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VoteyMcVotefaceThePartyVoteDriverMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:18pm
Good evening Jezzies. I hope everyone is having a great weekend. I did chores, did yard work and bought comic books so over all a good Saturday.

This evening, I am reaching out to the Jez community for your help. I have recently re-done my entire OKC profile. I don’t want to post the link because of the pictures, however what I was hoping was I could post my responses to the questions about myself and in turn, perhaps get some feedback from a group of ladies, since it’s ladies who I’m trying toi appeal to. So with that said, I present to you…..well me. Any feedback you can give is appreciated.

My self-summary
.I am a liberal, christian, left wing pink-commie bastad and proud of it. I love my friends, my family, my New England teams, my silly Japanese cartoons, and maybe if i’m lucky, i can add you to the top of the list.
What I’m doing with my life
I work I.T as a contractor supporting the Department Of Human Services. I love my work and i have a great group of coworkers. I have my Net+ certification and getting my A+ certification. In layman’s terms that means i have a piece of paper that says if i go taking apart your computer or screwing around with your network, trust me, i know what i’m doing. In my spare time i run the Twitter account for my church.
I’m really good at
I love to learn. Give me something to learn and i’m as happy as a Duck Dynasty guy with something to hate. I’m good at games and puzzles and i love trivia. I’m good at using various types of social media and figuring out the secrets of getting the most out of your phone. I am a good listener and i like it when people trust me enough to open up to me about what’s bothering them. I’m good at making people laugh and i take great pride in it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I’ll have to try to edit this down because there is a lot.
Food: Most anything really. There are some veggies i won’t eat and haven’t from childhood. On the other hand i love sushi and would love to take a girl to a sushi place for a date.
Movies: I love sci-fi and fantasy films. I’m not a comic reader other than Japanese manga but i love the comic book movies. i have no qualms about taking a girl to a romantic movie as long as it wasn’t the same weekend as the opening of Age Of Ultron :).
Shows: NCIS, NCIS:New Orleans, Scorpion, Madam Secretary, WWE Raw, and a variety of other shows on streaming media.
The six things I could never do without
1. My iphone
2. My netflix and funimation subs
3.My Kisuke Urahara cosplay hat ( google it, it’s an awesome hat)
4. My pin collection
5.Good reading material
6. A well made mushroom and sausage pizza.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What are we in the universe. What plan does God have for me and how can i be the man he wants me to be. How did Gotham take such a cool premises and result in such a mediocre show that i can’t help but keep watching. WIll i meet someone special who gets who i am, appreciates it and let’s me be there for her and love her in my own special way.
On a typical Friday night I am
If i’m not working out then i’m at home watchjing my shows. During the season i’ll be catching The Amazing Race or Hawaii- Five 0 or if those aren’t on something from my Netflix.
You should message me if
If you want to meet a funny charming guy who looks damm good in purple, knows how to treat a lady to a good time and make her laugh and is a complete gentleman.
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  MackieVoteyMcVotefaceThePartyVoteDriver
  5/02/15 7:24pm
  I would try to clean up all the grammar and spelling errors like “watchjing”, “damm” and “.I am”. Additionally, I think that it’s more charming if you don’t start with a list of political descriptors, as well as not coming off as too cocky/conceited (so maybe editing out things like “a complete gentleman” which sounds a bit cliche anyway). Good luck!
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  Puddingtaine2VoteyMcVotefaceThePartyVoteDriver
  5/02/15 7:25pm
  Well, maybe take out the part about how you watch so much TV and spend Friday night doing that because that’s not super-appealing. Also, grammar and punctuation count so capitalize “I”, etc.
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keepcalmcarryonMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:19pm
Tomorrow is my kids 4th birthday party and she requested a Harry Potter theme. I’ve been slaving all day making her chocolate frogs and replica boxes, and you know what she does this morning while I’m working? She takes the fish net, scoops up ALL 10 fish in her fishtank and flushes them down the toilet because “she didn’t want them anymore.” I am at a total loss with this child, like, are you kidding me? Why are young children such psychopaths? I’m trying to remain calm and finish my Harry Potter crafting but you can believe she is in big trouble.

