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treacleDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:05pm
Saying a woman or girl has “daddy issues” is fucking wretched. If she has daddy issues, shouldn’t the hate be directed at, you know, her god damned father? How is his disgusting and damaging fuckery her fault?

Just more fucking sexism where women are expected to take the blame as well as shoulder the responsibility for an inept man’s bullshit failures. Fuck that noise.
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  Sqarrtreacle
  6/20/15 4:16pm
  Gotta protect dem delicate menzes from duh hysterical wimminzes.
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  Stephoclestreacle
  6/20/15 4:21pm
  Yep, and it’s such a throwaway for any time a woman dares to lay down expectations for a man. As in, since we are in a relationship, when I text you, I expect a response within a reasonable timeframe. Asshole guy’s response: geez, back up with your clingy shit—what, do you have daddy issues?!?
  
  It’s honestly an easy way for men to begin shirking any responsibility they have to anyone else before they’ve even produced offspring. So if a guy accuses a woman of having daddy issues, sounds like that’s the signal to move on. If he can’t be expected to be responsible or accountable to someone else in a romantic relationship, odds are he won’t be responsible or accountable as a parent either.
  
  As an aside: attachment issues are a real thing, but surprise surprise, both males and females can have attachment issues and they can have them as a result of problems with either parent. So yep: boiling it down to “daddy issues” is sexist bullshit.
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HappyFunDadDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:22pm
Going to AskMen.com as a legitimate source of information in regards to men makes as much sense as going to Jezebel.com for feminist thought.

Its the same click bait crap dedicated to each core audience. I constantly chuckle at the utterly inane and sexist crap that gets posted here from time to time.
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  SqarrHappyFunDad
  6/20/15 4:31pm
  Hey, look, everybody! I found somebody with daddy issues!
  
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  GreenDetectivesHappyFunDad
  6/20/15 4:52pm
  Variety is the spice of life. Unlearning old social ‘tudes from the 50’s is best with a chuckle. NPR isn’t the only source of socially conscious journalism. Jezebel has spirit.
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My dear, sweet brother Numsie!Dayna Evans
6/20/15 4:32pm

GIF

DADDY ISSUES

Ummm, Mr Stodden? Your daughter left the lights on in her underwear. The batteries are gonna die.

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  deerlady83My dear, sweet brother Numsie!
  6/20/15 4:41pm
  That is her dad? Creepy.......
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  My dear, sweet brother Numsie!deerlady83
  6/20/15 4:42pm
  Yup. That’s her father =/
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scottDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:32pm
As a single male, I try to find dating advice on sites like these, but they always seem to boil down to treating females like shit and buying clothes I can’t afford. I don’t want to treat others like shit and can’t find contemporary advice columns that offer non-douchy advice. I did find a book from the 80s that proposes learning to love yourself to build self esteem and confidence to attract others without being a dick.
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  Tastycakes2scott
  6/20/15 4:38pm
  This letter-writer might have more or different problems going on than you do, but the advice applies to anyone: build an independent life so you’re confident and happy in your own skin and not relying on a relationship to do that for you, go to stuff where you’re likely to meet people you have things in common with, and treat women like individuals and not a monolithic other species.
  
  http://captainawkward.com/2014/08/26/617...
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  pleep ploopscott
  6/20/15 4:42pm
  Dr. Nerdlove’s column on Kotaku is pretty fantastic when it comes to dating advice.
  
  http://kotaku.com/tag/ask-dr-ner...
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OmarGoneDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:26pm
Thanks for this essay. I hate the way some guys fling around “Daddy Issues” to explain women’s reasonable responses to selfish or inconsiderate behavior, i.e. “home 1 minute late” is “home an hour you agreed you’d help do this household task.”

FWIW, I have a great dad and am still pretty messed up with relationships ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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  deerlady83OmarGone
  6/20/15 4:33pm
  Having good parents doesn't ensure you still won't have some kind of issue. They can only help so much.
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  OmarGonedeerlady83
  6/20/15 4:39pm
  I know that. I was kinda joking.
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sybannDayna Evans
6/20/15 5:46pm
I had a strong male figure in my life. A good, kind, intelligent feminist who loved us unreservedly. I was constantly accused of having “daddy issues” because I expected the men in my life to actually be men and not boys with “mommy issues.” ;)
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  Toscasybann
  6/20/15 6:10pm
  I hear you. My Dad is astonishing. Throughout my life, my main dating problem has been expecting men to treat me with the same unthinking respect he treats my mother. Oh, and expecting them to take responsibility for their own problems.
  
  Apparently this makes me an emasculating bitch.
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  sybannTosca
  6/20/15 6:13pm
  Join the club. Expecting men to be grownups who fully participate in a partnership, and don’t need their noses wiped seems to be too much to ask for most.
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Cherith CutestoryDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:45pm
Funny how the type of dudes worried about dating chicks with daddy issues are never the types to worry about giving their daughter daddy issues.

He made me feel responsible for our lack of connection, which was mostly predicated on the fact that he only loves two things

That must be in the alcoholic father handbook.
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  Emma GolddiggerCherith Cutestory
  6/20/15 5:00pm
  Exactly!!! “Hey, AskMen.com, how do you deal with a woman who has issues because her dad withheld his love and neglected her emotionally?" “Why, you withhold your love and neglect her emotionally. Duh.”
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  GELLA - LLAPEmma Golddigger
  6/20/15 5:29pm
  for askman we are a unknown specie fairy tale creatures
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PanchoVilleneuve STDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:04pm
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  deerlady83PanchoVilleneuve ST
  6/20/15 4:07pm
  This is so funny and bad. I like that show.
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  PeachyTeachPanchoVilleneuve ST
  6/20/15 4:08pm
  Ok, I can’t deny it any longer. I MUST watch this show!
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MiloMinderbenderDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:06pm
I learned early that sometimes the people who are supposed to take care of you will leave you. That’s not a complex, that’s a fact.
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  Valeria InézMiloMinderbender
  6/20/15 4:27pm
  That’s similar to my own mantra: “the only person you can truly rely on to care for you is YOURSELF.” Makes for a hyper mature and independent childhood, but relationships are tricky.
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RuthieDayna Evans
6/20/15 4:15pm
My ex husband is similar. Less drunk, but chock full of anger and resentment towards myself and our daughter. He even wants a chance at adopting his grand daughter, because “he didn’t have a chance to bring her up (my daughter) with morals and principles, and he wants a chance to show what sort of child he could raise”. The implication being that I raised my daughter to be immoral and unprincipled. The thing is with men, it’s never their fault, is it? When are they going to step up and say I made mistakes? I did things wrong? It would be better than blaming everyone else.
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  sallygetyourpianoRuthie
  6/20/15 4:26pm
  I really want to go punch your ex-husband right now. Must be my daddy issues.
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  SqarrRuthie
  6/20/15 4:29pm
  Your ex-husband’s an asshole.
  
  Also, a piece of shit dangling from an asshole.
  
  “Adopting his granddaughter” is a horrifying idea. What the fuck.
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