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    Jerry-NetherlandAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 1:25pm

    I speak from experience, and I absolutely appreciate his story. Here’s a bit of mine:

    After a a major explosion and 2 months in a coma, I awakened (technically, was extubated, technically) to discover that I was unable to bend my arms or use my legs (unlike this professor, in my case, all of this was ultimately corrected through years of orthopedic and neurological surgeries and physical therapy).

    In spite of having daily visits from friends/family, the nights were frightful; so alone in a burn unit intensive care room. One night, I was laying there crying in misery and feeling so lonely and afraid of what my future held; I genuinely just needed to be held. I rang the nurse bell, and fortunately, my favorite nurse - who had taken quite a (friendly) liking to me - was on duty. She came in and asked if there was anything she could do, and I asked her to please hold my hand for awhile - without gloves.

    She knew I wasn’t asking for anything more than human connection (hell, she knew me to be gay, and therefore my request wasn’t “loaded”). She pulled up a chair, Purelled her hand, and held my hand until I calmed down and fell asleep.

    Several weeks later, I was to be transferred to a rehab facility for the start of no-one-knew-how-long physical and occupational therapy, but I was only told a bed was available and I’d be transferred three hours before this would occur. I was panic stricken (when going through a life altering thing like this, all emotions are exponentially hightened), because what tiny amount of pride I had left dictated that I not be taken out of the hospital, into an ambulance and to the rehab hospital in a hospital gown! She was there and saw me freak out. Then she disappeared.

    An hour later, she came into my room with a bag from Target. She had swapped her lunch hour with someone else, and bought a tank top and drawstring sweatpants for me (manageable to get on/off me in my condition) - on her own dime - to ensure me some dignity for the move. About an hour later, my father showed up and was surprised and so happy to see me in clothing. [No one had brought me any clothing because I was only able to be in hospital gowns for several months at that point]. I told him who’d bought it and dressed me. She refused to accept any reimbursement.

    So whether it’s as a de facto sex therapist giving a young man the dignity of assurance that he was sexually functional (in the professor’s case) or making sure that someone has something to wear to give him dignity in a stressful and helpless moment (in my case), nurses who work with the severely injured are a special kind of angel.

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      PeteRRJerry-Netherland
      6/17/15 1:48pm

      I wasn’t as bad as yourself, but I did experience almost life-ending injuries and the nurses who were there everyday were the best and were usually the brightest part of each day.

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      rural_rebelJerry-Netherland
      6/17/15 2:02pm

      You sound strong. I hope things are going well for you. I was stuck in a hospital when multiple myeloma cancer broke vertebra in my spine. I had told friends and relatives to please wait till I was home to help me. The nurses and nursing assistant were my lifeline. I was so grateful when a CNA bought me some regular socks for my cold feet after being in the neuro unit for a few weeks. I cried.

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    The Noble RenardAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 11:48am

    I’m torn. On the one hand, no one wants to hear about your crazy Penthouse escapades.

    On the other hand, it was part of an issue about the sexuality of disabled people, a serious issue considering that most disabled people are treated by society as essentially eunuchs (or the female equivalent), and his story about discovering that paralysis had not destroyed his capacity for sex is clearly an important part of reminding the world that people in wheelchairs or with other disabilities are still people, with romantic and sexual desires like everyone else.

    So, on balance, I’m on his side. I think it was just the right amount of graphic for the subject.

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      serendous sThe Noble Renard
      6/17/15 12:22pm

      For some reason, people assume that once you’re old or disabled, sexual desire just goes away. It doesn’t. And it’s perfectly reasonable that newly-paralyzed man would wonder if his dick still worked. Accommodations can be made to help you get around with a wheelchair. Physical and occupational therapy can get you to the point where you can do some things for yourself. But how are you going to jerk off or engage in a sexually intimate relationship? Are you just supposed to never, ever do or think anything sexual ever again? It’s ultimately a quality of life issue.

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      outthereserendous s
      6/17/15 12:33pm

      I’m not old or disabled and I have practically none, it’s pretty depressing.

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    Dave Adam Weinstein
    6/17/15 11:48am

    I think this cannot be said enough: you can never be thankful enough when someone is kind enough to give you a blow job. They are all acts of kindness, though this one is elevated beyond the usual.

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      SplatworthyDave
      6/17/15 11:55am

      I’m a little curious to know if the boyfriends and husbands of these gals admired them for this level of compassion.

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      Dave Splatworthy
      6/17/15 12:12pm

      Probably not, but then it was the 70’s so...who knows?

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    LunSeiAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 1:18pm

    Wait, wait, wait, wait. Everyone’s missing the point here? A nurse doing something that is pretty much illegal?

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      theunseenoneLunSei
      6/17/15 1:26pm

      Doctor assisted suicide is illegal too, but that doesn’t make it wrong.

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      LunSeitheunseenone
      6/17/15 1:40pm

      Excuse me, if something is illegal - it’s illegal. You can’t do it.

      And usually, when something is illegal, there is a pretty good reason for it.

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    The ever-present football-player rapistAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 11:44am

    Censorship stories leave a bad taste in my mouth.

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      C.T. Rex PopeThe ever-present football-player rapist
      6/17/15 12:17pm
      GIF
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    AtLeastDingleberriesDontBiteAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 11:46am

    As much as it reads like a bad Maxim/Playboy fiction, this needs to be censored....why, again? College students can't handle a non-pornographic depiction of a blow-job?

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      PeteRRAtLeastDingleberriesDontBite
      6/17/15 11:56am

      Unfortunately, we’re finding out they can’t.

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      CameForTheFactsPeteRR
      6/17/15 12:01pm

      They most certainly can. College administrations just can’t accept that.

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    Hollow_LogAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 11:49am

    Holy shit! Free blowjobs and the best parking spaces!

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      Snow Monkey AmbassadorHollow_Log
      6/17/15 1:26pm

      How does this not have ALL THE STARS?!

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    Hollow_LogAdam Weinstein
    6/17/15 12:47pm

    I imagine the blowjob you receive when you are paralyzed isn’t dissimilar to the one Ray Stantz receives in Ghostbusters.

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      cheerful_exgirlfriendAdam Weinstein
      6/17/15 12:45pm

      God Bless Nurses

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        Ned FreyAdam Weinstein
        6/17/15 1:25pm

        “Dear Penthouse Forum: You’ll never believe what happened to me ...”

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