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      waykwikOMG!PONIES!
      7/14/15 9:56pm

      “20 weeks.” Your kid is 5 months. And at “18 months,” your kid is a year-and-a-half. Please don’t be one of those people/parents. Everything else you say is pretty much spot-on.

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      Harbour Sealwaykwik
      7/14/15 10:05pm

      20 weeks and 18 months are used because at this stage children change from week to week and month to month. It’s how HCW measure milestones and it’s how they are presented in books and other literature.

      In other words, please shut up.

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    LetsGoStargazingGabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 6:04pm

    Should be “New York Artist’s Baby Dies in First Day at Unlicensed SoHo Daycare.”

    Current version makes it seem like it was the daycare’s first day.

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      ddawn23LetsGoStargazing
      7/14/15 6:16pm

      Maybe it’s just me, but I also thought the fact that the parent is an artist was connected to the story, like the unlicensed day care was part of an art instillation and it was the first day of said instillation.

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    G3istbotGabrielle Bluestone
    7/14/15 7:25pm

    I cannot even begin to comprehend the amount of grief that the parents must be going through. Extremely sorry to hear of their loss.

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      Ken WheatonGabrielle Bluestone
      7/15/15 10:34am

      Boy. If only they’d had a license, this never would have happened.

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        TayTayTrutherGabrielle Bluestone
        7/14/15 6:03pm

        Okay. Gonna go crawl under the covers now...

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