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    prestocrazymwahahahahaRebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 12:15pm

    In our 9-year relationship, we've fought three times total.

    LOLWUT. My husband and I don't fight all the time, but we fight way more than that. The downside of not being married to a troll?

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      Sadisticbeezprestocrazymwahahahaha
      8/06/14 12:19pm

      Yeah I think that's part of the problem. He lets out steam on the net because he can't release IRL. I don't care what people say, but couples who don't fight are suspicious as hell.

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      doit2julia!prestocrazymwahahahaha
      8/06/14 12:19pm

      This guy's probably taking out all the fights he's not having with her on the unsuspecting teens of Tumblr.

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    trudibell_Rebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 12:17pm

    My husband grows peppers and tomatoes tons of fucking peppers. They are "super hots" and he eats them and claims that if they are super, super spicy he gets high off them so I'm like whatever. His garden requires a lot of time and effort, and sometimes it's annoying but now I am really fucking thankful that "me time" to Mr. trudibell is burning his face off with ridiculous wrinkly ass looking peppers and not being an abusive internet troll.

    "Me time" is not "time to abuse strangers on the internet time." If I were her I'd be worried about what was bubbling under the surface.

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      doit2julia!trudibell_
      8/06/14 12:21pm

      I'd also be worried about what he'd be capable of once deprived of his "outlet."

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    SprocheteRebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 12:20pm

    I don't buy the "people on the internet aren't human so I can say what I want" argument for a minute. He enjoys the thrill of cruelty. It wouldn't be satisfying if there wasn't a real person getting hurt.

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      emfish55Sprochete
      8/06/14 12:25pm

      Word. If it's about taking out his aggression on something, he could have chosen an outlet where the people really are not human — video games, for instance. It's also telling that his targets are vulnerable people, like teenage girls looking for validation or people posting weight loss photos. Again, if he didn't view them as people, why would he seek out people who are so obviously vulnerable to this kind of abuse?

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      ItWorks!Sprochete
      8/06/14 12:30pm

      This is a good point.

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    Ari Schwartz: Dark Lord of the SnarkRebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 12:26pm

    "My husband is a nice, gentle man who is supportive and kind"

    OK, so... I seriously cannot understand how someone can have this "double life" going on with absolutely no hints of it in the daily life.

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      BZuckercornAri Schwartz: Dark Lord of the Snark
      8/06/14 12:41pm

      She's in denial.

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      kristinbytesAri Schwartz: Dark Lord of the Snark
      8/06/14 12:56pm

      Maybe he wears a very well tailored person suit.

      GIF
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    Kelly FairclothRebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 1:05pm

    his "me time"

    his "me time"

    his "me time"

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      SipowitzKelly Faircloth
      8/06/14 1:35pm

      What's wrong with that? My "me time" consists of capturing neighborhood cats and microwaving them for an hour.

      It's quite the stress reliever!

      /s

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      Harrison FjordKelly Faircloth
      8/06/14 2:13pm

      More proof that trolls aren't isolated shut-ins that are resentful and lonely - they are genuine psychopaths.

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    madmadammimRebecca "Burt" Rose
    8/06/14 12:21pm

    "He apparently chose leaving his wife over curtailing his online harassment, which is nothing short of depressing."

    I actually think that's good, because the only answer for this is D-I-V-O-R-C-E. He could have gone to counseling and jumped through the hoops, and the relationship sort of limps along as she tries to make it work for the child, and then three years later, she finds him doing the exact same shit. This is painful for her no matter what, but the longer it drags out, the worse it will be.

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      SchweepsRebecca "Burt" Rose
      8/06/14 12:20pm

      My husband and I have each know each others' reddit/gawker/etc screennames, but have agreed not to actively search anyone's post history or anything. I'll randomly come across his comments when there's a story that sounds VERY FAMILIAR and then I look at the screen name, and it's husband! We admit to each other that sometimes we get into internet fights/arguments, and it's embarrassing how short/rude we can be (which is why we agree not to read each others' post history). But I couldn't imagine stumbling upon him being an actual kill-yourself-troll (rather than the ol' run of the mill, let's go to r/mensrights and stir up some shit) and having my husband CHOOSE TROLLING. A partner who would choose trolling over marriage might be better off as an ex. I'd consider her lucky not marrying that guy.

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        lydkatbrrrSchweeps
        8/06/14 12:48pm

        Full disclosure: One of the main reasons I try to remain anonymous on Gawker media is because I don't want anyone I know in real life to see how obsessive I can get defending my opinions on here. Not that I'm embarrassed by the opinions themselves, just that I devote so much time and energy to what is probably just arguing with a troll who don't give a fuck.