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  Marillenbaumkeepcalmcarryon
  5/02/15 7:25pm
  Woah. That’s dark. I mean, I don’t have kids, so I really don’t know what else to say, but...damn. Good luck, and I hope the party goes well!
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  VBinNVkeepcalmcarryon
  5/02/15 7:25pm
  Too bad she didn’t know RobGronkowski’sPartyBusDriver who is a big sushi fan.
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Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshitMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:19pm
I have a big paper due Friday and I haven’t even started any research or anything. I just DONT. CARE. This masters program was supposed to be a professional program rather than academic, and here I am writing history papers that have nothing to do with my job. BLAH.

I’m drinking beers and smoking cigarettes and crying over Call the Midwife (no spoilers pls, I’m only on season 3 on Netflix). Talk to me, Jezzies!

Dinner options: crab cake that I bought from Central Market or breakfast for dinner. I don’t know what to do with the crab cake other than cook it.
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  Ariana Grande's a Banana-eating VeganCaptain Janeway has no time for your bullshit
  5/02/15 7:24pm
  I’ve got one due tomorrow. Granted, I’ve done the research but have I so much as written a sentence?
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  Cocopop!Captain Janeway has no time for your bullshit
  5/02/15 7:28pm
  Get on that crab cake. That’s all I can say.
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FoxgloveTeaMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:55pm
Random question Jezzies: If you could be any animal, what would you pick?

I’m going with a leopard because they live alone and chill in trees.

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  Margaret Jean PerflipisklupFoxgloveTea
  5/02/15 7:58pm
  River otter. No question. ALL THEY DO IS FROLIC TOGETHER.
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  LisasaurFoxgloveTea
  5/02/15 8:04pm
  Cat. They give 0 fucks and sleep 16 hours a day.
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kitteneyeMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:41pm
Can we have a vent session about skin issues? (Or just a discussion on what’s working/isn’t work for you!)

I came off of serving on a jury a little over a week ago. It was a couple weeks long, during which time I basically bought lunch because there was no way of heating anything up/keeping it cool at the court house. I also drank too much coffee and too little water. And after a few days of festering, my skin fucking ERUPTED this week in response. Like multiple cysts on my cheeks and shoulders. It hasn’t been this bad in months, and it’s been such a hit to my self esteem.

I hate that I’m a fully grown woman and this is still something that I have issues with. Like jeez. I don’t even want great skin. I want normal, unremarkable, mostly okay skin. I know that it’s an internal thing, because they’re cystic (I’ve had really great luck with Pocket Derm for the smaller stuff!). It’s not bad enough for Accutane, but it’s bad enough that my previous derm pushed oral antibiotics (no, thank you). I clearly can’t waver from the parameters I’ve put on my food (absolutely zero dairy, a shit ton of water, a small coffee with almond milk ONLY, very little sugar and no light colored carbs) even for a short amount of time without ramifications.

Ugh. Part of what bothers me is that I’m so bothered by it. Like, it’s spring. I live in New York City. I have plans with friends and family all weekend. A decent job. A cute apartment. I’m so lucky with so many things, but acne is such a bitch on both your appearance and your self confidence.
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  Lisasaurkitteneye
  5/02/15 7:47pm
  I feel you so hard! I have random bouts of cystic acne and it’s just so demoralizing. I mean, remember when we were teenagers and thought that being an adult meant that we wouldn’t have to deal with this shit anymore?
  
  I currently have 2 huge ones on my face that are receding, but still really obnoxious. I’m sure no one else notices/cares, but when I look in the mirror it’s all I can see and I feel so gross!
  
  Do your best to enjoy your weekend - don’t let the acne win!
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  Marillenbaumkitteneye
  5/02/15 7:48pm
  That’s entirely reasonable, though. It sucks to feel like you don’t have control over something as fundamental as your own face. I’m sorry you’re going through that. You are also right, though, that you’ve got a lot of awesome things going on in your life as well. Spring! Family! Friends! New York! Just remember—even if your face is being a jerk, YOU are baller as hell.
  
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SycophantMarie Lodi
5/02/15 8:02pm
Do any Jezzies care to share their tales of recovering from gaslighting? I could use the support.

I’m struggling to let go of a brief dating relationship/long-term close friendship. It’s been a month since I extricated myself from the situation, but I continue to wake up in the middle of the night in a panic. I’m clinging to my memory of events for fear that I’ll lose hold of reality if I forget what actually transpired.

Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Am I insane to think I can reconcile with this person?
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  Seize: it's about ethics in gossip journalismSycophant
  5/02/15 9:16pm
  WHOA WHOA WHOA. Do not reconcile with that person. You just listed a bunch of red flags all at once.
  
  I am 27 and I have been free of all friends who did not respect my new shiny boundaries for 5 years. I feel great and my life could not be better. My close friendships which survived the establishment of boundaries have prospered and I have a wonderful SO.
  
  That said, there are still some things I have noticed in the last few months that my former “best friend” did to harm my physical, sexual and emotional well-being in the years we were “best friends.” This is after 5 years of not talking to her! It is really only through thorough comparison and living your life without abuse that you can come to fully appreciate abusive behaviors which were inflicted on you.
  
  Everything you typed set of red flags for me. Gaslighting? The panic? Doubting your memory? A friendship turning romantic and then going south really really fast? This sounds really awful.
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  somethingswrongwithyouSycophant
  5/02/15 9:26pm
  Years ago i dated this person. I will call him Jerry. I had just ended a relationship of several years and still lived with my ex... which was predictably terrible. I met Jerry at a party and we hit it off immediately. He checked off all my boxes - smart, political, broad shoulders, tattoos, kind of an asshole.
  We moved in together way too fast. My living situation was shitty and we were both probably being a bit rosy-eyed about how romantic it would be to do it. Almost immediately after i moved in, the suggestions started. I should cook more. And work out more. And not smoke. And probably not drink so much. And def not smoke weed. And did i really intend to keep reading comic books forever? And maybe my friends weren’t so cool? And on and on.
  In retrospect, it’s fucking infuriating to think i went with any of this shit. Who the fuck was i?! And yet...
  Obviously it reached a breaking point and things fell apart. I ended up sleeping on a friends’ couch and feeling miserable because it was MY fault things were this way. I just needed to be all the things that HE wanted and then our relationship would be perfect. Of course, it was never OUR relationship, it was only ever HIS relationship... i just happened to be there. We were only together briefly but it took a seriously long period of time before i was really over what happened. The experience with him head fucked me hard.
  At the time it was so hard to acknowledge what was going on. I wrote and wrote and wrote and when i would go back to read what i’d written only days before, i already found myself being contradicted. I caught me lying to myself. That was what helped me most and that’s what i’d suggest to you.
  Obviously, i don’t know your situation and there are a ton of variables that could be in play but honestly, if you KNOW it was shit, you just have to give yourself time to believe that. I may not know you but i know you deserve to be treated well by the people who love you.
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SarahEmCeeMarie Lodi
5/02/15 8:05pm
Please tell me about the time you committed a serious mistake at work and didn’t get fired or have your career derailed. For the first 9 mos. or so at my job I was getting good feedback and increasing responsibilities. My boss seemed impressed and happy with my performance. Then I fucked up on a project in a way that’s not easy to fix and I can’t even figure out where exactly things went wrong (for reference, I work with numbers and this project was a study commissioned by a client). My boss (who didn’t notice the mistake either) is irate and I’m now realizing that he’s extremely impatient and harsh. He was the lead, I made a very stupid mistake that I have no good excuse for, and he is making my life a living hell trying to patch up a bullet wound with band-aids. I am mentally fatigued, trying to keep my head above water and now I am terrified to check my email and I jump when my phone rings. I am so scared I am going to get canned and have to move in with my parents or something and will not be able to get a professional job again. It’s like a confirmation that I’m not cut out for my line of work, or any line of work, and now my boss knows I’m worthless. Can you relate and did you survive?
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  Seize: it's about ethics in gossip journalismSarahEmCee
  5/02/15 8:31pm
  Girl I fucked up so many things and I straight up worked in patient care. You can’t fix that shit. One time I dispensed expired medication and a patient actually took the pills. I didn’t even realize the mistake and they’d been on them for a week and I went oh shiiiizzz I never took the expired pills out of the pharmacy.
  