        My husband knows "lydkatbrrr" is an old handle of mine, though, so if he WERE to read the comments on these articles... well, he doesn't read Gawker media anyway, much less the comments, so at least there's that.

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        ShellBeeSchweeps
        8/06/14 1:48pm

        Yeah, not only did he choose to be this horrible person online, he chose that horrible lifestyle over his wife and child.

        I mean, think about that: he chose trolling teenage girls on the internet over his unborn daughter. That's horrifying in a whole other way.

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      BLT138Rebecca "Burt" Rose
      8/06/14 1:33pm

      So I have a similar situation with my fiancé, he also suffers from trollism and specifically on political/social threads on CNN, FOX, and even Facebook where he touts his own political "correctness" and lets the opposite know all the ways in which they are wrong.

      My very vocal "feminazi ideals" often conflict with many of his political/social views. We've had arguments that resulted in hurt feelings and me having to unfriend people or being unfriended by people on Facebook. He also has it in his mind that platonic relationships don't exist unless both parties are married (see part about unfriending FB friends). So if any of my (now few) male friends agree with any of my political/social "feminazi" posts that dude must want to fuck me and an argument ensues.

      Honestly, this is the only time we argue. Aside from the political trollism aspect of his personality that pops up every time I share my two cents on Facebook, I love everything about him and we have a very happy life together. It would just be better if we could get over the trollism/jealous fits, ya know. Any suggestions?

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        Podkayne16BLT138
        8/06/14 1:39pm

        Not a therapist, not any kind of relationship expert, but what the everliving fuck? He calls your ideals feminazi ideals? He has said things mean enough to drive away your friends? He doesn't respect your ability to have platonic relationships?

        If your friend told you that her fiancé was frequently cruel, belittling, jealous and controlling, what would your advice to her be?

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        djchazzyBLT138
        8/06/14 1:44pm

        He also has it in his mind that platonic relationships don't exist unless both parties are married (see part about unfriending FB friends). So if any of my (now few) male friends agree with any of my political/social "feminazi" posts that dude must want to fuck me and an argument ensues.

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        It would just be better if we could get over the trollism/jealous fits, ya know. Any suggestions?

        This is . . . not good, and I assume you know it and are bothered by it, and thus why you asked for suggestions. . . And I actually think it won't get better if/when you are married. Like, I don't think at that point he'd be like, "phew, okay, now go re-friend all those guys who 'wanted to fuck you.'" I think it's at least possible there would be more "jealous fits" once you were "his wife," which some people (#notallmen, and not, for instance, my husband, or most women's husbands) take to mean "my belonging." Maybe your fiancé is really young and insecure and maybe he is not controlling; I don't know. But please think about getting premarital counseling, in case you ever want to talk to a man (a neighbor, the bug guy, the PTA president, your boss) without having a nagging worry about being accused of having an affair, or even confronting the seemingly more (but not really) innocuous "oh, I know you wouldn't cheat, but he wants to fuck you." That could get . . . old.

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      AphroditeBeanRebecca "Burt" Rose
      8/06/14 12:37pm

      I have a cousin who does this. He is married (although not particularly happily), has children, and grandchildren. His wife is appalled by the behavior, but he has always been a bit of a dick so no one if too surprised by it. I deleted him from my Facebook after he told me I was a vile, sick slut who made him want to puke. Also, some crap about me bringing shame to my faith. What brought that on? I posted an article that he disagreed with. Of that is how he treats family, can you imagine the stuff he is saying to strangers?

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        Jee Hyung LeeAphroditeBean
        8/06/14 12:59pm

        Wow. I feel sorry for his wife who has to actually live with this guy.

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        sydneybristow47AphroditeBean
        8/06/14 1:03pm

        I had a great uncle that talked like this- didn't mention "sluts" around us, but did talk a lot about his crazy fundie religion and went into theories about the government poisoning the water and teachers wanting to teach meditation so the devil could enter children's brains. You know, normal things.

        When looking at my grandmother's computer (his sister's) right after he had left one time, I went to history to find a website I'd visited the week before. It was all porn and searches for "xxx porn". At first I thought it was a cousin, which kinda grossed me out (dude, you're at grandmas), but then figured out that it was all when my cousins and I had been out bowling and whatnot. I didn't know what to do, so I told my grandmother, and I never had to see crazy great-uncle again.

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