  We sent that info to the number crunchers and put the patient straight on unexpired meds but I had to write up the whole event and document my retraining and my boss’s retraining and get everything signed, sealed and delivered. The patient didn’t even care but my boss gave me stinkeye for months.
  
  I ended up getting promoted and getting a 10 grand raise that year. Don’t even sweat it. If you work hard and your other evals have been good it’s no big. Just don’t make the same mistake twice.
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  PinkyDreamingSarahEmCee
  5/02/15 8:37pm
  Sarah, it sounds like your boss is the one who messed up and is scapegoating you. He should have checked the project, right? And if he were mature, he would say, damn, we should have checked the project, not blaming just you. You have learned a lot about him. I am an Old and have made a lot of mistakes at work. I am currently working for someone who would like to blame me for everything, but I tell him that projects need to be checked and that we are a team. This sounds horribly uncomfortable, and I really feel for you. I hope you can forgive yourself, and if your boss can't, you have to decide if you want to be with someone blamey. Here's the proper response from a mature boss: "Shit. Well, try to find out what we can do to fix it and we'll do it (together)." My friend says, yeah, it was a mistake, but no kitties died. I hope you can salvage what's left of the weekend. You deserve a day off!!!
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Mitch ConnorMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:45pm
Double Tom Hardy guys. DOUBLE TOM HARDY. I am excited for this.

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  fighting polish is David Schwimmer as Rob Kardashian SrMitch Connor
  5/02/15 7:51pm
  I want to see the shit out of Mad Max. Tom Hardy is one of the most watchable actors out there. POINT ME AT A BAD MOVIE HE’S MADE AND I WILL POINT TO YOU AS A LIAR
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  Mitch Connorfighting polish is David Schwimmer as Rob Kardashian Sr
  5/02/15 7:56pm
  Well, um, yeah, we can all forget about this. I think it’s the only one:
  
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anyah8sbunniesMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:54pm
So yesterday I bought a bike! Hooray! I look forward to spending a lot of time on it this summer. The last couple of weeks have been kind of shite for me.

Still looking for a full-time. Part-time retail work kinda bites. I’m hoping a couple of government and office jobs pan out. Rejection sucks. I’m so sick and tired of things not panning out.

Dating hasn’t been good. So I deleted most of my online dating profiles. I keep one, because I have a couple of friends I still talk to. I got rid of my old profile that had my first name in it and enabled the creepy old guy to stalk me online and I’ll admit I’ve been rude to a lot of the guys who’ve messaged me lately, which weirdly attracts them more?

I will just ride my bike, go to the beach in my fatkini and hang with my friends.
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  Lisasauranyah8sbunnies
  5/02/15 8:02pm
  I just bought a bike from one of my friends! It’s already getting a little too hot to ride it but I am excited to try it out. I haven’t had my own bicycle since I was a kid. Yay for bicycles!
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  anyah8sbunniesLisasaur
  5/02/15 8:05pm
  Right?! Bicycles are so much fun! I haven’t had a bike in years!
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FoxgloveTeaMarie Lodi
5/02/15 7:42pm
I wanted to know if it’s just me or if anyone else knows what I’m talking about.

I’m bi/pan/whatever and I’ve found that I’m just not attracted to most guys. Like on okcupid for instance, I only find maybe 10% attractive. I’m just talking about looks too, personality is a whole different matter. Am I just extremely picky? Or maybe my (mild) androphobia influences it a little? Women on the other hand are usually gorgeous.
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  Puddingtaine2FoxgloveTea
  5/02/15 7:52pm
  Sounds like you prefer women.
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  SarahEmCeeFoxgloveTea
  5/02/15 8:09pm
  I’m totally straight and wish I wasn’t because I come across so many women I consider attractive and only find like one in 20 men attractive. Most just aren’t good looking at all.
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